Tonight is our first night of sleep training. DH is feeding E his bottle now and I'm sitting here...in terror. Elliot is VERY stubborn and I don't see this being a cry for 15 (or even 30) minutes and fall asleep thing 
Ahhhhh. I've been putting this off for quite awhile so it's ready to dive in.
Wish us luck! Any tips from people going through it now too?
pomegranate / 3917 posts
We've set Thursday as our go date, and I think C is in the terror long cry group and it's going to be awful. I hope E surprises you, and it's not too hard on you, good luck.
GOLD / wonderful pea / 17697 posts
Good luck! FWIW I thought the same thing about E. It was hard but didn't take nearly as long as we feared it would. Just remember how important it is for him to be able to put himself to sleep.
persimmon / 1147 posts
I hope it went ok! We are in the middle of re-sleep training our LO who is also very stubborn. Yesterday she was all out crying hysterics for almost an hour it was awful! Today was 25 minutes and only half of which was hysterical so I call that progress! Hopefully you can seem some progress with your little guy!
coconut / 8861 posts
We're on day 6 of CIO. He regressed a bit and took an hour to fall asleep and get comfortable. I'm blaming teething on this one. For us, progress is slow. Both of us silently cheer him on to settle himself to sleep.
coconut / 8681 posts
@78h2o: Thanks!
@Beebug: Eeee good luck to you too!
@FutureMrsMcK: Thank you, that's what I keep trying to remind myself. He doesn't even remotely put himself to sleep so he definitely needs it.
@autumn865: That's amazing progress! It gives me hope!
@cascademom: Has it gotten better day by day?
4 minutes of screaming so far...
GOLD / wonderful pea / 17697 posts
@Running Elley: The first night was definitely the hardest... I sat outside his door and watched him on the monitor and cried. The second night was easier--for all of us. Hang in there Mama!
coconut / 8681 posts
@FutureMrsMcK: He's doing his little crying so hard he sounds like he's choking/gasping thing and it's horrible
nectarine / 2132 posts
good luck! my dh works nights and i had to sleep train by myself... it was literally the hardest thing i've done as a parent. it's so worth it now, though!
coconut / 8681 posts
@jmarionsmith: Oh my gosh, you are so strong! I definitely would've caved by now if it was just me.
@FutureMrsMcK: 50 minutes and he's going strong I just feel so bad for him! I went in at 30 minutes and put his paci in but he got SO angry when I went to leave again Poor baby!
nectarine / 2132 posts
@Running Elley: our first night of sleep training LO went an hour. but i promise he eventually fell asleep! i found out that he was the type of baby that checking on him just made him more upset.
pomegranate / 3204 posts
I feel for you!! When we first sleep trained at 5.5 months it was awful, and he cried for 1.5 hours the first night and never fell asleep on his own. We are currently sleep training again (11 months) and it's going surprisingly well. Good luck!
coconut / 8681 posts
It took an hour and 3 minutes but he just fell asleep! Thank. God. What a fighter we have.
@jmarionsmith: Yeah, i definitely don't think my check helped at all. I won't be doing that again. It looks like extinction is the way to go for us.
@mrsaudi: I'm so glad to hear that it's going better! Good luck to you too 
cantaloupe / 6630 posts
Aw well done for staying strong! Sorry it was so hard but hopefully tomorrow will be easier!
hostess / papaya / 10540 posts
My only tip is to stay strong, that's what worked well for us. Best of luck and hopefully things will go even better tomorrow!
pineapple / 12234 posts
@Running Elley: oh man! It gets better!! I know, it's SO hard to hear though!
squash / 13764 posts
Good luck mama! I sympathize--listening to LO cry like that was the most painful thing ever, and especially seeing his little swollen, red face...I'd rather go through childbirth again. I hope it gets better!
coconut / 8861 posts
@Running Elley: It's slowly gotten better. I think by the end of this week and maybe next week it'll be less of a fight with him. He sleeps great once he's settled and comfortable. The lovey really helps so he can nom on it's head and relax. We're doing extinction, so no visits in there. He ramps up too, so it's best if we don't go in there.
bananas / 9357 posts
@Running Elley: Hope it gets easier from here. How did the rest of the night go?
coconut / 8681 posts
@mrskc: I was just getting ready to come back and post
Okay, so it was a long night. LO woke up at all of the times that he normally does, definitely reinforcing my suspicion that he's just waking up out of habit. The good news is that he did eventually put himself back to sleep every time. The bad news is that at times it took quite a while.
7:00- bedtime routine (bath, swaddle with arms free, bottle)
7:43-8:46 CIO. I went in to check and replace paci at the half hour mark but it made things worse so we decided no more checks.
8:46- asleep
11:23-11:41 CIO 18 minutes
11:41- asleep
11:47-12:06 CIO/fussed 19 minutes. This time he'd stop fussing or crying for intervals of time (at one point up to almost 2 minutes) and then let out a wail, fuss, quiet again, etc. It was different than the screaming/wailing earlier in the night.
12:06- asleep
2:15- fed E 4 oz. He fell asleep eating the bottle, I burped him and put him back in the crib lightly asleep. Wiggled around but quickly settled in.
5:23-5:42 CIO/fussed 19 minutes (with points of silence like last time)
5:42- asleep
6:30- fed E 2 oz. Was planning on feeding 4 but he stopped sucking and took paci instead. Put him back into his crib awake (eyes wide open staring up at me- it was sooooo hard!) and he fell asleep without even fussing!!!!!!!
6:38- asleep
Its now 8:37 and he's still sleeping!
It looks like a really rough night but I actually have a lot of hope today. I could tell that once E realized that we weren't going to come get him after every little single wail the crying changed and he was trying to go to sleep. He almost never goes to sleep without major assistance (eating or bouncing at a very large level) so I'm really proud of him today!
grapefruit / 4066 posts
@Running Elley: awesome job mama!! im sure it had to be soooo hard to hear him cry but that looks like a pretty successful night! question for ya- when you fed him at 2:15 and 6:30, did he wake up at those times or did you wake him up to eat? How did you determine what cries to feed him and what ones to let CIO? this is what i am having trouble with right now...
bananas / 9357 posts
@Running Elley: That sounds pretty successful! He was able to put himself to sleep with out crying! I don't know how you got thru that first hour tho. I would have caved.
pomegranate / 3917 posts
@Running Elley: You made it through night one, my goodness! Thank-you for posting your log of the night, I am definitely going to show to DH to give us motivation (strength!!) to give it a go later this week.
Question, what time is his usual wake time in the morning?
C usually sleeps 7 to 7 (ish on both ends) so was just wondering if the 8:37 still sleeping was norm (if yes, amazing and I am envious!) or was a little later than normal
I really do think C is habitually waking and this would really benefit her.....and me at this point, thank you for some motivation!
grapefruit / 4187 posts
Congrats, it already sounds like a huge success!! I'm just wondering, how old is your LO? I feel like I will want to do this before going back to work, but I'm not sure if it will be considered too soon.
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
@Running Elley: great job mama and great job e!!! progress!
grapefruit / 4671 posts
@Running Elley: It sounds like a very successful night! The fact that teh middle of teh night wake ups were for less than 20 mins is amazing. It will get so much better. In a couple of weeks you will look back and wonder why you feared doing this at all!
coconut / 8681 posts
@NovBaby1112: Regarding the feeding we set a specific time. Since he last ate at 7:30 and we know that he can AT LEAST go 5 hours without eating (and more- he's a big boy) we decided that if he woke up before 2 we'd let him CIO. At the first waking after 2 we'd feed him! I shouldn't have fed him at 6:30 and I won't be doing it again. He wasn't really hungry so when I offered the paci after 2 oz. he took it fine. If he's really hungry he'll reject the paci.
@mrskc: That part was really hard! We turned the sound on the monitor down so I couldn't hear the screaming and DH held it to listen for any problems. We watched a show. I was uptight the entire time and completely on edge but we survived!
@Beebug: You can do it!! I'm interested to hear how it goes for you with C! Elliot definitely does not usually sleep in as late as he did today (he woke up at 9:15!!!!!!!!). He's a between 7:30 and 8 waker...which is still pretty good I think he wore himself out.
@Modern Daisy: He's 5.5 months old. We followed the age recommendations that Mrs. Bee posted for sleep training. We would've trained between 3 and 4 months but E was really gassy and uncomfortable and we weren't ready. It's not recommended that you sleep train between 4 and 5.5 months because of all the developmental/sleep issues. Soooo we waited until 5.5
@mrsjyw: Thanks lady!!
@plantains: Thank you!!! I really hope it does! I was really excited about the less than 20 minute intervals
grapefruit / 4066 posts
@Running Elley: ahh ok thanks, that makes sense! i hope tonight goes even better for you!
kiwi / 643 posts
So glad to hear it went so well! Good for you, Mama! It will only get easier, I hope
bananas / 9357 posts
@Running Elley: Yay! So glad you didn't have to endure another hour of crying tonight!!!!
coconut / 8681 posts
@mrbee: I'm really hoping it's not just a fluke! We shall see
@mrskc: Me too. I was really dreading it.
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