There's a lot of writing recently on the importance of independent play and letting kids do their own thing, even if it seems like they're bored, so I'm wondering, how much do you insert yourself in play time or guide kids when they're playing or even when they're wandering aimlessly? I am very hands off with my 3.5 year old - basically if she's not asking me to play with her, I usually don't - but I sometimes wonder if I should offer myself up more or ask her to play together or let her do her own thing and let her take the lead on company.