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I've never called to check on DS at daycare.

I've called a handful of times in 3+ years. Usually when one of them is sick or recovering from a sickness

Never unless I was worried about something. But lots of my coworkers call daily.

Never...

Never.

The director is available via text.... Occasionally. She will also text if T has diaper rash or if she has a question. We don't get those daily report cards.

I've never called to check on DS. They will call me if there is a problem.

I have never done that.

ETA: I do occasionally email them, but it's about logistics like a billing issue or a question about sending supplies/gear to school.

I've never called to check on her. When lo first started, the head teacher texted me updates to let me know she was doing well. Otherwise I just talk to the teachers at pick up/drop off. I've only called when lo was sick or going to be late

I called a few times during his first week, and since then only once when he had a really bad drop off to make sure he'd stopped crying.

@stargal: How old are they?
WHen LO started she was 12 weeks so I called once a day for the first week. then I stopped calling. I knew they would call me if there was an issue

I have never called. Our sitter called on the first day (to ask if she should wake her from a long nap, lol) but would normally only call if she had a fever or another symptom worthy of getting picked up early.

In the early days, we got a "report card" of when she slept and pooped and how much she drank. Once that became consistent, the reports stopped. (DD goes to an in home daycare.) Every now and then she sends pics, but not often.

I don't think I've ever called just to check in. Maybe once when she was having a hard time her first few weeks. I do call pretty frequently though when I need something (generally they forget to release her daily reports to my email or I have a question about something).

@stargal: I called a handful of times in the early days. I knew he was fine, but I wanted to HEAR it, you know? I teach preschool and have a parent every so often who needs a little more reassurance. Currently I have a mom who calls every single day just to hear me say "Yes, his morning was great! He did XYZ and is resting well now." she makes sure to call during rest time and it's really brief. I don't mind it, so don't worry about being "that mom" for a while.

I've called twice in a year I think??

I used to call every day when he was little. He went through a rough patch where he wasn't napping and was sick all the time, then they moved rooms and he was miserable every day at drop off. Part of the reason I called was because all of the teachers that would spend most of the day with him would be gone by pick up. And I never felt like the daily sheets were all that helpful.

Once we switched daycare I stopped calling. And FWIW, we switched at 15m and even now at 2.8, we still have days of crying and clingey-ness at drop off.

I've never called preschool/daycare (other than to say a child is not coming in that day). Preschool has never called me (except for a time a check got lost in the mail and I owed them $$, haha). Daycare has called my husband a few times because DD2 was (a) pretty worked up or (b) calm again after being worked up, but I think they only do that because they know he's on-site (it is a backup daycare at his office).

@stargal: I don't mean this AT ALL unkindly, but do you think you might feel better NOT knowing everything as it is happening at daycare ? I know that when daycare calls DH to say DD2 is having a crummy day (or hour!), and he subsequently calls me, all it does is make us feel like crap. DD2 is not sick, not hurt, not in need of anything, she's just expressing her displeasure at doing something she doesn't really want to do....and them calling us doesn't change anything, because since none of the above are issues, we're not cancelling essential meetings/appointments to go pick her up when nothing is actually wrong.

ETA: but as a previous poster said, you're paying, so as long as you're not wanting to have long conversations with them, I don't think it's a big deal to call for a quick check if it actually DOES ease your mind.

I should add that for the first 2 months (4-6 month old) of her being in daycare, she was able to be in the daycare onsite at work so I went over everyday during lunch to hang out with her. By the time she went to a normal daycare she was 6 months old and I wasn't worried.