My husband and I are brutally honest with each other. After vaginally delivering, pushing for 2 hours and having 3rd degree tears, I knew my va-jay-jay couldn't be the same.
I asked my husband and he confirmed that things definitely felt different.
I've been doing kegels whenever I remember to.. things are tightening up down there, but I'm not sure I'll ever get back to pre-baby tightness.
Oh well. Sex is great so I guess that's all that matters? heh.
Have you and your husband talked about this?