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How long do you and/or your partner each spend commuting each day

  • poll: How long do you/your partner spend commuting each day
    <15 minutes : (28 votes)
    20 %
    15-30 minutes : (36 votes)
    26 %
    30 minutes - 1 hour : (31 votes)
    22 %
    1 - 1.5 hours : (21 votes)
    15 %
    1.5 - 2 hours : (11 votes)
    8 %
    > 2 hours : (11 votes)
    8 %
  1. codeitall

    clementine / 868 posts

    I went from 7 minutes to 25 minutes last year. If I take the train to avoid construction, that's 45 minutes. Daycare adds 20 minutes.

  2. 808love

    pomelo / 5866 posts

    We both live and work in the burbs. About 15 min each way.

  3. dc yoga bee

    grapefruit / 4770 posts

    @Dahlia: that’s the kicker for me, I work 7-6 everyday. I have no choice but to be in shitty traffic!

  4. wrkbrk

    pomelo / 5084 posts

    @periwinklebee: 4 minutes door to door for me (lawyer). We can see my office building from our second floor deck! I love living downtown. 15 minutes for DW (professor).


    nectarine / 2461 posts

    @periwinklebee: yeah, I imagine that neighbors who you *own* with could get a lot hairier than neighbors who you just rent next to, especially if there's no condo board or whatever to reign them in. sounds like you could get lucky or unlucky...

    my co-workers keep asking me how the new commute is. I say, what I lost in time I make up for in experience. I basically added 20 minutes each way, but I love having my own house as much as I thought I would, and as a bonus no one is trying to show me their dick or beg for money or crush me to death on the subway.


    nectarine / 2461 posts

    @wrkbrk: omgggg I'm so jealous, you're saving years off your life

  7. looch

    wonderful pear / 26210 posts

    So much of it is your attitude though. If you're commuting to a job that you don't like, any amount of time is negative. People think I am nuts to do this commute, but the perks I get are worth it to me.

    I try to look at my super commute days as me time. I don't drive during that time, so I can read, watch a show on my ipad, do some of my volunteer work, or even take calls from the office, so I don't view it as totally wasted time. I instead look at it as 8 hours of time I week I have to get things done so I don't have to do them later. On the other days when I drive, I listen to NPR and it's how I catch up on the news.

  8. wrkbrk

    pomelo / 5084 posts

    @LCTBQE: IKR. That’s why we chose to build where we did, in the city. That and it was much more affordable!! Now I do pick up DS most evenings and that means it is about one hour from when I leave work, drive to get him, wrestle him into the car from his class,
    and drive back home...

  9. periwinklebee

    grapefruit / 4462 posts

    @psw27: I have a very similar commute now and feel similarly...

    @wrkbrk: Hah, that's crazy close!

    @LCTBQE: A fairly apt description of the subway. And I'm sure it could only be worse in New York.

  10. periwinklebee

    grapefruit / 4462 posts

    @looch: This is a good perspective!

  11. dc yoga bee

    grapefruit / 4770 posts

    @LCTBQE: AMEN to the subway madness! Or sexually assault you with no one to help. So sad.

  12. nana87

    cantaloupe / 6171 posts

    dh works from home, so no time at all.

    The girls' daycare is ~20min commute no matter how we go (public transportation or walking or car). My commute depends on the day--I sometimes work right near them, and sometimes work from home after dropping them off. Starting in Sept, 2 days/week I'll be commuting about an hour away.

  13. Ginabean3

    pomegranate / 3401 posts

    I SAHM but when I used to work it was a 10 mile commute that could take anywhere from 45-60 minutes. Driving. It was horrible.

    Currently DH’s commute is 10-15 minutes. It’s awesome!

  14. Eminthevalley

    apricot / 343 posts

    3 minute drive, 12-15 minute walk one way. We made some deliberate choices and decided small town living and working in town would be best for us.

  15. lamariniere

    pineapple / 12566 posts

    I WAH, so zero.

    My DH has about 1 hour each way, sometimes it’s more, especially if it rains. His office is less than 5 miles from home but we live in a heavily congested city and my DH takes a bus + train + taxi (sometimes a boat!) to get to work every day since there is no public transit near the office.

  16. Litebrite

    cherry / 174 posts

    I commute >2 he a day and it really impacts my quality of life. Like @LCTBQE, it's a balance between the house/community we can afford and accessibility to the city. Eventually I'll need to find something closer to home, but it will likely be a more boring, worse paying job.

  17. Litebrite

    cherry / 174 posts

    @looch: agree, there is no way I would have have put up with my current commute for so long if I didn't love my job...but its starting to wear me down. As much as I love my job I couldn't do the commute forever

  18. cake2017

    persimmon / 1048 posts

    35 mins to work and about an hour leaving work. DMV traffic sucks!

  19. Miss Ariel

    nectarine / 2204 posts

    It’s about 15 minuets in the morning and 45 minuets in the afternoon

  20. youboots

    honeydew / 7622 posts

    Right now we both WAH. He does go see customers. Sometimes he drives 0 hours a week. Sometimes 14+. But we are moving to his corporate headquarters in August so it will be 40 minuets round trip for him and I’ll still WAH.

  21. mrsrain

    nectarine / 2115 posts

    We both work within a mile of home. It takes me two minutes in traffic and DH about 5 minutes. It’s a small town and we happen to live and work near the town center. We moved from Austin, TX so we really appreciate what we’ve got here!

  22. Ms.Mermaid

    kiwi / 745 posts

    @periwinklebee: is biking an option? I’m happy to chat kid carrying logistics and storage. I just bought a long tail e-assist cargo bike to help with my commute.

    I used to commute an hour each way and changed to 3 miles - city traffic can sometimes suck, so driving is 15-35 minutes but biking is 25 minutes there/20 min home plus I get to ride my bike. My husband also rides or drives 2.5-3 miles to work.

  23. birdofafeather

    pineapple / 12053 posts

    10 minutes round trip for preschool drop offs for me. I WAH for myself. DH is a firefighter so only drives once every 24 hours (or 48 or 72) about an hour away.

  24. QBbride

    pomegranate / 3192 posts

    I work 20 mins from home, so my commute is 40 minutes. I work 12 hour shifts and work a 0.7 position so I only commute 10 days/month.

    My DH works 30-35 mins from home, so 60-70 minute commute daily. Maybe a bit longer coming home so maybe more like 1h20 mins daily. He works M-F.

  25. periwinklebee

    grapefruit / 4462 posts

    @Ms.Mermaid: Right now biking isn't really an option b/c I won't do it on city streets with LO, but if we end up moving to the burbs - which seems likely - I'd ideally like to be near a rail-trail that links up with public transit so I could potentially bike into the city. Those bikes look awesome! I'd seen the trailers you can hook on the back that convert into strollers, but not the cargo bike solution...

  26. Iced Tea

    persimmon / 1310 posts

    We both work from home, so we don't commute at all. The kids go to daycare about 7 minutes away. And my husband does have to travel internationally a lot. He just left for a two week trip.

  27. Anagram

    eggplant / 11706 posts

    @LCTBQE: so one way is an hour and fifteen minutes, door to door? That's not terrible. How was the adjustment? Do you park at the train station?

  28. megpie

    coffee bean / 44 posts

    I live about 3 blocks away from work - so about a 5 minute walk or 1 minute drive haha. DH is about a 10 minute drive to work.

  29. MrsSCB

    pomelo / 5256 posts

    I do daycare drop off in the morning, which makes it closer to an hour (this includes stopping at Starbucks to pick up my preordered coffee, though 😂). Afternoon is about 30 min. We’re moving soon, and my morning commute should stay the same time, but afternoon will be a bit longer. So excited to get into our own house, though.

    @dc yoga bee: also in the same area (nova). Traffic is SO bad. Blech. Definitely worse than when I was growing up here.

  30. MaryM

    pomelo / 5129 posts

    I voted twice because it's 1-2 hours depending on the day/weather/traffic.

    Before I had DS, I worked 10-6 so I could take the HOV lanes when they opened up to general traffic. But daycare is open 6:30 to 6:30 close to home, so I had to switch my hours to 8-4 so I'm home in time for pick up if DH can't do it.

    It's usually not too bad getting to work at 7 a.m. But trying to get as far into VA as I can before 5 p.m. when leaving DC at 4 sucks.

    DH works in sales so he's in his car all day. He works out in the county more, so our house is pretty centrally located. Plus he grew up in the burbs so it's where he's happiest (and I wouldn't be happy living in the congestion of the city. We wanted a yard and neighborhood community)

  31. periwinklebee

    grapefruit / 4462 posts

    @megpie: that's amazing!

    I've been listening to the Power Broker, which is this phenomenal, Pulitzer prize winning account of how one person - backed by oil, automobile, construction, banking, etc interests - amassed massive power in New York that he used to build (largely toll) roads/bridges and to crush mass transit. The description of how much commutes suck as a result is incredibly well-written, and he talks a lot about how resigned people become to it. It's super depressing how much better commutes could have been if planners in the early 20th century had had different priorities...


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