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I had three in a row

@MrsKoala: My point was more that unless it includes chemicals we don't even KNOW (because not everyone is TTC and actively testing at 8dpo and beyond) about I still find that estimate absurdly high. Obviously my intent was not to discount chemicals.

Three pregnancies and no miscarriages. I'm not a unicorn. I think not having miscarriages is just as common as having them.

@JoJoGirl: good luck, thinking of you and healthy baby!

@coopsmama: I have also heard the rate is really high - like if there are sperm and egg present there is something like a 75% the egg will be fertilized but a much smaller percent go on to be a pregnancy. I think the 10 - 25% rate is for any particular pregnancy and doesn't take into consideration cp's because they are not "clinically recognized" pregnancies.

I don't think OP is using the term unicorn as something meant to be derogatory. It's more common than not for any single woman to have had a miscarriage than not have had one (especially if you try for more than one baby, and especially after 30). Any woman who has had a miscarriage - chemical pregnancy or later miscarriage - will say that any woman who has not experienced that emotional torture is very, very lucky. I don't know why people are all "I haven't had one but I'm not a unicorn." Why bother inserting that into a thread where obviously some women are here lamenting over having had a loss? Just count yourself lucky and move on to the next thread.

@winniebee: yeah. I'm really confused about why people are getting defensive because they haven't ever had a miscarriage.

I have had 2 (out of 3 pregnancies). So far none in a row though.

@winniebee: it mosts certainly takes away the innocent excitement one feels when getting a positive pregnancy test. This pregnancy I wasn't excited at all for a long time... It's hard.

ETA: 100% of my friends have had miscarriages or losses. I'm 38.

I've had one.

Myself and two friends all had one between March-July. My cousin had one. Many people I know have had one. I'm 27.

I only told a select few about it. Not even everyone of my close girlfriends. So it's possible some of your friends have had them and not wanted to talk about it @coopsmama

Good luck at your ultrasound! I'm almost 14 weeks and still nervous. Ugh.

I've had three early MCs. One shy of 6 weeks, and two CP's at 4 weeks.
Good luck at your ultrasound tomorrow. I'm almost 25 week now and the first ultrasound was the most stressful and rewarding experience. I was convinced I was going to find out that something was wrong. But then my LO was jumping around doing flips. I'm getting a little better about ultrasounds, but I still look away for a moment at the very beginning just incase.

@JoJoGirl: good luck at your scan.

3 monitored miscarriages; 11w, 6w and the last one at 5w that dragged on until I would have been 10w. Delightful.

I also had one suspected CP on a Femara cycle last year, but that was never confirmed with bloods or anything, so I just stick with the 3 on my medical file.

@JoJoGirl: am unfortunately in a unique position to understand how freaked out you are. the statistic that I heard from my OB and the one that's all over google is that roughly a quarter to a third of recognized pregnancies (past 14 dpo~) end in m/c, 5% of women go on to miscarry twice in a row, and 1% go on to miscarry 3 times in a row. So, I was in that 5%. But I also found these statistics reassuring--for you, there's a 95% chance that you're just fine, which is pretty good. Plus, even the fact that you've had good signs and symptoms put you in a great spot. Many of those pregnancies (like my second one) are weak ones where the betas never get rolling. we are all rooting for you and hoping for the best. hang in there

@winniebee: dude, where is the clapping hands emoji on this thing!

@MrsDragon: @jaguar: @Mrs. Champagne: @Nutella: cross-posted with all of you. so much love to you all.

@jaguar: but 1% (or 5%!) of women ttc around the world is also about a bajillion heartbroken women

@jaguar: yep, I heard the heartbeat Monday and lost the baby Thursday. I let out a big sigh of relief when we heard the heartbeat for the first time, it felt like it was finally happening. Now I will always be scared.

MC at 6 weeks after getting pregnant our first cycle TTC. That experience has definitively affected my current pregnancy. I'm 20 weeks tomorrow and hesitating setting up the crib until our anatomy scan because I'm still so afraid. I was 25 when I miscarried so on the younger end of the statistic I suppose.