Expect nothing.
That's mine! Helps me everyday 
Do you have any sayings or philosophies that help you?
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Whatever it takes!
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"Parenting is throwing everything against a wall and hoping something sticks". I'm paraphrasing from...someone, I'm sure!
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Not a parent yet, but I once read on here someone asking "do you want to be right or do you want to be married" - we talk a lot about taking that approach in the future if/when we struggle with making parenting decisions.
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Pick your battles!
I have learned that I cant fight with my kids over every single thing so if its not harmful I usually just let them do it!
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"breathe" and "this too shall pass"
Two things I repeat in my head if we are having a tough day!
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Not really but my midwife told me the other day while I was worrying about parenting two kids that there is no such thing as 200%. I will be reminding myself of that often! I can't double myself for two kids and it will be ok...they will still be loved and taken care of
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'You're going to miss this'
That phrase is in a country song, and I love it. When it's a rough day, I just think that to myself and it makes me appreciate how much I love all the good things that are also happening, and it helps calm me down
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"Breathe" I have to tell myself this when I get a little worked up or lose my patience. And "it's not a big deal" aka spills/messes/accidents/ect. It's not a big deal.
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I don't look out/expect issues (minor ones) and I don't follow things like wonder weeks or expected regression calendars.
"Just let it go"
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@Mamaof2: that's what I was going to say. You gotta let them make the little decisions for themselves at some point.
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"Never put off anything that will take you a minute or less to do" - From the book The Happiness Project.
I use that ALL the time now, in my parenting, in my job, my in taking care of my home and my husband..if I can do it in a minute or less, why would I put it off, to eventually spend more time dreading it, thinking about it, trying to remember to do it and then finally doing it than I would have spent if I just did it to begin with.
"Chill out".
I am always so stressed off and pissed off about things that LO does/DH doesn't do, etc.. I have to remember to CHILL the eff OUT. It's not that serious, it's not being done to me on purpose, it's not their fault/my fault. Chill out. -
I save "no" for when I really mean it.
If he wants to dump out every bin of toys, fine but then he has to help me clean them up.
But If I say no to touching the outlet or slapping he know I really mean it.
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@Mrs. Jump Rope: this is what my mom always says, too! Good mottos, except when you don't want to be calm
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"This too shall pass!"
I also say, "you're gonna miss this" (for good AND bad) quite often.
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A few things I tell myself all the time:
* re: parenting as a couple and staying married: "I like you. I love you. I trust you. Neither of us has any clue what we are doing, so I respect your way."
* re: letting things go: "Treat each child as if s/he is your third."
* re: playtime and finding the time to get done all of the millions of things that need to get done: "When my daughter looks back on her childhood, I want her to remember playing on the floor with her mama and silly songs and impromptu games, not that her mother was stressed about getting dinner on the table or emptying the dishwasher."
* re: work schedules (both DH and I) and finding balance: "No ever dies saying they wish they had worked more."
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It is what it is!
eta: It's not necessarily a saying, but, I try to be fully present when I'm with them since I'll never get this time back. I don't want to be so rushed that I don't savor the sweet moments.
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These are great!
I have to remind myself not to take things personally (that lo has a mind of her own) and also to forgive myself too if I am crabby- that I am human too.
@swurlygurl: yes! It is such a short time, it helps to remember that.
I remind myself I am doing the best that I can too- if I survived a crap childhood and lived on chocolate candy lo can't be too bad off
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I love this thread! Such great things to remember
- Be present and be patient
- The days are long but the years are short
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"trust your instincts, you know your baby better than anyone"
I read so much on the internet and get advice from so many, all of which I'm grateful for but I try to listen to my maternal instincts and my baby above all. When he was a newborn I was overwhelmed with all the "how to's" when I finally let go and did what felt right, everything fell into place.
@MrsF: 'The days are long but the years are short' this too! My DS gets up sometimes in the middle of the night, or doesn't want to sleep in his crib and honestly, I'll take all the snuggles now because I know they won't be for always.
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"The only way out is through."- someone on here said this and it really hit a nerve when LO was going through a really difficult phase. Once we got through it and she was my sweet little baby again, I realized how true it is.
Related, "Everything is a phase." The good stuff and the bad stuff, it's all just a phase, so when it's tough, I remember it won't last forever, and when it's wonderful, I try to really savor it because that won't last forever either.
@rachiecakes: "trust your instincts, you know your baby better than anyone"
So true, and so easy to remember when things are going well, yet so hard to remember during the more trying times! -
"Shit happens"
"at least he's alive"
"let it go"
"this could be worse"
"be prepared for anything"
"the days are long but, the years short"
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A blogger on here said, "there is nothing I can't clean up." Helps me during lo's poop attacks!
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Well my Mother once told me that "if you think you're going to win a battle against a baby, you're wrong!" which I need to remind myself every now and then!
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”don't wish it away”
Sometimes I'm so eager for the next phase or milestone, but it's really important to remind myself to be in the present moment, because everything goes so fast, and I'll never have this baby again. -
"Serenity NOW!!"
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