I had no idea these existed until recently. After an initial browse Ive stayed away because I feel bad supporting a site that is devoted to bad mouthing!
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I used to. I'm sort of over it now.
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i never knew about them until it was brought up here, now i look once in a while because i get anxious hoping i'm not one of the people being mocked. that must feel really awful
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No. Wouldn't even know where to look. That's awful. It's even snarky about people who post on here? I don't understand that kind of negativity.
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I've poked around on one site occasionally because someone on WB pointed it out, and I get curious about who their latest target is. That's the only snark site I've heard of. I prefer the niceties of a forum like this
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I read GOMI sometimes
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I didn't know they existed for a long time. I was having conflicted feelings about a blogger and she mentioned being targeted by one of those sites. I went over to take a look and found myself in a cyclone of negativity. I realized that neither the blog in question nor the snark site were worth my time anymore.
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Yep! Dlisted makes me laugh and GOMI is full of smart, funny posters. Sometimes it delves into the nasty, but in general, I think it's smart critiques of blogs.
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What exactly is a snark site? Just a place where bad mouthing happens?
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I'm a regular reader and sometimes contributor (on the members-only threads, not so much the snark threads) of GOMI. I don't really see it as being different than reading/commenting on Television Without Pity or any other sites dedicated to discussing media. Blogs are a form of media and are part of the public sphere.
There's actually a great sense of community on GOMI and some incredibly insightful, astute, witty discourse depending on where you look.
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I've read one a few times when it was mentioned here (or on WB? can't remember) and quickly realized it's not for me. But it's kind of like Amanda Bynes, in that sometimes some kind of train wreck drama erupts that makes we want to read it, but usually it's not worth my energy.
The first thing that stood out for me was that 99% of the posters were women snarking on 99% women bloggers and posters on sites like this--and the very-fake "concern for the children" BS that pops up when people are hating on every blogger who happens to be a mom. I browsed through the health blogs, the lifestyle blogs, the fashion blogs, the parent blogs...and every single blogger in any category who had children had a whole brigade of enraged posters on GOMI "concerned for the children". Oh and also "concern for the husband".
Just reeks of the same old mommy wars sexist stuff I avoid in real life.
And in the 2-3 times I browsed I noticed some off-the-rails posters who were googling WB users and finding them in real life to call their SOs or places of work, or kind of stalking blogger families and trying to find financial information. Just....creepy.
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I used to read GOMI in hopes that I'd never be on it. Then, I was actually on it one time and it bugged me so much I stopped looking. I prefer not to know that I'm being made fun of :).
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@scg00387: I
Dlisted! (Though I categorize that as celebrity gossip/news and less of a snark site.)I don't participate in blog snark sites... too much negative energy for me.
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@Anagram: <<And in the 2-3 times I browsed I noticed some off-the-rails posters who were googling WB users and finding them in real life to call their SOs or places of work, or kind of stalking blogger families and trying to find financial information. Just....creepy.>>
Exactly why I stay away from the toxicity. People claim that stuff doesn't happen, but it does and it's so creepy. I couldn't imagine if someone did that here with people's kids.
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Not regularly but on occasion, yes. They're usually hilarious and they say a lot of what I think. But, I would never post because I don't say mean things that cross my mind. I try to muffle them
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@Anagram: Not sure if you're talking about GOMI, but one of the biggest rules of GOMI is never to interfere with people's lives (e.g. No calling CPS, no reporting anything to employers/spouses), so if people were doing that they would be pretty much shunned by the rest of the GOMI community. That is not cool nor is it tolerated.
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Nope. Went on GOMI a few times to see what it was all about but everything I read felt so negative...stuff that could go toxic a little too easily for me!
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Yes. Sometimes it's nice to see other people actually saying out loud what you, and tons of other people, are thinking but are too "nice" to say. I see a lot of smart wit on GOMI; and a small percentage of nastiness/negativity.
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Yes, television without pity, Gomi (though I'm a bigger fan of smug nom), and go fug yourself, I guess I'm a snarky person sometimes! I mostly like the smart analyses I find on them on TV, blogging, and celebrities respectively.
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@heartonastring: great comment. There are some blogs that I read for the same reason I watch real housewives! Rolling my eyes, and even shouting my arm chair diagnosis to my poor husband. I think the clever folks in gomi can offer a deepening of the conversations started by superficial blog posts.
I'm not into snarking on commenters on forums, because they aren't putting themselves out there as a source of entertainment (although I'm not the snark police, just speaking personally).
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@yoursilverlining: this. I don't feel like the site I'm talking about (gomi) is very much negative (there is some of course) as it is obvious and blunt. I dono if you've seen this movie:
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@CupQuakeWalk: bahhhhh that movie.
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I browse a couple of sites on a regular basis but have never contributed
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@CupQuakeWalk:
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Not sure if Go Fug Yourself counts, since theyre making fun of celebrities... But I love it!
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@CupQuakeWalk: This!
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@beaker: I love that site too!
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I never post on them, but I check them I occasionally out of curiosity. I think they can be really inappropriate bullying sometimes, but other times they are just funny. It depends.
Weirdly though, I wouldn't care AT ALL if they snarked about me. I'd freak if they said mean things about my family, but me? Nah.
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@Anagram: I think some of the concern is justified considering that these children have had no say in what is being shared about them with the general public. I guess I think the kids (and the wider families) are entitled to their dignity and anonymity?
I do however think this is part of a wider issue in which this latest generation of children are the first to have so much of their lives shared beyond just their families and communities (and that applies to HB, Instagram, FB etc)
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I look once in awhile out of curiosity but I always am struck by how people devote time, energy and their so-called wit to badmouth other people. What a total waste. Yuck.
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There is one thread on GOMI I follow because I'm kind of fascinated by it. It's amazing how people snowball off each other. One person points out something annoying, the next thinks its terrible, the next criminal, the next psychotic. And so then the next minor greviance is viewed as a major transgression. I find it completely lacking reality and perspective and am amazed how obsessed people can become with bloggers. But I still read it because it's fascinating....
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@jedeve: You said what I was trying to say. That, exactly.
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@Kemma: I don't entirely agree, but if I were a person that were really concerned about that, I probably wouldn't frequent a site like GOMI that undeniably creates traffic for those bloggers, which keeps the whole thing going. I don't even regularly read bloggers but from the few times I have, they generally strike me as normal (imperfect) people just like the rest of us.
I'm not super new-agey but I do think on a basic level that devoting energy to negativity is just going to end up bringing myself down more. Again, whatever floats their boat to the people who want to spend their time there, it just isn't for me.
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@heartonastring: but... If there is real concern about children as many posters say, it's better to just write about it on a forum instead of calling CPS? Wha??
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I occasionally read gomi but never post on it. As @cupquakewalk: said, they usually are saying things that I'm thinking anyway but would never say. I get uncomfortable when they are just blatantly mean, but when they're calling a spade a spade, I do sometimes find it a bit amusing. I don't think I could ever bring myself to post on a site like that though.
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I read GOMI sometimes, but don't contribute. I enjoy their YHL thread, although I love Sherry and John.
I used to read one that talked about the YouTube beauty gurus, but then that young girl died of cancer and some of the things that were said were stomach turning and I stopped.
I also used to read Perez Hilton in college, but stopped long ago.
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Sometimes, but don't contribute. I more think it's crazy how much time people spend on them.
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@mamimami: I'm pretty sure CPS doesn't take calls such as, "So-and-so might be abusing his/her children - I know because I read her blog!" very seriously. Furthermore, the cases I've seen aren't cases of people admitting to physical abuse, they betray evidence of emotional abuse. And while, yes, that's terrible and I wish those children didn't have to endure it, if you know anything about CPS, you know that their caseload is such that they really can't do much in terms of intervention except in the most egregious cases.
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Sometimes! I don't read enough blogs to get really into them, though. I feel like you have to be a big social media reader/user to "get" a lot of it. I prefer just going to http://www.reddit.com/r/todayilearned/ for *useful* information. Haha.
Dlisted! (Though I categorize that as celebrity gossip/news and less of a snark site.)
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