We've had quite a few friends who have told us they want to know when we go to the hospital because they want to come visit. I know that's probably just the polite thing to say. But how many people/visitors did you really get at the hospital after your baby was born? And in the first week or so after you got home?
I've gone to visit about 4-5 friends in the hospital and/or the first week they came home with baby.
grapefruit / 4681 posts
Mostly just immediate family and a few family friends. I had one friend from college actually come out and stay a long weekend when DS was under a week old which was nice but also a little awkward.
persimmon / 1026 posts
Only our parents, my sister, and my college roommate and her husband visited in the hospital. I was so glad more people didn't show up. We had probably 10-15 people who visited in the two weeks after we got home.
bananas / 9118 posts
We limited it to parents and siblings for the first 3 weeks until we got breastfeeding more or less under control. We just wanted quiet bonding time.
nectarine / 2177 posts
I've been wondering this too! I vacillate between thinking I will want NO ONE (not even family!) there to visit us right away and then thinking I will feel lonely (even with DH and baby there) and that I will want a whole slew of people. I guess you don't know until you are living it.
persimmon / 1420 posts
Hospital- My mom, dad, and sister, his mom, dad and brother, and six of our friends (3 of those friends were not quite invited, but welcome anyway). It was kind of nice, actually. I never even got out of bed:)
Home- every friggin' person in the universe. At once. I hated it. I was much more inclined to have people at the hospital- they stayed for less time, I didn't have to worry about things being clean and I felt OK staying in my pajamas.
grapefruit / 4400 posts
Hospital-- our parents, my BIL, and 5-6 couple friends. We were there for 2 full days.
At home the first weeks-- parents and BIL again, same couple friends, plus 2-3 more couples. Everyone brought food when they came, though, which was awesome. Everyone called before they came over, and our first day home was just us.
bananas / 9357 posts
Hospital- my mom, stepdad, gma, brother uncle, MIL and FIL
At home- mom, gma, stepdad, FIL, MIL, Aunt, 2 uncles, 2 cousins
Friends didn't visit until after the first week.
bananas / 9973 posts
* I guess I should have made it more clear as to - "How many people SAID they would come to visit AND actually did?" I feel like a lot of people SAY they want to come, but probably won't follow through? I'm just wondering how many people we really should call/text when it happens.
grapefruit / 4400 posts
@shopaholic: with our group of friends, the follow through rate was 100%. I don't have much family here, but DH's family didn't come visit besides his parents and brother-- his parents threw a sip and see for the baby when she was about 4 weeks old, so that covered them.
cantaloupe / 6164 posts
All of our immediate family came to visit while we were in the hospital with the exception of Dans sister who lives out of town. Our best friends came to the hospital too. Other friends and extended family didn't visit til week 2.
I asked everyone to come visit at the hospital because I was not keen on entertaining during the first week. It was easier to visit with people at the hospital since I didn't have to worry about how messy my house was or asking people to leave when I needed rest or baby had to eat (the nurses did that).
kiwi / 673 posts
16 different people visited during my 3 day hospital stay. All but 2 were family. Once I was released DH's family visited again (my family is far away). I found visitors to be stressful, but wanted to see them at the same time.
GOLD / pomelo / 5737 posts
We limited it to immediate family. We hadn't said yes or no to visitors before the birth, and then we just basically ignored most phone calls..we were (ok, mostly I was) overwhelmed!!
cantaloupe / 6751 posts
Hospital - just immediate family and my BFF. The first two weeks - we had immediate family and about 5-6 close friends.
pomegranate / 3329 posts
Hospital - My parents and they brought my son, SMIL, FIL, MIL, SFIL, and Dh's Grandma. All of our friends said they were coming but didn't.
Home, same as above + dh's SIL and six kids, my boss, and a few more friends.
coconut / 8681 posts
In the hospital my parents, brother and sister, fil, mil, 3 bils and 1 friend. At home just our parents and my sil. Our friends (other than the one that came to the hospital) waited until at least week 2.
olive / 67 posts
At the hospital-a few friends
At home-my mom, grandparents, his parents, and his sister. We also had 5-10 friends
pomelo / 5331 posts
Not as many as I thought/hoped/said they would. Family and 3 close friends in the hospital, and then 1 couple friend of ours in the first couple of weeks. I still haven't seen my best friend since that first day in the hospital (over a month later) and tons of people said they'd come by and never have. I think it's a combination of thinking we must not want visitors/already have tons of visitors and not feeling quite well and not wanting to infect baby. Honestly as isolated as i felt, visitors were a hassle in the first couple of weeks. But now that the dust has settled I'm a little sad/annoyed I can't get anybody to visit or even get coffee with me so I can get out of the house.
GOLD / wonderful grape / 20289 posts
I don't remember..... but it was quite a few. I didn't mind though, it was nice that so many people wanted to come and meet LO, and made the effort to do so. I had some close friends that didn't come to meet her for a whole month, and that really bothered me.
pomelo / 5720 posts
Almost everyone that said they would come, did. My BIL and one of our close friends didn't, but then they visited us at home shortly after we got home. I wish we had limited visits to immediate family. I was overwhelmed at the hospital with learning how to BF, trying to get some sleep, and managing all the nurses/doctors that came in to see me and the baby. It was crazy.
pomegranate / 3516 posts
We had 7 visitors (both moms, my dad, my brother, DH's brother, our SIL, and our nephew) at the hospital a couple of hours after she was born. They came sporadically for a second time over the next couple of days. Then we just had one visitor after we got home because my MIL stayed to help us clean and cook while we settled in to being new parents.
hostess / wonderful persimmon / 25556 posts
Hospital - My parents and two of our couple friends.
Home - Two of our couple friends.
wonderful clementine / 24134 posts
Hospital - Immediate family (parents, siblings, nieces and nephews). Also some friends (about 2-3 I think).
Home - A few more friends over the couple of weeks.
squash / 13764 posts
Hospital: parents, one cousin, and two friends.
At home: 7-8 people in the first week or so. People only stayed like an hour and a half, tops though, which was nice.
grapefruit / 4235 posts
At the hospital, just our parents bc the hospital restricted visitors b of he flu (but they didn't enforce it when our cousin gave birth 2 weeks after us!)
At home, in the first week, DH's parents, DH's 2 cousins and their wives, dh's best friends, my 2 best friends, and people from church who dropped off meals.
ETA: dh's cousin and his wife who were pregnant at the time visited for 4 HOURS! I was sooo ready for them to go home. I was really tempted to visit them for 4 hrs when we finally visited them, but I didn't. Ha.
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
At the hospital: FIL, MIL, BIL, SIL, BIL and 3 friends.
At home: The same visitors from the hospital + 3 other friends!
11 visitors the first week!
blogger / watermelon / 14218 posts
With our first, we sent out an email when he was born and invited everyone to stop by whenever they wanted. Since it was the weekend we had probably about 40 visitors total...!!!!! The nurses were mind-boggled. Wagon Jr. was the first newborn a lot of our friends have ever held so everyone was so excited for him to be born. And my mom's side of the family is all in our state so they all came the second day.
With our second, my mom's side of the family came again, and just a handful of friends. Just the closest ones.
pear / 1570 posts
At the hospital it was just immediate family and close friends. I did have a coworker stop by unannounced and it was awfu. I didn't want her there and she still makes comments about how 'strange' I was to her!
At home, we had the same family members come by again plus another one of our close friends who had not come to the hospital.