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It's been a couple of years for me although it doesn't feel like that long. Once in awhile I do think about it and for some reason I've always had a feeling it was a girl even though I never had a feeling either way with my son. But now I am completely at peace with it because I have my son and it feels right that he is here and we wouldn't have him if we hadn't lost the first pregnancy.

I have pretty much the same feelings as @MOMTOLITTLEB, except I'm almost certain it was a boy that I lost, and the LO I have is a girl. I do still think about that baby every so often but not with pain, more just a thought about how life would have been different with a different child. When I remember that baby, I think it helps me to really appreciate having LO, even when parenting becomes challenging.

I do, but I hope and pray those pregnancies didn't work out because this one is supposed to. I just passed my first "lost" due date and my second is in March. I think my first was a girl and the second was a boy.

My due date is 1/15, so I'm thinking about it a lot right now.

It's been almost 3 years on 1/21 and every day I still wonder what it would have been like. I don't dwell on it, just wonder.

I had a chemical pregnancy when I was younger (20). Back then I was very thankful that I was not going to be an unwed mother with no support from a partner but when I struggled with IF I often wondered what would have come of that pregnancy had it been viable.

Although it's not quite the same I also had a birth mother who changed her mind and decided to parent. I often think about that little boy and his life and what it would have been like if that first placement had gone through. I can't imagine life without my kids but I still wonder about what might have been.

All the time. It's been 7 months for me, and while I am pregnant again, it still feels like yesterday. My due date for my loss is coming up next week, which means I would have had that baby by scheduled csection already. I can't stop thinking about it. Not sure I ever will. Hugs.

No, not really. It's been maybe 3 years now, and I would go through it a hundred times again to have E, because I can't imagine having anyone else.

Constantly. We lost our son, and knowing he was a boy - well, it makes it even more heartbreaking. We'll never know with our second loss since it was early, but my heart thinks that was a boy too. I think of them every day... more so because I worry that we won't be able to get pregnant again.

I do think about it every once in a while, but it no longer hurts, my Maddy girl wouldn't be here if it weren't for that. It was a very early MC for me, around 5 or 6 weeks, and it was a surprise pregnancy. That doesn't make it much easier, it was a very hard thing to go through, both physically and emotionally, we had talked about having a baby but not that soon. It's a memory now, that I think of often, I reflect, and realize how different our life would be, and how happy I am with my two girls that I probably would not have if that baby would have made it.

I think once you have a baby in your arms that you take home, your feelings will change. You won't forget, but you'll cherish the memory.

Every day. I still miss her.

After the second miscarriage, we had an autopsy done and it indicated that Trisomy 22 was probably the issue. That gave us a lot of closure, and it allowed us to reframe the miscarriage in a totally different way.

It was still tough emotionally (especially since we had heard the heartbeat!), but after that I didn't think in terms of the baby that would have been. The autopsy ended up being a huge part of our healing process, which was a big surprise to me.