A fairly close relative of DH's passed away yesterday and there will be services for him on Monday. There will be a funeral at the funeral home, then a service at the church, and then interment at the grave site. I imagine there will also be some kind of family gathering afterwards.

We have an 8.5 month old that his family adores, so I'd like to bring him, but I'm not sure what events would be appropriate. It'll also be a really long day, starting with the funeral at 9am. I feel like the funeral and interment aren't really baby-appropriate but if there's a family gathering afterwards I think they'll expect him to be there. So I can either show up later in the day with the baby and miss certain things, or I can bring DS to all of, which could be a bad idea. And it's too far away to attend the funeral, then pick him up at daycare and go back to the family events.

Any thoughts?