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Totally in the same boat. Had a rough day yesterday and was scared about #2 arriving in DEcember! DH is out of town too!

Me too! I had the most horrible dream the other night. It gave me major anxiety and I realized that the dream was all because I don't know how I will handle everything plus another child. Ack!

@sloaneandpuffy: I think being so tired and pregnant doesn't help. Sometimes I think being pregnant is more tiring than caring for a newborn but maybe I just forgot already!

At the end of my pregnancy with DS, I started seriously questionning whether I was going to be able to handle more than one child. I told my husband we made a big mistake getting pregnant again, and he basically told me to suck it up because it was too late to change our minds, lol.

The truth is, having two kids (especially having two close together) IS hard sometimes. Especially at the beginning, I had days where I thought, "There is no way I can handle this tomorrow." But after the initial adjustment period, it beomes a lot easier and pretty soon you hardly remember life with just one baby. You guys are totally capable of doing this! You'll have hard days for sure, but the good days totally make up for those moments you struggle.

From a mama of four, you can do this. There will be tough times. There will be times when you are tired and on the brink of tears, or in tears. But you can do it. You will find the groove for your family I promise. Just remember Each new day is a start over. So when you have a rough one just go to sleep and know that the next day can be better

@sloaneandpuffy: I do not think you are a wimp at all. I actually get that a lot from my friends. Whenever they complain they look at me and say, "I shouldn't complain, I now you have so much more stress.".

I will tell you the same thing I tell them. Whether it's one kid driving you crazy or ten, the stress is real and everyone deserves to be able to vent and voice their worries.

That being said I have had plenty of freak outs in the last four years. One in particular was pretty bad. My oldest was about 18 months and my twins were 9. The 18 month old was starting the terrible twos with vigor and the twins were walking and climbing and getting into everything. I was talking to my sister (and mother of three) about his hour long fits and what to do about them. Then she started telling me about how she works it out with her husband to have some time off to relax. I was on the brink of tears jus talking to her and imagining what twenty minutes to myself would be like. As she was talking my oldest came up behind me and bit the back of my shoulder hard enough to draw blood. I yelped and told my sister I had to go. I sat on the floor in the middle of our play room and screamed at the top of my lungs. Then I had a huge crying fit for about ten minutes, (the ugly cant catch your breath kind of cry). My boys just sat quietly by my lap patting me and trying to hug me.

Not my finest mommy moment but we are human, and sometimes parenthood can get the better of us. Don't worry about the freak outs, they will happen and you and your kids will be just fine. Something that helped was I joined a mothers group. Every two weeks we meet and there is child care so you are just with other mothers. It's great and it was exactly what I needed. You jus have to find what works!