How often do you & SO go out on a "date"? Whether it be night time or day time. Do you hire a babysitter or ask grandparents?
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Once every two months or so. We go out in the evening but are back before LOs bed time. We have the grandparents watch her. They would be soooo sad if we ever hired a babysittee!
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Goodness, we never do. Seriously, never. We really should, but we spend all our free time working on the house or hanging out with friends + family. It might be a good chance to give the grandparents some alone time with DD.
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We try to go at least once a month. Right now we have been going every couple of weeks since we are taking advantage of summer and the fact that LO isn't here yet.
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We made a pact to go every month, but so far this year, we have been once. We ask my parents to babysit.
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Once or twice every 3-4 years.
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@mrbee: LOL!
LO isn't here yet so we go on date at least once a week if not more! But when LO gets here we are committing to once a week after the first month. I think it's important because we are living with my parents for a while and need "us" time. It helps that we will have my parents right there to watch her!
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Not often enough. I'd like some quality alone time at least once a week, but DH and I spend most of our time passing each other like ships in the night. This thread makes me want to plan a date night ASAP.
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We're both taking this Friday off and LO will go to daycare, so we can do stuff around the house and go out to a proper lunch. Dates don't have to be just at night, but it's so hard to change my mindset!
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@TheReelDeal: yea, we have not gone on one since she was 4m so that was... 9 months ago! And it was for a massage then lunch!
ILs finally offered to babysit so we're thinking about taking them up on their offer!
@looch: day "dates" are def easier right now! M still nurses to sleep so it's me all the time! Our 2 since she was born was early early dinner then a massage and lunch date!
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almost never. we went out exactly twice in DS's first year but this year we're spending some weekends at my parents' beach house so that we can go out to movies. we've gone out on dates the past two weekends.
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About once a month. Sometimes it's to a wedding or party, but I still count it. We get a babysitter because my mom will only watch Liam at her house and it's too hard to deal with bedtime there.
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@mrs. tictactoe: how does your mom react to that? We've been wondering if it would be insulting to hire a babysitter with grandparents here. But we don't think they will want to watch her as often as we would like.
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Not often enough. We've only had two dates since LO was born (almost 7 months). Writing that makes me sad
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Every other Friday my parents take LO for the night, so we get a date every other Friday night! We usually go out to dinner, sometimes we also see a movie.
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I am excited because Mr. T says we can as soon as the girls are in college! Score!! That's, like, only about 17 years away...
But truly, we have not been alone together (unless you count when kids are sleeping and we are at home "alone" together but don't have to actively parent, which I totally count, but Mr. T does not) since before Lorelei was born.
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@regberadaisy: She definitely wants us to hire a babysitter!
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We went like once a week for the first few months my son was here, but now it seems like its always for weddings and the like, instead of actual dates. And only like once a minth or so. Grandparents always watch.
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we try to go on a nighttime date night once a month...we run errands together whenever we can when my mom is over~
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We used to go out once a week when we only had one kid, but now that we have two... I'm guessing our dates will be more like 2-3 times a year. It's too hard to expect one person to watch two kids right now.
We just went on our first date since our 2nd baby was born (he's 3.5 months) this past weekend because my SIL was in town... so my MIL and SIL was able to watch them together for a few hours. It was so nice to go out just the two of us for dinner and a movie.
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@looch: that is a great point!!
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We have a sitter lined up for one hour on Wednesday nights. It usually ends up being about 3 times a month but it allows us to go to the store together, out for a treat together, or to the gym together without LO in tow. Its great money spent.
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We have gone out on a date one time since the boys were born 5 months ago. And that's the last time we were out alone together too!
We're going to a baseball game in mid-August as part of my company's summer social. Does that count as a date??
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We try to go once a month. My BIL babysits for us. He comes over after LO goes down for the night and DH and I go out for dinner. Now that summer is coming, we will probably go to lunch a bit more often becaus ehe is a teacher and has the summer off although not too much as we also need to save $$$.
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Not very often! We've been on two dates this year. Once we hired a babysitter and once my mom watched LO. They are definitely a rare treat!
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@mrbee: how do you deal??? Date night keeps me sane!
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@looch: same. We committed to once a month but haven't been successful. I try to remember that we can do things during the day too.
We go on a date every couple of months. Since the beginning of the year, we've only been on 2. We're hoping to go watch a movie this weekend. We have plenty of grandparents to watch him so we don't hire anyone.
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We're scheduling them once a month. We'll have them the same day every month (eg. first Friday of the month) and my mum will look after DD. Looking forward to the first one...I really want to go to the movies!
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@Rainbow Sprinkles: haha who said I'm sane? Anyway we don't have family nearby, so to go on a date requires a lot of money in babysitting. Not in the budget just yet...
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@mrbee: I hear ya! the night that DH was working and I was away it was over $100 for a babysitter in the city. yikes.
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@mrbee: @rachiecakes: what?! How much are babysitters in the city?! My good friend's sister is a elementary school teacher that lives in Bklyn if you want a sitter! haha
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@regberadaisy: $15/hour is pretty average
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We are hoping to go once a month. LO is 6 weeks now... Not sure when I'll be comfortable leaving her!!!
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@hergreenapples: when is your first one?
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@rachiecakes: oh ok, that's not bad. I'm guessing $100 was overnight?
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@Mrs. High Heels: Oh I'm dreading that! We're like you and go about 2-3x per month, but if we have another, it's going to be hard to get someone to watch over two babies.
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@regberadaisy: 5pm to midnight
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@BabyBoecksMom: We were so fortunate to be able to go on regular dates with one kid, but I'm hopeful that once my 2nd one becomes a toddler, it'll be easier for one person to watch two toddlers at the same time! Two toddlers can entertain each other, and by that age their routines should be pretty predictable and consistent too, right?? Or maybe it's wishful thinking, ha!
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Before LO, every week. Since LO, my Mom has come twice but that was in the first 5 weeks. We need a date night! Now that she is better with bottles, I am going to hit my Mom up again.
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@sslm: Sorry..forgot to reply! First one will hopefully be sometime this month. We already left her with my mum to go to DH's best friend's wedding a couple weekends ago and it went really well, so it was after that that I decided we should make it a regular, scheduled thing.
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