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I am a Christian and I support gay marriage. I have a dear family member who is gay and has been with her partner for 7 years. Her partner is family to me. They are obviously in love and want to get married and have children. I believe that they deserve that just as much as I do.

@Leialou: "I don't think people who are gay are excluded from God's love, even if they get married." YESSSSSSSS!

@banana: this is understandable. I think it's totally normal and natural to vote based on your beliefs! (That's mainly what compromises a vote). I just think that something like gay marriage, which regards a person's basic rights, should be allowed and not need to be voted on, if that makes sense.

@Andrea: Well said : )

I support gay marriage. I voted AGAINST Amendment One (as did my county). Too bad it didn't help.

I fully support marriage equality. Marriage as an institution has been ever-changing; it is not simply “between one man and one woman”. Throughout history, marriage wasn’t always available to certain social classes, or between social classes (in Europe – not talking about strict caste systems), women didn’t have choices of marriage partners, and of course well into our recent history – interracial marriage wasn’t legal. All these relationships were between one man and one woman, and were not relationships eligible for marriage. So, to me, that’s a losing argument as the institution has never been as rigid and well defined as some want it to have been.

Also, I don’t really get or respect the argument that you should vote your beliefs regarding SSM. You can believe whatever you like, but there’s a big difference between believing something and deciding that your personal BELIEF on an issue should therefore trump someone’s LEGAL RIGHTS. You don’t have to agree with same sex relationships or personally support them in order to believe that people should be treated equally under the law.

A marriage contract is a legal document between individuals and the state. It isn’t validated by any church – you are afforded no greater or lesser set of rights if you get married in a full mass in a Catholic church, or at city hall, or at the beach. It’s a civil contract. No one is trying to force any church to marry gays – just like no one is trying to force any church to marry people who are not religious or who are of a religion differing from that of the specific church.

I don’t think the civil rights of a minority population should be up for popular vote – especially with the amount of misinformation and vitriol that is spread on this issue.

@yoursilverlining: These are fantasic observations....

So, to those who dont support gay marriage do you also not support non-religious marriages?

I absolutely, 100% support gay marriage. My stepbrother and his partner have been together more than 13years and have been legally married for 5 of them. They just recently adopted a beautiful little boy and are a wonderful family.
No one. And I mean NO ONE should have the right to tell them that their love isn't as special as the love I feel for my DH. That shouldn't be allowed, In my opinion.
I wouldn't allow anyone to tell me I couldn't marry my DH just because they didn't like it. What I do in the privacy of my own home is no one else's business.
Two men or Two women being legally married doesn't alter the sanctity of marriage anymore than the rising divorce rate does.
Being a christian ,to me ,doesn't include being judgmental of others and their choices.

@yoursilverlining: are you an attorney? very well said!

I support gay marriage.

Also, I will support my daughter no matter what, and if she turns out to be gay, I hope she is given the same right to marriage that any heterosexual couple is. No matter what her sexual preference is, I would hate for her to grow up in a world where gay people are treated as second class citizens.

Completely support gay marriage. Always have and always will.

Wow, this is one of the most civil conversations regarding gay marriage rights I've ever seen! I try not to express my views on this anymore since I have been bullied for it in the past. But I made sure to vote in the poll

Good job hb community!

@yoursilverlining: so well written!

I do. I've been close with a few gay people in my life, and I want them to be able to have what I have.

I am with the minority and I do not support gay marriage for religious reasons.

@banana: I have a question, and I mean this respectfully. And anyone can answer if you'd like - I'm genuinely curious!

In your post, you mention that you're in support of equal rights and civil union, just not gay marriage. Did I understand that correctly?

I ask because I am not religious, but I considered myself married to my husband because I am in the eyes of the law. I have a marriage, but not a religious marriage. How would a non-religious marriage between two men or two women be any different than MY non-religious marriage? Why is a civil union okay for gay people but not marriage?

I will end my post with a smiley as I hope I didn't butcher what I was trying to say and hope I remained respectful while saying it.

@banana: It's great that you can articulate your beliefs. I definitely think it helps understand the other side...

But you just brought up a question for me about reproduction and marriage. What if my partner and I decided not to have kids? Would that have been wrong in your Christian belief system too? (I'm not saying this in any kind of accusatory way, just trying to dig deeper into the beliefs)