Hi ladies, we've been thinking about TTC for some months now and probably will begin in April. Now that it's just a few months away I'm starting to get cold feet. Having a child is something I've always wanted and couldn't wait to start but now I'm scared of how it will change DH's and my relationship and life in general. I'm turning 32 early next year and really feel that we shouldn't put it off much longer...any one else feel this way. Are you ever really ready?
squash / 13764 posts
In a word: NO! Lol I don't think there's ever a way to be really ready and really prepare. It will change your life regardless of when you have a baby. I would say just keep open communication lines with your DH and make sure yo'ure on the same page. I felt super ready to have a baby and then when I got my BFP I freaked out. It took time to get used to the idea, and then I freaked out againn when LO was born. He's now 3 months old and I finally feel like I sometimes have the hang of this parenting thing
cantaloupe / 6206 posts
No. We just decided it was time. It "helped" we didn't get pregnant for 6 months because every month of no positive test made us want it more!
persimmon / 1491 posts
@cmbknyc: you are me 1 year ago, and right now I wish we could have started earlier. We got pregnant on our first cycle and miscarried a few weeks later. I just wish we would have started trying sooner.
GOLD / papaya / 10166 posts
I thought I was, but holy cow! I never expected this. It's amazing, wonderful and scary all at the same time and I would never change it for the world! You're never really ready. The only advice I can give you is to make absolutely sure you and your husband have great communication, because, not only is it key to a great marriage, it makes things SO much easier once your child is here. Good luck!!!!
GOLD / watermelon / 14076 posts
I don't think you're ever really ready. I have dreamed about being a mom since I was 12, and when we finally pulled the goalie I was scared shitless. Now that I am pregnant, I am still scared but also really excited! I don't know if the fear will ever go away because I'll probably always worry about this little bean for the rest of its life. But hopefully the excitement won't go away either!
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
I am 31 weeks and still not sure we are ready. I don't think anyone is ever 100% ready, just have to bite the bullet and pull the trigger. We were both ready to start trying but at the same time, scared to start. Since getting pregnant, I have been the one freaking out more about being ready then DH.
grapefruit / 4311 posts
It's scary!! I really thought it was time, then every time we BD on fertile days, I got scared that we were getting in over our heads! It's completely a leap of faith!
wonderful grape / 20453 posts
^ Yep, it's a leap of faith
bananas / 9229 posts
I was definitely nervous when we were talking about it but not trying yet. But, ironically, when the time came to really try, the nerves went away and I became excited! Granted it's only our first cycle and that could change
GOLD / wonderful pea / 17697 posts
Well, we tried to get pregnant for over a year before we got our sticky baby, and even so I nearly had a panic attack in the bathroom when the second line showed up. Definitely hyperventilated for a minute.
I don't think you can ever be really ready. It is absolutely life-changing, and it's not easy. My marriage is definitely different, but not in a bad way. And like @runnerd: said, it's a total leap of faith.
kiwi / 630 posts
Thanks ladies! Everyone's advice and insight is super helpful...I appreciate it
@mrscastro: thank you for being so honest and fingers crossed that it will happen again for you soon!
wonderful olive / 19353 posts
Nope! I don't think anyone is ever fully ready. Even if they think they are, we all have freak out moments as the due date approaches. As long as you have all your ducks in a row in regards to your life and are mentally prepared for a child then I'd say you're good.
kiwi / 630 posts
@alivoo01: Thanks! Yep, everything is in order, I guess i just need to jump in!