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Have you tried not putting her down already asleep? It sounds like she needs to learn some self soothing. I'm not suggesting CIO at this stage but a bedtime routine, put down drowsy but awake, etc.

When DS was really little he refused to sleep on his own. After a while I was able to get him to sleep and put him in the PnP next to me, but he had to really be asleep or he'd wake up as soon as I put him down. During this phase DH took care of all the household stuff, like washing dishes. It kind of sucked for both of us - I was frustrated at being left alone to get the baby to sleep and then being trapped in our room, and he was exhausted with having to do a ton of stuff like dishes and dog walking on his own. But like everything else it was a phase that eventually ended.

I'm still nursing my three month old to sleep, but I think she's still a bit too young to change anything... DS did the same thing and learned to fall asleep by himself OK when he was maybe 10 months.

But if you have to go to bed when she does, that's really frustrating! Maybe the bed is cold and that's waking her up, and your SO could put in a warm bottle so it's toasty when you bring her to bed? Our room was really cold a couple of weeks ago and she also refused to sleep in her bed - I don't blame her, cause the one time I left her there, she woke up at 3 AM cold all over, despite warm PJs and a blanket. So we co-slept after that until heating season started, and now she's back in her crib.

I've also had to nurse DD to sleep several times over when something's keeping her up. That usually makes me fall asleep too, but sometimes I manage to wake myself and get something done.

How long are you waiting before you put her down? When he was little I had to wait quite a while before I could put him down (like 15 minutes of being completely asleep) and then it gradually got shorter. I hope you find something that works! At that age mine was still going to bed late like around 9 I think

My daughter is 4.5 months, and I generally still nurse to sleep, hold her for a couple minutes till she's sleeping then put her down.

I'm always with her at bedtime, so it doesn't bother me.

This probably isn't super encouraging, but my DD was just like this until she was about 4 months old. It took usually two people and two hours (we had to take shifts!) to get her down for her first long stretch. It was MISERABLE.

Then, she learned to self-soothe (for her, sucking her first two fingers and rubbing her hair--cutest!) and all of a sudden around 4.5 months started being able to fall asleep better. We kind of did CIO, but since we waited until she was ready, it only took a couple nights with crying on and off (soothing in between) for about 15 minutes. Before 4.5 months, she was like your son--huge, escalating screams within minutes of us leaving the room.

Hang in there!

@Dagny: Hang in there mama! I know it's so frustrating! I know I had to do the 20 min. deep sleep before I could put DD down when she was little.

This might sound a little strange, but I feel like both of my babies slept better on soft, cushy surfaces. I mean, who wouldn't. Both my babies sleep/nap better on my bed, even when I wasn't in it. I know it's not "recommended" to have babies on soft bedding vs. hard, but DD did not sleep as well/long in her crib until I got her a wool mattress topper thing. IDK if that really did the trick, but let's just say I was too scared to try without it until she moved into her big girl bed! And even then, I got her pillow top.
DS is only 6 weeks today, but stopped sleeping at all in the bassinet a couple of weeks ago. He was congested and has reflux, so that's another story, but I noticed he'd get all stiff in the bassinet, and instantly relax in our bed. He's spent a week+ sleeping in the swing in our room. I think it's a combination of softness and warmth (like being close to you) vs. a hard, cold surface. Also, his favorite sound on the sound machine is the heart beat.