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It wasn't just one conversation for us. There were a bunch of smaller ones. I have had some health issues, and most of the females in my family have had problems getting pregnant/staying pregnant, I figured (correctly) that it would take awhile. we're both 28 now (27 when we started trying) and we want the option of having 3 LOs before I'm 35. So we stopped preventing before we were even married.

I think you have some very good reasons to bump up your timeline! Sounds like he was receptive to what you were saying and didn't immediately freak out, so I think it went well hopefully he'll let you know his thoughts soon. Good luck!

Hubby and I had been talking about having a baby for a long time. We both knew that we wanted another child at some point. I am 23 Hubby is 39 so his age was a factor in our timing. I was a runner before getting pregnant and wanted to run a marathon in Washington DC this October so we had planned on waiting till after that. As the months passed I just couldn't wait to start trying. We briefly talked about trying sooner then just kind of went for it and got pregnant on the first month of trying. Now I will be having a baby in October instead of running a marathon :). We have always had a very open conversation regarding children so that really helped us both feel comfortable and confident in speaking with each other about our wants and fears.

Yeah, I don't think I have any advice for you. After Hubs and I got married and were on our honeymoon, we talked about when we wanted kids, and we agreed on when we were 28 (we were 25 at the time). I really started having baby-fever at 26, but I had this huge Vegas trip planned already for right before my 28th birthday, so we just agreed to wait. I kept saying "When I come back from Vegas, it's BABY TIME!" and he'd roll his eyes at me and ignore me. Well, after I came back from Vegas, I said "I'm going off the pill!" and we just started trying.

I don't know your husband, but is he the kind of guy that when he says he'll think about something, he'll get back to you soon? My husband isn't like that - I would have to keep bringing it up in order to get an answer. So you may have to do the same, depending on your husband. Give him a couple days, and then bring it up again. Maybe point out how long it can take to get pregnant, and that if you start trying now, you may end up having to wait until after his treatment anyway - trying is no guarantee you'll get pregnant right away. Point out that you feel ready and that you think he'll be ready too, and that even if you DO get pregnant right away, you still have nine months to prepare.

Good luck to you!

We changed our timeline, we just started TTCing a few months before we originally planned. We didn't discuss it too much, my husband doesn't believe in worrying about things you can't control, so no matter how I tried to present the information about being less successful with age, he wouldn't budge. For him, it was an emotional trigger that caused him to change his mind.

we changed our timeline by a year! we orig weren't going to try until after our 2 year anniv (sept 2012), but both of us went thru diff phases of baby fever during our first year. we ended up with our BFP March 2012... and will now be expecting our LO this Nov!

Aside from the orig timeline change, we didnt have any official convos about when to officially start; it kind of just happened gradually... went of BC to see how long I'd regulate, then we tried NTNT for a couple months, then actively TTC.

I think the seed has been planted, I'd wait a lil while and bring it up again later...

We had planned on waiting one year after getting married and then start TTC, we decided this when we were engaged. We were married in May 2011. I went to the doctor for my annual in December 2011 and we discussed TTC and I mentioned we were planning on trying in a few months, she ran some test.

We were told we might have a difficult time getting pregnant due to my irregular/short cycles, she wasn't sure I was ovulating every month/or at all.

This freaked us both out & it hit us like a lightening bolt that it could take much longer than we thought, the pull to become parents became super strong and we knew we didn't want to wait any longer. Luckily I had came off BC 2 months before our wedding due to complications it was causing me, so we were just using condoms, easy enough to pull away.

We had a trip planned in january to the Bahamas so we said no better time than to start then and move it up a few months. We were a lucky couple that we both had the pull to become parents at the same time.

We talked about having kids before we were married and brought it up more seriously after our wedding. I didn't have a set timeline in my head, but my husband did. So we waited until he said he was ready.

I feel like we are a little different in that we originally planned to TTC sometime after the wedding and then it didn't happen. We had an unexpected pregnancy, and then a loss, and then I really wanted to start TTC badly. At the time I was 26 and DH was 29, but he didn't feel ready so I agreed to wait and we got a dog instead. Somehow the wait turned into "we're not having kids", partly because of my health issues.

By the time we'd been married 5 years, I started to feel like it was unfair that I didn't really make the choice not to have a child but even people I knew who didn't want to be parents got to have one. When I brought this up to DH he kind of saw it coming because we'd just heard about someone getting pregnant. I talked to him about how we had everything we wanted in life. I admit there was some crying and I did get so mad that I slept in the guest room and did not talk to him.

Honestly, it has taken him the few months that we've been TTC to really want this in his heart and not just be doing this because I want it. He carries around a parenting book that he reads in his spare time, and talks to me about private vs public schools. So give your DH time, he will come around!

Welcome!

We knew we wanted to start TTC shortly after we got married but hadn't discussed an exact timeline. About two months after we got married I started suggesting that maybe I wouldn't start a new pack of birth control pills the following month. In the last couple of weeks of my pill pack, I casually brought it up a couple of times, and he said he was okay with me not starting a new pack.

I had a regular period and then started my first cycle without BC. We were debating on using another barrier method at first, but then in the middle of the night one night, he just woke me up and said "Let's do it. Let's have a baby". And then we did the deed. Haha.

It took a while for Mr. Oblivia to get on board. He wants four kids and I'm 31. After many conversations I finally drew up a time line of how feasible it would be for us to have that many before I hit 40. Once he realized that it takes time to get pregnant, cook a baby, breastfeed, then wean a baby before getting pregnant again, he was on board about six months after I first brought it up. Those months were torturous. Then when he was ready our EDD conflicted with my BFF's wedding so we had to postpone.
When we did get a BFP he was and is over the moon, but it was frustrating for me to be SOOOO ready and having to wait for him.

We also had a bunch of smaller conversations starting when we were engaged. More than a few times I joked that I wanted to get off BC right away and just do it already, and my husband would say back that he was all for that, I was the one who had a wedding dress I wanted to fit into Then once we got married, I tried to hold off as long as I could but ended up going off BC in December (we were married in November). It took him by surprise a bit when I said I wanted to start trying because I had waffled back and forth so much. I wanted to wait a year, then I wanted to try right away. I was mostly afraid of not having enough money saved but once I got over my fear of that, and then we made the decision to start looking for a house to buy in January, we took the plunge. He just wanted to make sure that it was a smart decision we were making with our finances, and it seems to have been just fine so far

We did end up having to hold off on trying starting in February. It was the funniest coincidence, I had been planning all along for a 100% unpaid maternity leave so needed a certain amount in savings to cover my share of expenses for that time period. But then my company announced that they were going to be adding a short-term disability plan that would pay partially for things like maternity leave. We immediately stopped trying (I couldn't be pregnant when signing up and it wouldn't take effect until April) and 2 days later I O'ed! (I was charting). The timing was just weirdo. But now I'm a lot more relaxed knowing I'll have at least 6 weeks of salary coming my way during my 12-week leave.

You could try what my mom did! Their conversation went something like this:

Her: "I want to have kids!"
Him: "What for?"
Her: "Umm... I'm going off the pill - if you don't want kids, you'll have to provide the protection."

Shortly after that, she was pregnant with my older brother and my dad got on the bandwagon.

@Ali: For sure!!! I figured if my husband wasn't quite on the same page, I was going to do the same thing as my mom - it would've been a guaranteed way to get pregnant because there was nooooooo way Hubs was going to manage the birth control! I was lucky in that I didn't have to, but it's something to think about!

@Ali: DH takes a while to come around to big decisions, so while we didn't have a strict timeline in mind when we got married, we knew it would be "soon" due to our ages (I am 34 and he is 38). I was ready to start trying 6 months after our wedding and he was ready around 3 months after that. It took MANY MANY conversations for us because he needed to get used to the idea - it's a huge life-changing decision! So definitely don't expect this to be an impulsive decision or that he'll be exactly on the same page as you.

Also, as a note, approaching TTC conversations with anxiety about my age was a huge turn-off for my DH - and something I needed to work on within myself. He didn't want to feel pressured to make such a huge decision so I had to learn not to pressure him. I realized (after a while) that it was also healthier for *me* to make the choice to start TTC from a place of hopeful anticipation and excitement, not a place of fear and anxiety. That completely changed the way we talked (and felt) about it for the better.

Good luck!

I was the one that brought the baby subjet up too. I knew I wanted us to try before I got too old (I am 4 years older than him) so a year before we actually started trying we had a conversation and he also said that he will think about it. A few months after that he was the one asking me when should we start officially, so I guess it king of grew on him =] After I took my Implanon he kept asking me when it would be the best time, and what days of the month where our "baby making days" I didn't really charted, so I only had the weeks span idea. It was fun to only try by not preventing, even tho I did start taking pre-natals as soon as I took my birth-control. So it was a very fun process for both of us.