-to church?
-on a plane?
-to a concert? (Like a classical music performance, not a rock concert)
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@Anya: We went to a restaurant (with LO in a wrap) at 8 days.
Plane at 4 months.
Outdoor lawn concert at 6 months.
I had a strict "no one holds the baby" for a month, so anything we did within the month had to fit into that. I guess I don't mean friends couldn't hold the baby, but I wouldn't go to a crowded place before then.
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Don't go to church, but I'd think pretty early.
I flew to CA to see my parents before my maternity leave was up, DS was 2 months old.
Concert I would wait awhile. Besides the fact that it is really loud, I'd be afraid of DS crying/fussing and annoying people. Unless it's a family type concert, I wouldn't expect there to be kids at a concert.
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I can't imagine DS behaving in a church even now at two, but it's a matter of habit. We were at a church wedding recently and there were two babies of maybe six or eight months that stayed quiet through the whole ceremony... I assume because they're there regularly and knew everyone keeps quiet
I don't know about a plane. Never had a fear of flying before DS was born, but now I'm developing this irrational fear of the risks
He's been to restaurants since he was two months old, and to outdoor concerts since one. I think when he's three, he'll be old enough to enjoy a short concert, and tell me if he's getting antsy and needs to go outside!
My brother in law told me that the worst thing you can do with a new baby is stay home and restrict your social life, it's not good for a new mom's mental health. He's got three kids, so I took the advice seriously. There's a lot of things you can't do with a very young child, but there's also a lot you can do, and the list grows as they get older
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I wasn't comfortable taking LO to church until she was like 3 months? But I have a lot of weird anxiety about her needs. (She was EBF, I had a bottle of pumped milk though) & I was worried the music would scare her lol the next time we went she was about 5 months old & I just send her to the nursery now. At 14 months, she would never sit still at church. We still have never flown or taken her to a concert. Being well behaved doesn't mean quiet around here so she probably won't go to a classical music concert ever lol
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I took my baby to church 3 days after she was born. But then again we went to a wedding 11 hrs after birth. I don't have rules about keeping g her home.
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I took DD to church 3 days after birth. I don't fly at all. Have yet to go to a concert. Did take DD to a Christmas Parade at 3 months. That was kinda loud and at 3 months is when I started taking her to the skating rink. My family is all skaters so I'd skate with my stroller.
DS was born during flu season so I refused to take him anywhere.With both kids I had a strict limit and procedure of who could hold them, what they had to do to hold them etc.
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Plane - We did our first cross country trip at 3.5 months.
Concert - I wouldn't feel comfortable bringing a LO to a concert (and it would have to be somewhere children are welcomed) until she was old enough to sit quietly for it. I'm guessing 4? Don't know yet. -
Plane - once they have had their first round of vaccinations
Concert - we've still never taken DS to one (almost 4), but we aren't really concert goers either. If it were an outdoor concert, maybe from 6 months as long as it wasn't too loud. For an indoor, more formal affair, not until he can sit down through the whole thing without being disruptive...I'm thinking 5 or 6 at the earliest?
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Church - I would probably have no problem going as soon as I felt up to it, but I'd keep baby in a carrier and not let anyone touch or hold her.
Plane - 6-8 weeks.
Concert - if it was outdoors and smoke free, etc... I wouldn't have a limit, but of course be aware of noise levels.
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As long as I felt up to it and could wear the baby and feed the baby comfortably in the place I am OK with going pretty much whenever the opportunity presents itself. We didn't really go anywhere the first 3 weeks but then at 3.5 flew and considered going to see a show. At that point the biggest issue for me was that getting baby settled and latched discreetly was near impossible so I wanted a private place to fees her.
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D was in church after a few weeks. M just went for the first time at 7 months but we hadn't been going for our own other reasons. I would have brought him earlier if I could.
D was in a plane at 11 months but we just had no where else to go before that. I'd take M now, but we don't have any plans.
I wouldn't take a kid to a classical concert until at least kindergarten. Thet don't want to be there and they're too disruptive.
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I am thinking more in terms of exposure to people, not the ability to pay attention. I am in a musical group and there is a show about a month after my due date that I'll be attending as a patron instead of performing, and I am wondering if that will seem too soon to expose the baby to a group of people in a high school auditorium.
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@Anya: Honestly, without having a LO yet, I think it would be fine one month after. Baby will probably still be sleeping! DH and I are big concert goers and I plan on getting future LO use to ear phones. Sounds like you won't need them but I would think you'd be fine! Could you wear LO?
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@Anya: The determining factors for me are what time of year would it be and if baby has had their first round of vaxes.
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@LindsayInNY: if she lets me! I didn't tolerate it as an infant, so I don't know what's in store for me lol but I plan to try baby wearing
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@Anya: I would recommend playing it by ear. In my neck of the woods, a fever before vaccinations usually means an automatic spinal tap and hospitalization for an infant. While I was completely stir crazy in those first few weeks, I was too nervous to risk that (and worried that I emotionally would struggle with the guilt a lot if he did get sick).
He went to church (and started doing everything else) after he was vaccinated at 7 weeks.
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@Anya: we were at a church wedding when she was 3 weeks old, a restaurant when she was 3 days old, and we waited to travel on a plane until after first vaccs, but wouldn't do it with a second - I would just go whenever. I wouldn't take a baby or toddler to a classical music concert until they were much, much older because they would have to be quiet so it's not developmentally appropriate for a long time in my view - they just can't be quiet for that long. We have no nursery at our church so I just don't go anymore. We took her to lots of loud sporting events, fairs, and outdoor family music from right away too. She was always in a carrier, as EBF, and didn't get sick ever until she was in the germ cesspool known as daycare.
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Church -1 month old (wearing or in car seat)
Plane - 6 months old
concert- after reading your description I would wear the baby and be fine with it, I just wouldn't let people "hold" her due to the time of year. -
@Anya: I flew with my LO after her 3 month vacs, since my doctor requested I wait until after those. For the concert.....what time is it? Babies are usually right in the throes of the "witching hour" every afternoon-evening until around 10-12 weeks old. So baby may be crying the whole time if it's in the evening.
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Since they were preemies, our ped didn't want them out in public for the first 6-8 weeks. I would have taken them to church quite early. We took them at 6 weeks and it was fine. It's actually easier to take non-mobile babies to church than it is to take toddlers. We always put them in the nursery now!
Plane - We still haven't taken the boys on a plane, but I'm trying to decide if I'm up for flying to a wedding after when this little one is just a 2-3 weeks old. I'm probably going to pass simply because I don't know about taking a January baby to a crowded airports with lots of germy people.
Concert - I don't think they've reached an age I would take them to a concert yet.
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@Anya: church: We went to church at 2 or 3 weeks, but did not sit close to anyone and didn't let anyone touch the baby.
plane: We still haven't taken L anywhere on a plane yet and he's almost 2. not bc i'm not comfortable with it, but b/c we're lame.
concert: We took L to the Firefly festival with us at 5 months. Used ear protection. It was great. Wouldn't do an indoor adult concert b/c of the smoke though.
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When N was born we went out to dinner right after discharge. We had a have baby will travel policy. He went to the zoo at 2 weeks old and a TSO concert at almost 3 months. He did great. He has been to several concerts since then. I second what pp say about headphones tho. I wore him most of the time so no people touching him.
When E was born we had to wait to 13 days for him to get released but we after he was released we didn't confine ourselves to he house. Again I wear him mostly. We flew with both boys in June. E was 4 months and N was 20 months. This was the second plane trip N had been on. I was worried about germ exposure but like I have said we wear the boys and people are respectful of our space.
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Church - I took my LO to an advent service when she was about 2 weeks days old. I just tried to cover her and kept my distance from others.
Plane - I flew across country with her with she was 7 weeks old and again at about 10 or 11 weeks. She did great both ways and didn't get sick. Again, I kept her covered, didn't let people touch her, used hand sanitizer a lot, and was breastfeeding. She traveled better at that age than she has ever traveled since.
We have a family reunion planned for mid-July when baby #2 should be 6 weeks old, and in all likelihood, I will fly with baby and my 2.5 year old at that time, across country, by myself. I hope that's not a crazy plan!
Concert - I would mostly be concerned about disturbing other people. If it's a production for high school students, I wouldn't be too worried, but if was for paying concert goers, I'd probably avoid it. I do think it's a little different since you'd be going to support colleagues. I probably wouldn't go for any other reason given the potential to be a disruption. If your baby is still pretty sleepy at the one month mark and would likely snooze in a wrap or in the carseat carrier, I would consider taking baby. I'd just cover baby with an A&A blanket and not let people into your space. I'd try not to sit too close to others and near a place where you could exit easily.
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