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Nope. I think about weight probably once a month. I just got the scale out for the second time in probably 6 months so I could get some lotion hiding behind it.

@Silva: I scrolled a long time before I got to yours and that does make me sad.

MIL is obese. Her daughters are overly concerned with weight, so much that her youngest had/has struggles with bulimia. DH doesn't listen to his body well. There's a treat available? Eat the WHOLE THING. Amazing food? Eat till you're uncomfortable.

My mother never seemed concerned about weight, hers, ours, anyone's. I never heard her comment about how a swimsuit wasn't flattering, or her pants were too tight. We never had diets in our house. We had family treats every Monday for family night and every day after school we had the option of some processed unhealthy plastic wrapped treats to hold us over till dinner.

I know that I've been blessed genetically with a small body, a decent metabolism, and two babies who breastfed and stole all my bonus weight. But I think the biggest blessing is a mother who taught me how to have a healthy relationship with my body.

I hope that DH's habits don't pass on to the kids. I hope I can replicate the home I had.

@LCTBQE: I am exactly the same! When my weight is under control, I feel under control and eat better. If I gain weight, it becomes an obsession. I was a dancer, a gymnast, and a diver and have a very judgemental family so I definitely have body image issues. I fared better than my sister, who has been anorexic for 15 years.

@LCTBQE: @pachamama: Samesies. I maintained my weight for 2.5 years after DS and it was the last thing on my mind.

Before literally two days ago, my answer was “never”. I’ve always been naturally small, so much so that I felt self conscious about it growing up - I played sports and wanted to be strong over being skinny (I do recognize the privilege talking a little here).

But I just had my second baby 3 months ago and I didn’t love my reflection the other day when I walked by a mirror, and then realized I more so didn’t love my lack of energy every day. I definitely ate all the things while pregnant and it’s been hard to knock that habit now that he’s here.

So, my plan is just to add more of the good stuff - fruits and veggies, beans/legumes, more vegan recipes - and to get back into exercise *not as punishment or to lose weight* but to FEEL GOOD. We have a fantastic local stroller fitness class and I’m a yoga teacher, so luckily I have opportunity to make that happen. I’m also dying to get back into running - nothing beats those endorphins!

All day every day— I am a size 14 pants right now and just want to get back down to a 10. I lost a ton of weight after my first daughter and was down to a size 4. This time, I’ve lost only 20 pounds of the 50 I gained. I haven’t been exercising at all. It’s so hard to prioritize the time/logistics to exercise with 2 kiddos! But, like I said above, I’ve started intermittent fasting (kind of) and I’ve lost a few pounds in the last month. At least it’s a move in the right direction. I hate thinking about weight/size/how I look all the time. I’d never let my girls know what I’m thinking. I keep a positive body attitude at all times (just not on the inside).

@CatchAFallingStar: I started off doing 16:8 - I would fast 7pm-11am. After a couple weeks of that I was able to extend my window to 7pm-1pm. Then I realized that at 1pm if I just had a couple of snacks that would keep me satisfied until dinner and I wasn’t really all that hungry. So now I do One Meal a Day. I fast 7pm-1pm, have a couple of snacks, eat a normal dinner and dessert before closing my window again by 7. On the weekends I am more relaxed because I don’t want my girls to see me not eating. So I do 16:8 on weekends. I love being able to eat normal foods with my family. And I love that nothing is off limits, as long as it’s eaten within my window. Have you read Delay Don’t Deny by Gin Stephens? It’s awesome.

I agree with you - the most impactful part was not eating in the evenings. I had developed a bad habit of planning out what treat I would have once my kids were in bed because I felt like I deserved it after a long stressful day. How long have you been doing IF?

@charm55: Same about the treat and Netflix after DS bedtime! I assume the fasting after 7 pm means no wine too

Chiming in to add that with our son having two moms, weight, size, calories, etc is a pretty typical dinner conversation. I think we really need to stop it in front of him.....

I'm late to this thread but I definitely think about my weight a lot. I'm pregnant with baby number 3 and I've gained so much weight the past few years. I had all my babies back to back pretty much and never breastfed. It bothers me a lot. I feel so self conscious and gross. I also had a mother who made and still makes comments about my weight. I also had an ex who left me cause he "didn't want to be with a fat girl"....I wasn't even big then.

I'm trying to learn to love myself. I've always been taught growing up by family and people I knew that overweight was unattractive and made you ugly and dumb. I know that's sounds so stupid. I totally don't agree with that. My husband is so supportive of me and thinks I'm beautiful ans has told me this isn't true at all.

now I do what to watch how I eat cause I will gain too much while I'm pregnant and my body is starting to ache from my rapid weight gain.

@Autumnmama79: I have also found some really great inspiration on just letting the stress of it go from social media. I really love Jameela Jamil’s social media and also her iweigh page. Just acknowledging how much traditional media screws up our mental perceptions of ourselves and what has value. I still want to be skinnier and look better in clothes but I more want to be healthy and happy and enjoy life.

it's been on my mind daily for the last 4 months or so. I have been doing Noom to loose wait I gained over the summer when I had a very short pregnancy and also weened. It was so emotional to carry the weight and it wasn't going anywhere on its own. I am feeling so much better. Before kids, i was one of those people who didn't think about what i ate and easily maintained a healthy weight. I am hoping that I will adjust back (I am now at my pre-baby weight and down about 25 pounds from August) and in a few months, I won't have to think about it so much.... I am also exercising often and that has been so good for my mental health and I know it will help me maintain my figure long term. (I do kinda miss my boobs)

@crazydoglady: I've stuck with it. I dont have anything else to compare it to. It's starting to get a little old and I am having trouble keeping up with the tasks. But it's been a great structure and i really like the way it handles food categories. I think it's sustainable.

I do not think about my weight very often.... in fact when I was trying to lose a few lbs I had to make a post on here to keep me "thinking" about it and keep it on my mind..

I am about 15-20 lbs heavier than I should be.

I am ok with it although I do not want it to affect my health in the long run.. so far it hasn't but I wish I had a magic ball that could tell me hey you need to lose that weight bc that's whats gonna do ya in or hey dont' worry about it, the weight doesnt' matter....

Anyway, DH has a very very un healthy relationship with food and I have never been able to figure out why. But he is crazy gluttonous and he eats if he's stressed and he eats to celebrate and he eats if hes has a bad day. And I mean he eats... like a whole icecream thing in 1-2 days. A whole bag of chips might last 2 sittings...

I really hope my kids don't get that from him. I don't talk about weight or dieting or anything in front of the kids. And I am truly happy and fine with how I am.

MY issue is that DH wants me to "GET HEALTHY WITH HIM" like it will help him do better if I jump on board and eat what he eats..... but I dont' want to. I want to enjoy my food and eat what I want and I don't have the relationship he does with food so I dont' feel like I need to do what he does..... this is constant with him. He yo-yo's so crazily up and down from eating paleo or keto and being in ketosis to glomming in icecream and pork rinds....

Do I have to diet with him even if I dont' want to???

@Ajsmommy: there are certain foods like chips that you just know (or at least some of us) you won't eat the right amount... I only buy those in single services or not at all for that reason. I don't know who grocery shops at your house. With my husband he will want to get healthy together but when I try cooking healthier he just doesn't eat it. Drives me nuts and he knows it!

In case folks didn't catch this in the link roundup on the blog, I thought this was a great article: https://slate.com/human-interest/2019/01/child-body-image-advice-weight-shaming.html It's especially on my mind with a kid who's already getting a "non-typical" body.