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I've never had a very close friend pass away, but throughout my 4 years of high school several of my classmates died. I grew up in a very rural area where ATVs (4-wheelers) are very very popular and I've known SIX teenagers who lost their lives on one, ages varying from 13 - 17. It's devastating. There were a few car accidents as well. One of the girls I knew well, and years after her death her mom still writes on her Facebook page every single day. It's so heartbreaking.

A year ago my brother-in-law passed away in a freak accident at home, he was only 19. I feel like I remember every detail of that day like it was yesterday, and I'll probably never forget.

You're right, no parent should ever have to bury their child.

A college friend developed schizophrenia a few years after graduation and then committed suicide. She didn't tell anyone she had been diagnosed, but I suspected because her behavior suddenly became so bizarre and she had always been such a level-headed friend. I was heartbroken when I found out.

I lost a friend to leukemia as a child - he was seven, I was nine. It's always especially painful when someone dies far before their time. I'm sorry you are having to go through this. *hugs*

I had a friend die in a car crash by being hit by a drunk driver 5 years ago in April..she was 19. I had another friend commit suicide this past December at age 25.

We had a family friend die at the young age of 16. He was a passenger in a vehicle. The driver, his best friend, just got his licence and stole his parents car for a joyride and crashed it. He walked away unharmed. Life is funny.

I've lost 2 close friends. Both were during college.

One had turned 21, then made the drunken mistake of riding home with his cousin who was driving and also heavily intoxicated. They hit a tree and my friend was killed instantly. His cousin didn't have a scratch. He now has to live every day knowing he was part of the reason his cousin (and best friend) is dead.

The other good friend had cystic fibrosis, so we knew it was coming for years. It was still very sad. Her parents adopted special needs children, so they always knew it was a likely outcome, as well.

My friend's husband was found dead while one a business trip to Boston in February. He apparently drowned but they don't know how he ended up in the water. The heartbreaking part is that they were newlyweds and were only married 4 months. It's been pretty devastating for all of us.

My husband's best friend died at 30. He had a brain tumor that was causing headaches. The doctors found it, he went to John's Hopkins, had it removed and all was well for a few days. Then, he got a blood clot in a void they left. He died 6 days later. It was an awful time for my husband. His friend that died was one of the greatest people I have ever met in my entire life. Our world was a better place with him in it. It makes no sense to lose people like him.

I had a friend commit suicide when I was a senior in high school, he was 15. I would pick him and another friend up for school every morning, and just remember being told we didn't need to get him that day because he had called to tell her he wasn't feeling well.

Had a friend who, at 16, was in a car and thrown out, died instantly, because the driver was trying to avoid a drunk driver driving on the wrong side of the highway. So so so sad.

I remember in hs, a friends sister got hit by a car...she was about 2-3 years younger. Turns out we saw the accident (that someone was hit), but I didn't realize it was friends sister until word of mouth and it was on the news....

I haven't had any close friends die, but my senior year of high school I had two acquaintances die within a week of each other, both in car accidents.

DH lost one of his best friends from the Army 3 years ago...he was a police officer who died in a car crash caused by a high-speed chase.

Then 2 years ago this summer, a few days after we got engaged, one of his very very best friends from junior high died in a rock-climbing accident. He was (very stupidly) free-climbing (no ropes or safety equipment) a rock wall of a gorge, his hands slipped, and he fell about 150 onto a rock bed. DH is still upset about it.

Driving back from NY after the funeral, we made a deal: I can't stop him from doing dangerous things (DH is a skier, and a rock climber, those kinds of "dangerous" things), but he had to be safe about it...aka if he was going to have sex with a prostitute, he needed to wear a condom. (Not that he would have sex with a prostitute, it was just the most clear-cut, easy to understand scenario I could come up with right then). I didn't want him taking dumb risks while doing something not entirely safe.

I had a friend from college pass away after a 2nd bout of breast cancer that spread to the rest of her body. All before she turned 30... Very sad! We weren't close at all, so I never got a chance to ask her how she found it at such a young age. I know she would have been happy to tell anyone if it would help save another life.