I intentionally choose not to argue about things on a regular basis.
What about you? Do you just let things go? Or do you try to address things immediately as they happen?
Sometimes this way of things comes back to bite me in the butt and make me feel like I should stand up for myself more often. But I hate confrontation, and have had such bad experiences when I attempt to stand up for myself in the past, so I have no made much headway in this department.
GOLD / wonderful grape / 20289 posts
I guess it just depends on what it is. If it's something that's seriously going to piss me off, I'll tell him. He prefers it that way so I don't keep it in and go crazy later. But if it's something little that doesn't really matter, I let it go.
pomelo / 5509 posts
I wouldn't exactly say I nitpick, since I don't point out every single little thing that bugs me. The small things that are really just my own hang-ups, I let go. But if it's something a little bigger, and it really bothers me, I bring it up immediately so we can resolve it. I'm trying to encourage SO to do the same because he hates confrontation/making people mad and he'll hold in the things that bother him until he's just in a foul mood and then he'll burst. I prefer it the other way around.
grapefruit / 4066 posts
Ugh, nitpick...it is something I am actively trying to work on. For instance, DH stays home with LO on Wednesdays while I work, and 100% guaranteed the house will be a complete train wreck when I get home, as it is every Wednesday. Every Wed we get into an argument because I get ticked at how messy the house is and I don't understand how it gets like that.
squash / 13764 posts
I tend to bite my tongue...Generally, after some time passes, I'm not upset about it anymore. I try to do this with small stuff and big stuff, but the big stuff usually comes out anyway!
nectarine / 2765 posts
I generally (or at least I hope) pick my battles. Now, if something is really bothering me I have to bring it up or else it will end up festering & blow out of proportion. Not letting it fester is something I had to work on over the years since I used to stew til it became more of an issue than it needed to be.
papaya / 10473 posts
I pick my battles very carefully... I don't utter a word about housework or errands because I know if he skips something he will get around to it, and he does the same with me.
nectarine / 2220 posts
I try not to nitpick. I'm a little bit type a and particular and realized that it wasn't fair to dh that my way and timeline for things are always "better". So I really try now to let him do things how he sees fit and just appreciate that he's doing them.
Even though sometimes... It's hard. I'm very logistically minded and often want to question his ways or make sure he's taking all pertinent (probably unimportant) details into account. But really, if things are on his time does it matter if the order that he does errands maximize efficiency by going a route that minimizes left hand turns and doubling back...
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
The only things I nitpick about are relationship type things, consideration, how he speaks to me or his parents, etc.
I do not nitpick about him not picking up his clothes, or if leaves something around for days, or etc. chore type stuff that might not be "my way." That stuff doesn't get to me.
Character related, relationship related stuff, I def nitpick and talk through until LIGHTBULB DING 
honeydew / 7586 posts
I don't nitpick but I tend to be pretty vocal if I'm upset about something. DH actually loves this about me (weird, right?!). If I hold things in I tend to build resentment. I'd much rather clear the air immediately.
coconut / 8861 posts
I'm learning to pick my battles better. Sometimes still, I nitpick or we blow up at dumb things. Lately, it's been dumb things that cause fights.
coconut / 8475 posts
I pick my battles.
For every 10-20, I let go, I'll say something about one. I'll make myself clear ad to the point and it thankfully, never falls on death ears.
When you deal with a personality like my husband's, you have to know that if you start acting out on every little thing he does, he will feel defeated. So, I try to bite my tongue whenever I can.
I actually noticed it makes for a happier me!
persimmon / 1304 posts
Slow learning curve here! I used to nitpick everything, but I am learning not to. My DH is so good to me, so I know I shouldn't sweat the small stuff! I love every part of him, even the part that can't load the dishwasher properly and takes forever to take his clothes out of the dryer. 
persimmon / 1328 posts
I am like you and tend to let things go even though they are sometimes things I probably really should say something about. Usually it is ok, but I do need to learn to stand up for myself more because I am starting to realize that I don't get much of a say in a lot of household choices anymore.
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