Lo is almost 4 months old and I am trying to disassociate nursing from his falling asleep for both nights and naps. nights are more difficult because I don't want to wake my other son up. But during the day, my other son is in school so it is my chance to nap train.
I am still trying to put lo down for his nap. He has been crying for 40 min (with me doing checks 5, 10, 10, min).
How long is too long for a CIO nap? I was prepared to wait up to an hour...but is that too long at his age?
It's so hard to decide because I hate hearing him cry but know that he won't sleep on his own. So far I've had to nurse until he's fully asleep and then transfer him.
grapefruit / 4066 posts
at 4 months, I wouldnt feel comfortable letting LO cry for more than 30 or so minutes for naps. IMO i think an hour is too long at that age. How did he do? Did he end up falling asleep? The checks might also make things worse...
I didnt really nap train, but sleep trained at night, so I know how hard it is hearing them cry for what its worth- I nursed my LO to sleep for 8/9 months for naps and then one day she magically went down on her own after crying for 3 mins, and I've been able to put her down awake since then. I think she was just ready at that point. But I am sure that with having another kid, it would be nice to be able to just put him down and say naptime, so I understand that...I hope it went well!
cantaloupe / 6206 posts
Hmmm. We did CIO for bedtime and night wakings at 5.5 months, so I'm all for CIO, but naps are a different story.... I did an Isis sleep consultation and they said naps don't consolidate (ie organize/get easier/etc) until closer to 6 months, so I haven't even thought to do CIO before then. I agree with pp that 30 mins is prob my upper limit.
kiwi / 729 posts
@NovBaby1112: @JoJoGirl: thanks for your replies ladies. I got him at the 1 hour mark and decided to nurse and put him in the swing. He fell asleep right away in it and is sleeping now. *sigh* I guess I should be easier on the naps right now.
honeydew / 7687 posts
Sorry I don't think CIO is going to help IMO. I think it's a developmental thing that they have to grow out of At that age. My LO lengthened on his own around 5.5 months. I don't know I checks would help that young because I don't think object permanence develops that early. Maybe read the Ferber book for advice or someone who has can chime in?
grapefruit / 4066 posts
@Cchoi4: awww, i know its tough! I would focus on night first. i do not think i would try cio for both nights and naps at that age. naps are hard as it is and it is def something he will grow out of. naps got wayyy easier around 6 months when they consolidated and lengthend. hang in there!
GOLD / pomegranate / 3688 posts
I agree with PPs - 4 months is a nearly impossible time to nap train. At that age we did *whatever* we had to to get dd to nap. I am sorry - that was my least favorite baby stage.
wonderful cherry / 21504 posts
I have left LO to fuss for over 20 minutes for naps- not full on crying, but going back and forth between fussing, crying, and calm moments. She ends up sleeping for a long time after so it's worth it but I hate it. Hard crying I won't let her go more than ten minutes.
But honestly I'm still mostly nursing to sleep at this point for naps, since I hear it is harder for then to fall asleep for naps. Bedtime we no longer nurse to sleep.
Eta: she is almost four months.
kiwi / 643 posts
I did checks at 5, 10, 15, and 20 minutes. If we got to 30 minutes, I got them up and tried again in 45ish minutes. They always crashed immediately.
Nap training was the hardest thing I ever did...but it was so worth it! Good luck!
pomegranate / 3759 posts
That is when I decided to nap train. And to be honest, it was just a spur of the moment decision because I was so frustrated that DD would fall asleep rocking at the boob but would wake up when put in the swing. So, I put her in there and walked into another room. I called my husband and cried while she cried because I was just frustrated but didn't know what to do. After 45 minutes she fell asleep. The only checks I did was look into the room to make sure she was ok. It's HARD to do but you need to be ready to do it. Good luck momma.