Did the birth of your LO cause family drama? Did it eventually get better? I want to hear your stories, just looking to have someone to vent with. I feel like I'm the calm, rational one and the arrival of our LO (first grandchild on both sides) is bringing up all the insecurities and frustrations that my mom and MIL have with us.

My mom has less than a week of vacation leave and has decided she must be there for the birth of her grandchild and she must hold the baby during her visit. When I very politely pointed out that she should come when she wants but babies often arrive late and she would be more guaranteed to hold the baby if she came a couple of weeks after the due date, she told me that she couldn't believe I didn't want her to be there for the birth of my baby and has refused to talk to me since. My dad says that I arrived on my due date, my brother arrived on his due date, and therefore babies arrive on their due dates. I am just picturing her being here when I'm 40 weeks pregnant upset the entire time that she cannot hold her grandchild when I don't have the energy to deal with it. I know in reality she's just frustrated that she doesn't live closer to us, which is understandable, but ugh...

My MIL meanwhile is annoyed that we have not bought a larger house - she has very strong views that she should stay with us when she visits. Um, sorry, my husband is making a major career move in a month - when I'll be 8+ months pregnant - I'm in the middle of a promotion review at work that's not at all guaranteed, and we have to prepare for the baby. Moving house has to wait. MIL slept on our floor when she came a month ago, at her absolute insistence, and has now told my husband she'll sleep on the floor again when the baby comes (but there's now a crib and glider where she was sleeping on the floor). It is not a financial issue on her end, and we'd gladly pay for her to stay somewhere comfortable nearby. Putting my foot down on this one...