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@Mrs. Oatmeal: naturopathic remedies sound interesting. I have been feeling really stressed out and am to the point where I need to learn to manage it better. DH starts school and a new job tomorrow and I will be solo parenting for the next couple weeks. To prepare I started having DH handle the nights, I am trying to eat right and exercise... I also met a counselor and unloaded and it felt really good. I found some tips for handling anxiety that seem to be helping as well... gonna meet up with some old friends....

@illumina: thanks illumina. I really relate to what you said about leaning on DH more. I am also very independent; I have a hard time asking for help. I started having DH take at least the first half of the night and putting LO to sleep at night and getting some more sleep has done wonders! If we have another child at some point I will start managing sharing responsibility with DH much sooner- motherhood is definitely a journey, not a destination! I have just been doing too much.

@ValentineMommy: I am going to take a meditation class at a local Buddhist center and I am really looking forward to it. The counselor told me to exercise and that seems to be helping as well. Hearing my doc say that parenting is a nightmare made me feel better and similar to what you said- knowing anxiety is a real thing that I can learn to manage makes me feel more in control.

@Cherrybee: thanks cherry. I know what you mean- today I got stung by a bee on my foot miles away from home while we were out together and then she lost a shoe... it is almost as if the more things I survive the better I feel and they weren't that bad... my foot hurt a lot though! (But I managed to walk through the pain.)

@meredithNYC: exercise seems to really help, so I am taking long walls everyday now. Thanks, I didn't know ppa was a thing and now that I know I am working on it and making progress.

@BabyTsMom: thanks Tsmom. It is validly stressful! My family practice doc said that he sees a lot of parents and that they are miserable people. It makes me feel better to have someone relate! When LO was born I had a different doctor and she was like, "oh, you wake up at 4 am? Those hours are so precious," and I was thinking, "whhhaaaat."

@all- thank you people, thank you. So far I have been exercising, doing some antianxiety strategies, getting more rest, it is all really helping. I am on day 2 of solo and it is going okay. It helps to know others have experienced it too, though it is miserable and I don't wish it!

@LovelyPlum: thanks so much sweetheart. I am doing buttloads better- I just did two weeks solo, I am solo for September and my confidence has really rocketed. It helped to go to counseling just that one time- knowing I had anxiety- knowing that it was a real thing helped me to be able to tackle it. My first week was rough but I am doing much better this week. Sleep, exercise, and slowly tackling things I had avoided have helped a lot. I also learned some antianxiety methods- like telling myself, "that's just my anxiety brain talking," - little things like that, and recognizing when I feel physically stressed, because emotional stress can result from that, also meditating throughout the day to clear my head. I hope you are doing okay. You are not letting LO down.

@Mamasig: yes- time- I think I was having a tough adjustment for a variety of reasons and lots of stress in our lives- which we are slowly tackling to reduce it- glad you are feeling better.

@ValentineMommy: yes, I love it!