It's been 4 months since my dad's funeral, and I've only visited him at the local cemetery twice. I would like to visit him more, but I find it really hard. I always go alone, as it's just too hard for me to visit him with someone else there... I usually just want to talk to him, and that gets me really emotional.

I have it in my head that I should visit him at least once a month, and I'd like to bring fresh flowers (there are lots of beautiful wild flowers on our property). I'm not ready to do that yet, but I'm working toward it... I want to tend to his gravesite, and you need to do that at least every few weeks.

If you've lost a loved one, how often do you visit the cemetery?