I get that my pregnancy has not been the most conducive to holistic and natural living. But I tried. Now I think we are having to part ways with this doula (#2, yes I know). Her latest comment is I think the last nail in the coffin.

She was supposed to be our birth and PP doula and things were understandably awkward when I explained that after doing some research I didn't feel comfortable breastfeeding while on a significant dose of antiepileptic drugs. They're Category D and we dodged a bullet with major birth defects, but they're still excreted into breastmilk at a higher level than other AEDs and affect growth/sleep/development. So we feel that formula would be the lesser of the two evils.

She was pretty unsupportive, and now she is saying my baby will die if I feed formula and need to do donor milk. Uh, this is not okay with me. Suggesting the donor milk once I could understand as a way to be helpful. Coming back and saying my baby will die is not.

I can handle my birth without her. And I know what is best for my baby, thanks.