Anyone used the suggestions in this book? Is it as awesome as it's hyped up to be? We're almost at the 1 year mark and trying to read ahead!
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It wasn't great for our first daughter because she felt demeaned by the technique.
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I tried it for a few weeks while LO was going through a rough patch around 12 months and I could never really get into it. I liked the ideas but I felt sort of silly implementing it. Then LO started behaving better and I kind of let it go.
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It didn't really work for us. That being said, I do know many people who it HAS worked for. I think it just depends on your child's personality.
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Didn't work for us, it just depends on your child's personality.
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It worked really well from about 14 months to 10 or 20 months, at which point we didn't really need it anymore. I liked it, though, and was glad to have the resource. We used what worked for our guy and skipped what didn't, as you do with any technique.
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I read it and didn't try the technique. My daughter had/has good verbal skills and I thought it was a little degrading and discouraged proper speech. It DID make me think a bit about words I used with her though (choosing words she understood).
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I haven't read it so I can't comment on the original post, but can someone give me a quick summary of what the "technique" is? I'm really curious!
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I think the whole validation principle really works for us, but DD is pretty sensitive and I think felt more insulted by his actual technique. But his patience lesson really worked for us!
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What's the technique?
I've been reading Love & Logic but...damn, my toddler is cray cray sometimes.
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@blackbird: @.twist.: I haven't read the book. I'm trying to decide whether or not to read it, so I hope someone explains it to us!
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@.twist.: @blackbird: @Leah:
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I bought the book about a month ago, but I've only read about half of it. I'm having a hard time actually thinking that I'll use the techniques and that B would respond to that.
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@Leah: Oh god it's the cavespeak thing! I have to admit, we tried it once because DH and I thought it was hilarious in a stupid way, and it freaking WORKED that night. She looked at us like, "yes, you get it". But we just...couldn't keep doing it. It felt ridiculous. But i appreciate the concept of not using too many words in general.....I do think we can over explain with kids, but....oye. I feel really stupid doing it LOL
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Happiest baby on the block with the miracle book for us so we bought the happiest toddler on the block. It didn't work as well for us as Love and logic. I would definitely suggest getting love and logic books.
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You get over the feeling silly thing when it works over and over! I have found it really useful.
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I just got it on my kindle from the library. It's working for my friend and her 19 month old, from what ican see. Hoping it helps a little.
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@MrsB2012: Thanks! I might try it.
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I've had a lot of success with it. I think the key is to really be expressive.:)
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@blackbird: oh man! DH can't wait to use this approach, being super expressive like @Baby Boy Mom: suggests, in the grocery store! I will pretend that I don't know either of them.
It seems to have helped a lot of families. I will give it a read I think, or better yet, I'll get the DVD.
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@Leah: Yea, I think the video above kind of says it all. Not sure why you'd need to spend any more money on it. I probably won't do this in public, unless it has insanely positive results and my child turns into a saint.
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@.twist.:
thanks!
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@Leah: yeah we laughed but if it works?! I give no fucks lol! Good luck!! I got the book from the library!
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@Leah: yes! I just used it in the grocery store today! We seriously went from major breakdown over wanting to eat an oranges at.that.second to laughing and "racing" down the aisle in about a minute!
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@Baby Boy Mom: can you give an example of how you used it? That's what I find the hard part. Would you say like "oranges, oranges, I want oranges now. Now. We can't have oranges now." ?
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i have this book but haven't read it yet. i am curious to start now.
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@MrsB2012: I think I said "LO wants orange! LO wants orange!", then pause as he looks at me, then "LO wants orange and you can have it after we pay. Let's race to the eggs!" I believe he was then whimpering "orange, orange". So I told him "don't worry the oranges are going to be right here while we race to the eggs. Ready, set, go!". I know my kids can't resist a race though!
and he is 2 now so can tolerate a little bit longer explanation.
ETA: I probably repeated myself a few more times- "orange after pay" after the initial sentence. And just as important is the delivery, so I got down to his level and faced him. -
@Baby Boy Mom: My kid responds well to repeating, too! Especially in as few of words as possible.
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@blackbird: yup! At this point I just do it without a second thought! Sometimes I tell DH at the end of the day that I'm tired from talking.
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I have this book on hold at the library but I haven't gotten it yet. I have tried toddlerese half-heartedly but feel so stupid. Today I have committed 100% to it, and y'all, it works. It has been especially good with dealing with boob-mongering! All these damn snow days mean my daughter and I are together a lot more than usual and she keeps asking to nurse. I have been responding, "Nurse! Nurse! Nurse! You want to nurse!" really emphatically. She actually stops whining and looks at me and then I say, "But we're going to {other thing} right now." And she goes along with it!
thanks!
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