This seems to be the most common complaint of toddler / preschooler parents. Everyone thinks their child is the most strong willed and stubborn child, ever. Until they talk to another parent. 
I think my 3.5 year old is sometimes strong willed / stubborn. The 14 mo is definitely more stubborn than her!
Do you think your child is stubborn and strong willed?
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pineapple / 12793 posts
I knew she was strong willed and then i started doing coop days at her school and realized she is VERY strong willed.
I was shocked by how easy going some of her classmates are.
nectarine / 2115 posts
My daughter has a stubborn streak, but she is by FAR an easy-going child. Most of our "issues" with her are your typical toddler issues.
coconut / 8279 posts
J definitely has his opinions and is a very physical/active kid but he's pretty chill for the most part.
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
Sure, I think most kids have their "things" that they are stubborn about. But I think DD1 will be more stubborn than DD2 overall (as an adult). I think a lot of DD2's stubbornness stems from her being almost 3 whereas DD1 is already 5.5 so it's more obvious what's developmental and what's just her permanent personality!
hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts
same as @autumnlove: - my kiddos have their moments. depends on what is going on 
kiwi / 545 posts
He definitely has his moments but he is also 16 mos and they are more toddler tantrums than anything. I think, for the most part, he is a pretty easy-going kid.
wonderful olive / 19353 posts
DS is pretty chill, but can be pretty stubborn/strong willed on random things.
cantaloupe / 6171 posts
She definitely has her opinions, lol. But I think it's developmentally appropriate. If she's distracted/intrigued by something else, she gives up what she's fussing for. She's easy to redirect if we catch her before she becomes fixated and worked up over something that she can't have/isn't safe/etc
pomegranate / 3604 posts
actually, lo1 is so easy going and flexible. yeah he's a toddler and he has opinions (sometimes strong ones) but for the most part he's just super easy to deal with when sh*t hits the fan or routine is off-kilter.
Lo2 ......now, he's more routine based and has stronger opinions about it but it's also his age (15 months). I'll reserve judgement until he's a bit older.
squash / 13764 posts
So strong willed. And often defiant of he doesn't get his way. Not easy going at all.
eggplant / 11824 posts
No, I think LO is pretty much very laid back and chill and rolls with it, which is also the feedback we get from her teachers. I still joke that LO got out all of her difficult-ness while she was an infant
hostess / papaya / 10219 posts
The most strong willed child ever. My mom always said that about my brother but now admits that my child is the most stubborn she's ever met. LOL He has been stubborn since birth.
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
DS is strong willed mostly driven by being a threenager.
DS2 is a pretty chill baby, we'll see how it comes to bloom in toddlerhood!
pomegranate / 3983 posts
I have one I consider easy going because even though he has his moments we can usually convince him to cooperate/do what we want/need. I have another that is SO stubborn.
papaya / 10570 posts
She's spirited (wild!) but not really stubborn. She's certainly strong willed around food and has a tendency to run off & refuse to come back, but apart from that she's easily persuaded to my will! 
GOLD / watermelon / 14076 posts
I don't think she's the most strong-willed ever, but she has her moments. I don't view it as necessarily a bad thing, though. I think strong-willed leads to being independent and a leader.
grapefruit / 4066 posts
@hilsy85: same.
My LO is so strong willed and stubborn. She doesn't listen for anything and makes me reach my breaking point each and every day. She completely exhausts me 
pomelo / 5258 posts
She seemed strong willed as a baby: colic, bottle refusal, fussy. She is a pretty easy going 2.5 yo though.
GOLD / wonderful pea / 17697 posts
He's very strong-willed, coupled with being a threenager makes me want to rip my hair out constantly. I'm seriously doubting my ability to parent two children right now. We're hoping it'll serve him well in the future, though (or at least that's what I tell myself!)
cantaloupe / 6751 posts
Nope- complete opposite. She's so chill, laid back, and easygoing. Everyone always comments on what an awesome, easygoing personality she has. Hopefully we will be As fortunate with #2
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
He's really laid back most of the time! It actually really catches me off guard if he has a legitimate tantrum or fit about something because it's not common for him.
wonderful cherry / 21504 posts
She has her moments of being very stubborn, but I know compared to most kids her age she is pretty easy. So I can't say she ISN'T stubborn, because she's two. They all are. Just less than her peers.
She was a very fussy infant so I feel like I am due these easier stage.
papaya / 10343 posts
She's capable of being stubborn but that isn't really her baseline. I mean, if she decides to engage in a battle of wills with me, honestly, she's probably going to win haha. But most of the time she's pretty chill.
pear / 1852 posts
so VERY stubborn, just like her daddy, lol. Shes more stubborn with us than other people though. People are always commenting about how well behaved she is.
cantaloupe / 6206 posts
Every daycare provider/pre-school teacher she's ever had has called her "opinionated" (euphamism for strong-willed), so I think she actually *is* more than other kids her age.
clementine / 778 posts
Nope. DS is extremely laid back and chill. He just goes with the flow. DH and I are the same exact way too.
pear / 1616 posts
for the most part she is easy going. she is independent so she wants to do everything herself (putting on her shoes, her jacket, etc). so if we try to help her when she doesn't want help she'll get upset. but other than that she is pretty chill.
ds is still young so hard to tell (15mo) but i haven't seen alot of signs of being strong willed.
cherry / 127 posts
DS is only 14 months and we've hit the terrible 2's early. He's extremely stubborn and very defiant, just like daddy!
persimmon / 1363 posts
My first is incredibly strong-willed, defiant, and stubborn and I swear she was born that way. She came out screaming like she was MAD and she has been opinionated about everything ever since. My second is the complete opposite - so laid back and easy going.
pomelo / 5628 posts
D had his moments but so far he's pretty easy to redirect and the moments are pretty few and far between, so I'd call him chill. (3yo) fingers crossed.
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