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DH is totally content (after having to have a heart to heart about his trauma at seeing me having a massive post-partum hemorrhage and him feeling like I almost died)

Physically, I feel fine. Zero pain when we've DTD since giving birth. But that's because I'm looser than before and I'm having a mess of a time dealing with that mentally. So many people on here were like "everything shrunk right on back down yeehaw" but that has not been the case for me so far. I'm 12 weeks PP so I know there is still some healing to be done (I HOPE), but I was totally unprepared for having a loosey-goosey vag.

And then there's all of the general largeness in the rest of my body (upper arms, upper thighs, stomach, and back) so I just feel totally unattractive at the moment.

And breastfeeding has also done a number on my libido. I have no desire to do anything sexual whatsoever most of the time. Giving nor receiving.

So, crappy on my end! Fine for DH.

Non-existant? We tried the first time after 4 weeks and yeah... its just been a mess. I'm not finding very much enjoyment in it, we're both so tired. We really need to work on it.

Not so great. I feel like I've really tightened up, like maybe the doctor stitched me up too much! Sex has been painful, even with lots of lube. I also have no sex drive so sex ends up on a backburner. We're trying to make an effort to make our sex life a priority though.

After my first two I felt super tight afterwards. We DTD right at 6weeks after number three and again at 7 weeks and I felt much looser. I am hoping it is just taking longer to tighten up or I am going to be really disappointed.

@mediagirl: it's been so long I forget who ties up who.

Not good. My sex drive is non-existant, and when we do have sex it's painful for me even with loads of lube. I try and do it for DH's sake once a week or so, but I miss wanting to have sex and enjoying sex. It doesn't help that we are both exhausted and sick half the time now.

@hilary: I do this too. LO's last nap of the day is right before DH gets home so I "prep" haha. Then DH gets home, we chill, we play with LO and put him down for the night...and theeennn...;)

@mediagirl: @sera_87: hahahaha....

It's still really painful for me. And we definitely need to make it more of a priority.

@jmarionsmith: that is so wonderful to hear.

Really good, actually. I think we waited maybe 7, 8 weeks to start, and while I think it was a bit uncomfortable the first time or maybe two, that didn't last at all. In fact, the fact that things were a bit looser was actually very pleasant surprise rather than a negative one. We were exhausted, but I think those first few months pp (like maybe months 3-6?) I think we just felt really close to each other and very "we are a team", plus we were up at all weird hours anyhow, so we actually had sex a LOT and it was great.
I also feel like while we've had plenty of stresses as parents and as people and in our relationship since having LO, we've also kind of had to grow up and communicate better and sometimes be more assertive, and I feel like a lot of that has also gone into improving our sex life (such as negotiating a frequency that works for us, and talking about how and why it's important to each of us, and that kind of stuff). In general, I'd say my sex life with a 2 year old is significantly better than when we were newlyweds.

it is so much hotter! the first few months i cringed at the beginning because it always felt like i was losing my virginity all over again but now at almost 8mo pp it.is.awesome. and more lovey dovey than ever before. for us having a baby meant that we are that much more of a team. i think there is also something very raw about DH seeing you through labor and delivery - there really isn't anything that is off limits anymore.