I had no idea where to put this, so I chose money, sorry if it's inappropriate!
Ok I'm not wanting to offend anyone, and I don't really know if anyone on here is also looking into fostering. Something I read today is really bugging me. I'm part of a future foster moms group and was asking whether I should buy carseats and strollers now or wait til right after I get a placement or when the timeline is. And so many people replied to go through wic and get a carseat. I might be wrong but in my state you have to show that you are not dependent on the government to get approved to be a foster parent, so why would I turn around and go on welfare?
Everyone commented that if I have children 0-5 I qualify for wic. Well I wouldn't use it unless I truly used it, but my parents would help me out if I got to that point.
Anyways am I wrong to think this is wrong? Signing up for welfare, getting $400-500 a mon from the state and then getting welfare on top of that? Like why would you take children into your home if you can't support them on your own? New mothers I know don't get monthly checks from the state, so why shouldn't 400-500 a month be enough to offset the costs of a child?
Sorry if this comes across as jumbled, that's how I am
eggplant / 11824 posts
I think maybe you are misunderstanding what they are saying (or maybe not haha).
You can’t just “sign up for welfare” in that way. I have friends who foster and they receive WIC on behalf of the foster children ONLY; they wouldn’t qualify for any assistance programs as a family (I mean, like if those kids were their bio kids they wouldn’t qualify for any aid). It’s part of the benefit package from the state, specifically for fostering. It's not "getting on welfare". Hope this makes sense.
clementine / 961 posts
I'm a foster Mom so I have some experience with this. WIC is provided to all foster children under five. In most cases a carseat will be provided when a child is placed with you and then if the child is moved the carseat would go with them. The provided carseat is usually very basic (the cheapest option). WIC is helpful because formula is expensive. We have used it for formula.
coconut / 8305 posts
Like both the pp have said, it's completely for & based upon the foster child being in your home & isn't about "you" qualifying.
I have a cousin that her & her husband were foster parents and ultimately adopted some of the children they fostered. I do know that despite wanting to, they didn't adopt one of them b/c the medical needs she had required them to need the state benefits package that came with her being fostered and they would lose it if she were adopted. She's an adult now and still calls my cousin her parents & sees them as her family regardless of them having legally adopted her or not.
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
You are not going on welfare, you are taking advantage of the benefits provided to foster children. Without the special needs stipend, someone close to me would not have been able to provide her foster child (now daughter) with the services she needed. It's not for you, it's for the child! They also get medicaid, a stipend, and sometimes additional moneys for sports they do or other special needs they may have.
If you follow all the links on this site, it should answer most of your questions:
blogger / nectarine / 2010 posts
@Mrs. Jacks: ditto Mrs. Jacks. My parents fostered my brothers before adopting, and those programs were for the boys, not for my parents. It's not about taking advantage of anything.
hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts
Agreed with PPs. My parents fostered my sister before adopting her and she had WIC & healthcare. WIC isn't welfare, either, as a side note.
watermelon / 14206 posts
WIC isn't welfare...it's food. And ditto everyone above. It's for the kids, since even though they're under your roof, they're still under state assistance. I think some states also help provide medical insurance for these children, too, until you adopt them.
honeydew / 7589 posts
First of all, WIC isn't welfare. And besides that, the assistance they provide is for the CHILD, not for you.
There are many wonderful families who love and care for foster children but perhaps could not afford specialty formulas and complicated medical care required for many foster kids, and WIC covers those expenses for the child so that they can go to a loving home regardless of whether the foster parent has a lot of money.
"Like why would you take children into your home if you can't support them on your own?"
Because finances are not the only aspect of a good home. Foster families are scarce, not many people feel they can take on the emotional and physical toll of becoming foster parents. If a little extra help to cover the expenses of the children makes it possible for more families to care for more children, don't you think that's a good thing?
eggplant / 11716 posts
I also think the amount a foster family gets in WIC food and the supplement is not enough to cover the cost of a child, so they are definitely using their own money as well. I'm sure it depends on the state, but in Texas where I used to live, the supplement is $450 a month.
One of my teacher friends was a foster parent for kids who were temporary, and had no chance of adoption (sometimes they are harder to place). Sometimes she would have them just a few months, until the courts allowed their parents to take them back, sometimes she would have them longer.
But since she would take any age up to 8th grade, sometimes she would have young ones that needed day care while she was at work, and although she had support from her retired parents (her mom would watch her foster kid a couple times a week, she still had to pay for daycare the other days, and that's probably that whole stipend right there, nevermind clothes or other items they might need.
I'm guessing there aren't enough well-off, two parents familes with stay-at-home moms that want to be foster parents--because she was definitely in demand enough to always have a foster kid.
More importantly, she was really good at it, too! She would get them tutors, work hard to get them caught up to grade level in the development, get them involved in activites/clubs. I kinda want to be like her.
papaya / 10473 posts
Echoing what all the other PPs said.
And I just want to say, as somebody who works on the red tape/social work side of foster care, it is awesome that you are interested in getting involved in the foster system! I love seeing my program's LOs be placed in a loving foster home.
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
@Anagram: she sounds awesome!