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I understand and agree. Forgiveness is something that isn't for someone else . . . it's so you can let go and prevent issues/people from unnecessarily renting space in your head.

ETA: And, because all you can control is yourself. Waiting for someone to feel remorse before you forgive and move on can be a futile exercise.

Absolutely. Forgiveness is as much for the forgiver as it is the forgiven. It feels so much better to not carry that weight around.

I agree!

I agree too! For some reason I forgive really easily and am unable to hold grudges. As long as I know the person didn't mean to hurt me (and come on, who does that on purpose?!) I just let it go.

I agree, forgiveness lightens up your heart, it shouldn't be based on someone else! I do believe in forgiving not forgetting though!

I think this is an idealistic sentiment but not always realistic. For example, what if your partner has a pattern of being so stubborn that he/she refuses to ever apologize or acknowledge wrongdoing? That can be very toxic to a relationship, and I don't necessarily think the onus should be on the "wronged" one to constantly forgive and never get anything in return. I have a friend who is sort of in that type of situation and I can see how hurtful it is. Not saying that's something that is common, but I think these kinds of overarching maxims don't always make sense.

I agree without, but I don't practice it. Well I guess I practice it with people who love me and care for me and make a honest mistake.

I agree. If I dwell on someone's actions, it literally poisons my thoughts, and puts me in the worst mood... until I let it go. I don't forget though.

I just say "eff 'em" versus forgiving them. Well, for people I don't know or care much about. Forgiveness, to me, is for people who are regretful or sorry. Not assholes who don't care. Forgiving repeated bad behavior for people who aren't sorry is not my thing.