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I still have my close friendships, but after me and my DH met I really only hang out with those I consider the closest. And we usually hang out with couples, its hard any more to find common ground with my single friends, and I have only really kept in touch with 2 of them.

I think I have given my friendships a consistent amount of time and attention over the years. That is not to say I haven't phased out some friendships, though. Having my LO has given me more impetus to do so because I just have less time for some BS friendships.

As far as opening up, I do it to varying degrees depending on the person. I open up the most to DH because he understands my entire situation the most vs. friends may only see certain parts of my life.

I have several friends that I open up to almost completely... and those who I consider good friends, but I don't tell them everything.

For instance, I haven't shared that we're TTC with anyone but my best friend. I obviously tell my DH the most and he knows me in a way that even my good friends don't.

I don't open up very much, because they don't seem to care anymore. My friendships have def. changed since getting married and having a baby. I've made new friends with some mom's, but I haven't known them long enough to open up too much.

I open up to close friends. I tend to be pretty emotional and I don't like to overwhelm DH or talk to him too much about things he can't relate to because he just gets confused or frustrated. However, I usually open up to my friends more than they do to me. It gets sad sometimes when I feel like I trust my friends and want to confide in them and then they don't do the same with me.

I saw this quote and it made me think if this thread!

‎"Sometimes we expect more from others because we'd be willing to do much more for them; and as we grow older, we don't lose friends, we just learn who the real ones are."

I definitely open up to my friends, but I really only have ONE really close friend that knows everything about me (including that we're TTC and what days we BD, haha). We've been through some up and downs in the past, but we've really grown closer and closer together over the years. I'm happy to have her in my life.

That being said, I know that I can only really be a good friend to one or two people at a time. It's hard to be a good friend to lots of people, which is why I only have one really good friend (plus my husband).

I have to admit that I'm bad at keeping in touch with my friends back home. Whenever we talk, it's more general news since we talk so infrequently, which leaves no real opening-up time. It's just so hard with the time difference and they all have young babies too, so they don't have much time to keep in touch in general. But we have FB, and that's pretty much our link.

Whenever we visit, we see each other and for the most part, nothing's changed - which is great, but I wish we had more time to talk.

My 2-3 close friendships have just gotten closer. Can talk to two of them about ANYTHING, and can talk to one about anything that isn't troubling to me.