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I don't know, but hopefully somebody here does. I'm so there with my MIL since LO was born. Everything she does pisses me off (though in my defense, she does a lot of things that piss DH off too, and he's not feeling the way I am).

Haha I saw the acronym on another thread and had no idea what it meant. But seriously probably best meme of all time.

I put as much distance as possible and engage as little as possible. Easier said than done, but it's the only thing that helps, even a little.

This isn't the most popular answer, but usually, I take a hard look at myself, and try to honestly answer if it's an issue *I* am having (jealousy, competition, unmet, yet uncommunicated expectations, other yucky feelings). If so, I try and get over it and not take it out on the friend.

I think first you have to figure out if it's them, or you, who is the root of your problem. My very dear friend was hugely pregnant this fall when I was going through two successive m/c's, and being around her listening to her complain about her swollen feet and being hot and "just you wait, you'll see when you're pregnant" made me want to throttle her. Very BEC situation, even though she has been wonderful to me for many years. We're better now; I really think the issue was with me and that she was being pretty innocuous.
But in a situation where the other person is mistreating you, I think cutting them out of your life (even if just for a little while) is the best way to avoid feeling like you have to swallow it, or constantly getting sucked into feeling annoyed. Sometimes I manage to summon up the attitude that the drama is beneath me, and it works for a while

I struggle with this, too. Following.

Some distance and focus on the good!

I remind myself that it's just me, it's just the way I'm seeing it.
One of my very best friends, over the past 5 years, she eloped, she had more two kids. She bought a gigantic house. And we've drifted a bit. I basically view her life on Facebook. She's very vocal on Facebook but rarely calls me. and it's turned into a BEC situation. But I have to remind myself it's not about me. She has her hands full, it's unfortunate our friendship has taken a backseat but it's not about me.

I try to distance myself/occupy my time with other things. It can be hard at work but then I feel like I have so much to do at work I can easily stay busy in my cube away from others when they are driving me nuts.

This is my MIL, and a tiny, tiny bit my FIL. Things were fine until I had LO, and now everything bothers me! Although, to be fair, a lot of things are awful, but they didn't bother me much before I was responsible for someone else's health and welfare. They live 2 hours away, so space is key. The rest I just suck it up for DH's sake, and vent to my parents and HB!