I like getting thank you cards! I am impressed when I get them within 2 weeks of giving the gift!
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Honestly.... I don't care either way. I don't notice if I dont'get one so I don't think any less of the person. That being said, I'm crazy about getting my thank you cards out quickly and for any little gift I receive. I've even had a family friend tell me not to give her one for a gift she gave LO because she thinks I give her too many.
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I enjoy getting them... it's always fun getting mail that isn't just another bill!
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i enjoy getting them. i don't need them for every little thing. but things like weddings and shower i feel like it's necessary. i didn't get thank you cards for a couple of weddings and i was slightly offended~!
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I love getting them!
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I love getting them and giving them. Although all the baby gifts we've received after the birth I didn't send out a single thank you card. Oops...but hey I was busy!
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Yes. To be honest, if I don't receive a thank you for a gift (thinking big event here - i.e. wedding, baby shower) I won't send a gift in the future. I'm old school like that.
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@meredithNYC: I went to a wedding a few months ago and my dinner place card had my name on one side and the other said thank you for attending and your generous gift! Would that count for you...haha!
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Yes I like receiving them! But, I don't expect to. My MIL gets very upset when we don't send them, but I just wasn't raised that way (my mom doesn't appreciate getting them). I usually send them, but sometimes I forget and then feel bad about it for months. Getting thanks (formally) shouldn't be the point of giving a gift, but it does really matter to some.
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@meredithNYC: I totally agree. If I can take the time and money to get a thoughtful gift the recipient can write a 30 second note. I haven't received thank you notes from the last four weddings I've been to. Grrr.
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I love getting them.
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I always send a thank you card! I love going to pick out cards and love letting people know I appreciate whatever they did! Unless of course it is to an online friend, annnd I feel creepy asking for their address, *cough cough @Autumnlove* i'll be expecting an e-mail soon
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@autumnlove: Oh, hell no! I would be judging away like nobody's business.
@oliviaoblivia: Seriously?! What is happening to society (I told you I'm geriatric at heart)? I guess I am very lucky in that I have never not received a thank you note.
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@autumnlove: @oliviaoblivia: I'm with you ladies, it really bugs me when gifts go unacknowledged. Sometimes I wonder if the recipient even received them but I don't want to potentially make them feel bad by asking! I don't think I would not give a gift the next time around but I would definitely skimp.
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@Mrs. Lovejoy: To me, I don't go out and buy a gift while thinking, "I can't WAIT to receive that thank you card I'm already expecting!" It's more that I think it's rude for such things to go unacknowledged. It really doesn't take much time and it's a pretty small token of appreciation in the larger scheme of things.
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@meredithNYC: One was for a destination wedding where DH was best man. It required travel, time off work, an expensive hotel, and a BIG check (that was cashed the next day). Obviously I'm holding a grudge.
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I like getting them! I try to work hard on gifting people things that they very much need or want and I'm happy to get a note to know that my gift was well received. I also make sure to write thank you notes in a timely manner, even if it is difficult to squeeze in the time. That being said, I get kind of annoyed when I don't receive a thank you note for something like a shower/wedding. I've even had someone make mention of it like "Oh yeah, I never wrote thank you notes for my baby shower. Oh well." Good to know you remember and had the time, you just didn't feel like getting around to it.,,,
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@meredithNYC: I understand completely, and would always send a thank you card for a more formal event like a wedding or party. I just need to get better about getting it in writing for the smaller things! I always thank them verbally, but I know a card means a lot to people too.
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I like sending more than I like receiving
I love sending and writing mail s thank you notes/cards are just another way to do that! I like receiving them if they're actually written out, I am ambivalent about the ones that just say "Thanks for the X". I appreciate them too, but it's not quite the same.
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@autumnlove: That reminds me of someone I know who always sends pre-printed generic thank you cards. They are personalized with their family and pictures, but it just has "Thank you for your gift" typed out. Nothing is hand written, and the card isn't even signed. They bug me since they required just about zero effort.
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@highwire: Oooh, that would bother me if it wasn't even signed!!
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@sweetchic: They send them for every single shower/bday party/whatever. I mean I guess it is better than nothing, but please sign it at least!
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I think a text or email thank u is enough.
I have friends who always send cards though so I feel like I have to send thank you cards as well.I have to send one out.. Thanks for the reminder!
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I love to send cards for all occasions.
Personally, the only occasion I expect to receive thank you cards for is a wedding gift. I'd be annoyed if I didnt get one.
Otherwise a verbal, text, or email is fine. Cards are a nice surprise though. -
@highwire: My parents got a TY card from a wedding like that and I couldn't stop ragging on it! It annoyed me so much, and I didn't even go to the wedding!
I like to get a TY card for something that I wasn't there when they opened it-- mostly so I know they got it, like a wedding gift or something that was mailed. I do expect one for showers, since that's sort of a formal party thing, but I wouldn't really care either way. I don't expect them for birthday parties, thought my SIL always sends them "from" my nephew and I think it's cute. I follow the same guidelines-- I send them if someone mails me a gift, or for formal events, but not if someone gives me a gift in person and I say thank you right away.
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I both enjoy writing them and receiving them. I think it's nice to tell people that you appreciate not only the gift, but their time, and their thoughtfulness, and it's a nice way to touch base with them in a way that we don't really do as a society anymore.
And not to brag, but multiple people have told my mother that I write the nicest thank-you notes. ha.Like @highwire I also think the pre-printed, pre-signed cards are kind of ridiculous b/c they take next to no effort.
It also kind of bothers me that SIL & BIL don't have their kids even call and thank us for little things, like Halloween cards with a few bucks in them.
My brother and SIL make a big deal of having their son call and thank us for things like that.
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Yes! I went to a baby shower in May and I am annoyed that I still haven't gotten one.
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I kinda feel like thank you cards are a waste. I usually read them and then immediately throw them away (before even leaving the post office), so it seems like a waste of time/money to me. Having said that, I understand that it's "proper" etiquette, so I always send cards as soon as I can after receiving a gift (unless I'm really close to the person and know that a verbal thank you is enough).
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@dagret: I was not raised with sending thank you notes, but as I got older I realized there were definitely times I should, so I do plan to make our kids do it as soon as they are old enough to sign their name. I just think it is a good habit to get into.
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I definitely expect and appreciate them for things like showers, weddings and engagements. Less so for baby gifts as I know new moms are busy enough as it is.
I also expect them to be personalized. We were invited to a wedding in the summer that we couldn't attend, but we did send a generous monetary gift. We then received a pre-printed, generic thank you card in the mail that wasn't even signed by the bride or groom.......I was NOT happy.
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I like getting them! Sadly, it doesn't happen very often...I can think of 2 baby showers this year and at least 2 weddings where I didn't receive a card. I think it's so rude!
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@Foodnerd81: I also think it's a nice way to reinforce your child's relationship with your relatives, whether it's via a phone call or card. Obviously sending the kids a few bucks in the mail for Halloween isn't going to break the bank, but it is nice to at least acknowledge the card was received.
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I do!
I love sending and writing mail s thank you notes/cards are just another way to do that! I like receiving them if they're actually written out, I am ambivalent about the ones that just say "Thanks for the X". I appreciate them too, but it's not quite the same.
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