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Did you have a c-section with LO#1? (I'm assuming you have a LO based on your last comment?)

If that is the case, I would bring it up with your OB that last delivery you really needed the 8 weeks and that your work allows 8 weeks with a doctor's note. My work is the same way, but I didn't have a C-section so I just took my stupid 6 weeks.

It doesn't make sense to me that they jumped down your throat (or so it seems.) I think if you approached it like your work allows 6 standard knowing that anything longer will get a doctor's note. I don't think any OB would shut down the idea that a C-section doesn't need 8 weeks. So I'd definitely keep asking.

I think it would just depend on the doctor. If you have a doctor who believes strongly in establishing that breastfeeding relationship or dyad or whatever they call it, to promote bonding, lactation, help prevent mood issues, etc., I bet he or she would consider it medically necessary for you to take more time.

My old company used to give 12 weeks with a doctors note (and the HR lady encouraged you to ask for it!). I don't know anyone who had a hard time getting a note and the reason was usually to promote good bonding with the child.

After they merged with a larger company (before I was pregnant) all requests were reviewed by the insurance company board and unless there were some extenuating circumstances, they typically gave 6 weeks for vaginal and 8 weeks for c-section.

8 weeks is pretty standard for a c-section. I would let your doctor know you are worried about work, and ask what they recommend for maternity leave with a c-section. I am not clear on whether this is paid or unpaid leave, but if it is unpaid, I would let the doctor know that- it makes it more clear that you aren't scheming the system and just want more time to recover.

Is there any other type of leave you can take? It'd suck to blow through sick/vacation but it would also be challenging to go back at 6 or 8 weeks pp.

It sounds like a small company, could you talk to your manager or HR? Maybe they'd be willing to work out something more flexible?

I had a c/s and physically, I could've returned to work at two or three weeks pp. I had an easy recovery but emotionally? No effing way could I have gone back before 8 weeks. Even at 13 weeks, I was still a mess. I think U.S. mat leave is a freaking joke.