cantaloupe / 6869 posts
@coopsmama: a chemical is a miscarriage so it should definitely be counted.
blogger / coconut / 8306 posts
I had three in a row
eggplant / 11861 posts
Two! They were back to back after my first two IUIs
Very early, but awfully sad!
It makes the process scary and always uneasy!
cantaloupe / 6059 posts
@MrsKoala: My point was more that unless it includes chemicals we don't even KNOW (because not everyone is TTC and actively testing at 8dpo and beyond) about I still find that estimate absurdly high. Obviously my intent was not to discount chemicals.
grapefruit / 4028 posts
@JoJoGirl: Ive heard it's uncommon to have back to back miscarriages (more commons for CPs, according to my dr).
I had one at 6 weeks, before any dr appts. My second one was at 12 weeks, after we had heard a heartbeat and had 2 scans (we had triplets at the first scan, but only one baby at the second). I've heard the chance goes down significantly after hearing a HB, I guess I'm part of the small percent.
pomegranate / 3565 posts
Three pregnancies and no miscarriages. I'm not a unicorn. I think not having miscarriages is just as common as having them.
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
One CP before conceiving DS2.
@JoJoGirl: good luck, thinking of you and healthy baby!
pear / 1558 posts
One m/c for sure, though I suspect I had 1-2 other cp's that weren't confirmed.
pomegranate / 3350 posts
@coopsmama: I have also heard the rate is really high - like if there are sperm and egg present there is something like a 75% the egg will be fertilized but a much smaller percent go on to be a pregnancy. I think the 10 - 25% rate is for any particular pregnancy and doesn't take into consideration cp's because they are not "clinically recognized" pregnancies.
hostess / wonderful grape / 20803 posts
@coopsmama: it probably also depends on the age of your friend groups? I think you're a lot younger....I'm 35 and most of my friends have had at least 1 miscarriage.
I don't think OP is using the term unicorn as something meant to be derogatory. It's more common than not for any single woman to have had a miscarriage than not have had one (especially if you try for more than one baby, and especially after 30). Any woman who has had a miscarriage - chemical pregnancy or later miscarriage - will say that any woman who has not experienced that emotional torture is very, very lucky. I don't know why people are all "I haven't had one but I'm not a unicorn." Why bother inserting that into a thread where obviously some women are here lamenting over having had a loss? Just count yourself lucky and move on to the next thread.
pomelo / 5607 posts
2 miscarriages, 1 late loss, 1 preemie but otherwise healthy baby.
cantaloupe / 6017 posts
@winniebee: yeah. I'm really confused about why people are getting defensive because they haven't ever had a miscarriage.
GOLD / kiwi / 605 posts
Two that I know of for sure (had positive tests) and then with this pregnancy there were two gestational sacs and only one baby so either a random extra egg implanted or I had a super early (less then 5 weeks) vanishing twin, but that was before a HB could be seen so while I feel it was a twin, I know many wouldn't count it.
grapefruit / 4988 posts
I have had 2 (out of 3 pregnancies). So far none in a row though.
nectarine / 2591 posts
@winniebee: Well said.
hostess / papaya / 10219 posts
@winniebee: it mosts certainly takes away the innocent excitement one feels when getting a positive pregnancy test. This pregnancy I wasn't excited at all for a long time... It's hard.
ETA: 100% of my friends have had miscarriages or losses. I'm 38.
wonderful grape / 20453 posts
@coopsmama: really? Because that seems pretty spot on with my group of friends. I'd imagine the 90% rings true for her whole practice. And it makes sense the number is high because women aren't necessarily having babies at 18 like they used to. And if you have a 25% chance with each pregnancy, and you have more than one kid....chances are that most will have one somewhere in there.
But a group of young women in their early 20's is not an accurate sampling compared to "at some point in a woman's life" which was the stat I was using
cantaloupe / 6206 posts
@winniebee: thank you
@travellingbee: yes this. I'm 38 and 99% of my friends have had miscarriages. And every single person I've told since having mine. And my mom (she had 2). Everyone I know basically.
Eta my mom's were in the 70s when she was 25 and 27. Not cps. I think they just happen. A lot.
wonderful clementine / 24134 posts
I think the rate might be rising as more women are having children later (arent 18 but 30+) as well as early pregnancy tests that are very accurate. My mom said in her day you wouldn't be a confirmed pregnancy until 8 weeks or so (meaning many CP weren't reported and just classified as a long cycle or delayed period).
coconut / 8483 posts
I've had one.
Myself and two friends all had one between March-July. My cousin had one. Many people I know have had one. I'm 27.
I only told a select few about it. Not even everyone of my close girlfriends. So it's possible some of your friends have had them and not wanted to talk about it @coopsmama
Good luck at your ultrasound! I'm almost 14 weeks and still nervous. Ugh.
@blackbird: ohhhhhh do you mean 90% of women will experience a miscarriage?? Not that 90% of pregnancies end in a miscarriage? Maybe I misread your post the first time. That would make a lot more sense to me!
@Mrs. Champagne: That's possible but we've all been the type to send a picture the day we get a BFP. (To each other - not the whole world!)
@winniebee: Yes I do think age likely plays a part. My friends that I was thinking of range from 24-28 for the most part with one being 34.
kiwi / 631 posts
I've had three early MCs. One shy of 6 weeks, and two CP's at 4 weeks.
Good luck at your ultrasound tomorrow. I'm almost 25 week now and the first ultrasound was the most stressful and rewarding experience. I was convinced I was going to find out that something was wrong. But then my LO was jumping around doing flips. I'm getting a little better about ultrasounds, but I still look away for a moment at the very beginning just incase.
pineapple / 12793 posts
@JoJoGirl: good luck at your scan.
blogger / clementine / 985 posts
Three in a row here. It sucks. A lot. Thank you, @winniebee, for saying what you said more eloquently than I could have.
pomegranate / 3764 posts
3 monitored miscarriages; 11w, 6w and the last one at 5w that dragged on until I would have been 10w. Delightful.
I also had one suspected CP on a Femara cycle last year, but that was never confirmed with bloods or anything, so I just stick with the 3 on my medical file.
@Crystal: I'm the same. We heard N's heartbeat on four different occasions between 7-11 weeks and all was fine, until it wasn't. The heartbeat thing will never reassure me again, unfortunately.
nectarine / 2461 posts
@JoJoGirl: am unfortunately in a unique position to understand how freaked out you are. the statistic that I heard from my OB and the one that's all over google is that roughly a quarter to a third of recognized pregnancies (past 14 dpo~) end in m/c, 5% of women go on to miscarry twice in a row, and 1% go on to miscarry 3 times in a row. So, I was in that 5%. But I also found these statistics reassuring--for you, there's a 95% chance that you're just fine, which is pretty good. Plus, even the fact that you've had good signs and symptoms put you in a great spot. Many of those pregnancies (like my second one) are weak ones where the betas never get rolling. we are all rooting for you and hoping for the best. hang in there
@winniebee: dude, where is the clapping hands emoji on this thing!
persimmon / 1045 posts
Sending good vibes - I have had one loss as you know (MMC at 6.5w discovered at 8w) & i'm waiting to get my next bfp. Can imagine the fears going through your head - good luck!
@MrsDragon: @jaguar: @Mrs. Champagne: @Nutella: cross-posted with all of you. so much love to you all.
@LCTBQE: Meep, so I am in the 1%! Well THAT sucks.
@jaguar: but 1% (or 5%!) of women ttc around the world is also about a bajillion heartbroken women
persimmon / 1355 posts
Two. MMC at 9.5 weeks (after hearing strong heartbeat). Chemical last month. Pregnant again and keeping fingers crossed.
@jaguar: yep, I heard the heartbeat Monday and lost the baby Thursday. I let out a big sigh of relief when we heard the heartbeat for the first time, it felt like it was finally happening. Now I will always be scared.
@LCTBQE: I remember the 5% feeling like such a small percentage. Now that I'm in it, I realize how many other thousands of women who are suffering like I am. Not that it makes it easier, but so many of the lovely women on here reached out to me when I was in the depths of Despair, and for that I am forever grateful.
apricot / 259 posts
MC at 6 weeks after getting pregnant our first cycle TTC. That experience has definitively affected my current pregnancy. I'm 20 weeks tomorrow and hesitating setting up the crib until our anatomy scan because I'm still so afraid. I was 25 when I miscarried so on the younger end of the statistic I suppose.
pineapple / 12566 posts
I voted zero, but my son had a vanishing twin, which we didn't find out about until after we had been told there was just one baby. At another scan a few weeks later we were told there was a second empty sack. I've never really felt like that was a miscarriage, but I guess technically was.
@Nutella: You'll be here with me soon enough, I know it!
@coopsmama: And yes % of WOMEN, not % of pregnancies.
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