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I didn't vote. LO is 18 months and I'm not ready to think about another. DH is even less ready!

I had a rough birth and colicky newborn the first time around. It took us 18 months to think about trying again. LO2 was much easier. I think I have 'forgotten' already at 4 months but I think we're done.

6 months before I put the rose-colored glasses on, but I didn't feel ready to even try for another until he was 2.

2 years... And then I got KU three months later.

I had a relatively easy pregnancy, delivery, and recovery, but I did forget what morning sickness felt like and what labor felt like- just because it was "relatively" easy doesn't mean it wasn't the worst pain of my life. I simply can't remember what it felt like. That was immediate, like still in the hospital.

The newborn stage was really hard though. It wasn't until friends with babies the same age started getting pregnant that I even thought about it, though I knew I wanted another one day. When she was 20 months old I told DH I was ready to start thinking about trying for another soonish, or at least being a little less careful about avoiding. I got pregnant that week.

I think it will take me a lot longer to forget how much pregnancy with a toddler sucks though.

I voted 3 - 6 months, because we started TTC at 9 months (as soon as my period came back). I had a really bad birth experience (two days of induced labor ending in an emergency c-section), but since giving birth, we discovered an abnormality that explains why I had such a hard time. A VBAC isn't possible with this complication, so I know up front that I'll need a repeat c/s. That makes me feel so much better. A schedule c/s sounds like heaven compared to last time.

I had super bad morning sickness the entire pregnancy that led to me actually weighing less the day I gave birth than I weighed before I was pregnant. You can barely tell I was pregnant at seven months, and later I just looked like I was in my second trimester. I'm not looking forward to a repeat of that.

The only other thing that worries me is breastfeeding. I have flat/inverted nipples and could not get the hang of breastfeeding, even with a shield, so I pumped around the clock last time until LO was around 10 months old. In some ways, I feel more confident because I know I can pump full time if I have to--I did it before. On the other hand, maybe I should try harder to breastfeed...then again, if that leads to cracked nipples or mastitis, that could set us back even further...I don't know. It's kind of the devil you know vs. the devil you don't.

With my first HG pregnancy, right after I had her I thought I could do it again. With my second HG pregnancy and horrific birth, she was 6 months before the thought of - I could consider maybe realistically doing it again. We really want another so I do have to pull it together, lol.

@Raindrop: I feel the same way (DD is almost 9 months), and it scares the crap out of me! Labor was really terrible (48 hours), but honestly it's the 42 weeks of pregnancy that took me the longest to get over.

Regardless, we also won't be having another little one anytime soon. We're enjoying the craziness with DD for now

I don't think I ever forgot how hard my 1st pregnancy was. But we wanted more than one and close in age, so we went for it when DS1 was about one. I dreaded being pregnsnt again, but it wasn't bad at all. I got baby fever after #2 when he was about 3 months. Got pregnant with #3 when he was 16 months. This pregnancy has been harder because of morning sickness, but this is the last one!

I was over the pregnancy pretty immediately (but mine wasn't that bad). I was over the birth after about 6 months (not too bad pain wise but very emotionally traumatic). I am still not over the awful awful newborn days at almost 18 months. Which isn't to say I've totally foreclosed the idea of doing it again. But it won't be with rose colored glasses because I forgot newborn days blow. It will just be with the realization that its worth it for the kid they become.

I didn't vote. My twins are almost 2 and I'm pretty positive we are done. Most of that's attributed to a horrible pregnancy and horrible newborn (omg, I've never been more exhausted in my entire life) experience. The birth and recovery itself were a breeze but the other parts were awful. The thought of being pregnant again gives me a mini panic attack.

18 months!

Rough pregnancies both times, births were fine, above average newborns as far as being good. My first we joked that we would have another no problem when we arrived home from the hospital (after a brief jaundice stint in the nicu). At 10 months we were ready to try again, didn't get pregnant for another 9 months, thank goodness!

I'm still at a zero (or -1,000,000) interest level now that #2 is 18 months. We will renegotiate again next summer, but I'm not sure how likely I will be at changing my mind. Pregnancy sucked, and while I always see us having a third, our two boys are pretty awesome.

I hated being pregnant but I go pregnant for the 2nd time when my daughter was 8 months old. I don't think it was because I forgot how rough pregnancy was but more like pregnancy seems short the further removed you are. My thought process was more 'this will really suck but then it'll be over and I'll have another beautiful baby and that will be so worth it.'

I had an easy pregnancy and mostly easy induction & delivery. However, I broke my tailbone delivering DS and he was a reflux baby so the first couple months were no picnic between recovery and a baby who hated sleeping and battled feedings for quite a while. Basically until we sleep trained right after the 4-month regression, DH and I were solidly in the one-and-done camp. Once his reflux was resolved and sleeping got better, it got pretty easy to forget that stuff. By the time DS was 6-8 months we were talking about definitely having one more and probably two more. We are still waiting though - our ideal spacing would be right around 3 years or a little before (DS is 14 months now).

My pregnancy was fine for the most part, but I had a terrible birth and recovery. The newborn stage won for traumatizing though. It was very hard.

I still have not forgotten. I am scared to do it again. But I want another LO. I guess I think I can suffer through if it's that bad again to get to the toddler stage which I just love. I've done it and lived to tell. And, I'm clinging to what people say about second babies being easy if your first was hard.

Pregnancy & birth were fine for me - I loved it. I had tears, and birth hurt so bad, but I got over it quickly. For me though, BFing was the hardest thing I've ever done, and even at 22 months (no longer nursing), I am still bothered by it.

I do find that after the first year, I stopped dwelling on things related to the first 3 months. I'm still nowhere near ready for another, but if I did get pregnant, I wouldn't need to work through anything emotionally, because I feel like I've "healed" that part of my life.