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Age when you're done having children?

  1. skipra

    pomegranate / 3350 posts

    I want to be done before I turn 35. We are thinking about a third but there is only a small window that I would want to have him, after DS1 turns 4 but before I turn 35 so we'll see if that happens. Otherwise I guess I'm done at 32.

  2. LuLu Mom

    GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts

    I'm a 75% sure we are going to be a 2 kid family, and if that's the case I'll be done at 30 (if I get pregnant like I want soon.) If we went up switching to a 3 kid family then more like 33. I'm 29 now.

  3. Ginger333

    kiwi / 543 posts

    I wanted to be done by the time I was 35 ... but I'm 35 now and I'd be thrilled if I ended up with one more (#4).

  4. Somebunny

    cherry / 231 posts

    I hope to have our next when I'm 30. I'm 28 now. DH would like to be done after that but I want at least one more. He's agreed to discuss it further after we have our second. So we'll see... I would like to be done by the time I'm 35.

  5. Weagle

    coconut / 8498 posts

    I think we'll be a 3, maybe 4, kid family. With our desired spacing, that would put me done by 30. However, our spacing is very flexible, and we want to have the option of adding to our family later on. I'd like to be done with my childbearing years by 33. We're especially interested in adoption, but are certain we would want our adopted child(ren) younger than our last biological. So, I could be quite a bit older by the time we finish growing our family.

  6. meredithNYC

    pomegranate / 3314 posts

    We're also a 2, maybe 3 family. LO #1 was born when I was 30, trying for #2 now at 33, and if we go for #3, I would like to be done by 35 or 36.

  7. Raindrop

    grapefruit / 4731 posts

    35! Because we are hoping to try for a 3rd but definitely 37 if plans change.

  8. loveisstrange

    pineapple / 12526 posts

    Id like to say 30, but probably done before 35. Im 26, it'll be 4 years before we can talk about another.

    If I hit 35 before we get to that point, we'll just call it done.

  9. SugarplumsMom

    bananas / 9227 posts

    42. I realized that's a little crazy after reading all your responses! But I'd prefer to be under 40.

  10. MrsTiz

    cantaloupe / 6800 posts

    We want 2, maybe 3 and we plan to be done before DH is 30.

  11. Mrs. Sunshine

    hostess / cantaloupe / 6486 posts

    We are a two maybe three family....I'm 22 so I'm hoping to be done by 30 but DH is almost 26 & I just realized that I don't know what his age threshold is. If his is 30 we may just have two....we only have one right now but I've always pictured having 3!

  12. LindsayLou

    persimmon / 1322 posts

    If all goes according to plan, I'd like to be done by 32, if we decide to have 3. If we only end up having 2, more like 30. I just turned 26 and we hope to have our first before I'm 28.

  13. winniebee

    hostess / wonderful grape / 20803 posts

    Was initially thinking 35 but then #1 didn't come until I was almost 32 and #2 will be here when I'm 34. If we have a third I will most likely be 36.

  14. ILoveLettie

    kiwi / 566 posts

    Our first was a surprise and we're planning on being 1 and done so we were done at 22!

  15. BabyBoecksMom

    GOLD / papaya / 10166 posts

    31 and done

  16. MamaG

    pomelo / 5298 posts

    40. I will be 40 when this one is born in November and we are definitely done.

    40 was always my cutoff when DH and I discussed family.

  17. Mrs. Cheesecake

    blogger / kiwi / 588 posts

    @Snowdrop: Happy birthday Snowdrop!

    I was 30 when we had our first and we are currently working our way towards our second. We'll see if we decide to have a third. I think that I would ideally like to be done having kids by 35.

  18. illumina

    pomelo / 5469 posts

    35 has always been my cut off. I will most likely be 33 when #2 arrives, so that leaves a small, but doable window for #3 if we choose to have a 3rd.

  19. KT326

    pomegranate / 3438 posts

    I'm almost 31, if we start treatments again at the end of the year will probably be 32 when we have our next one. A third is still up in the air but I would like to be done by 36.

  20. plantains

    grapefruit / 4671 posts

    I'm 34 now and we don't plan to try #2 until next year so some time before 40 i guess? I don't know. I will be done when we have #2.

  21. Dandelion

    watermelon / 14206 posts

    I'm pretty sure I'm done now that I have M. I'm 32.

  22. jetsa

    grapefruit / 4663 posts

    I always said 30 was my cutoff. I'm 28 now and would love another but DH is hesitant so we will see. I also thought I'd be married by 22 and I was 25.

  23. Mrs.ThinMint

    apricot / 274 posts

    I'm pregnant with our first now. I'll be 24 (almost 25) when he's born. The plan is to have the second one when I'm 27 with a 2.5 year age gap. We may want a 3rd, which I'll probably have at 29 or 30 if we keep up with the 2.5 year age gap.

  24. blackbird

    wonderful grape / 20453 posts

    I think 35 for us. I'd like to have our third in our early 30's and a 4th is tentatively on the table.

  25. yerpie110

    nectarine / 2771 posts

    I had LO 1 at 29 and will be ttc for LO 2 in January 2015, so I will most likely be 32 when he/she arrives. I am 99% sure we would be done with biological children at that point, unless we had an oops baby. If we changed our minds, the latest I would actively try to would be around age 35.

  26. Sophs Mama

    apricot / 429 posts

    I'll be a month shy of 28 when #2 arrives, and we hope to have the same spacing for #3, so I'll be almost 30 by the time we have #3!

  27. Synchronicity

    grapefruit / 4089 posts

    Hope to be done by 30, but it has nothing to do with that specific age. Our "plan" (although, I know what they say about planning things like this....) is to have our first before/at 27 (TTC this fall), and our second about 2 years after that. My limit would probably be 35!

  28. simplyfelicity

    cantaloupe / 6634 posts

    DH and I are leaning towards 2 kids though I would be thrilled with 3. I am currently 29 and due with our first LO next spring. So, probably 32 or 33 for 2 and 35 for 3.

  29. Glitter

    persimmon / 1281 posts

    I want 2 more before 32. I'm 27.

  30. MrsMccarthy

    honeydew / 7295 posts

    @Snowdrop: Happy Birthday!

  31. septca

    GOLD / pomegranate / 3688 posts

    Exactly what @Winniebee said. I would have liked to say 35, but if we want 3 that just isn't going to be possible.

  32. Mrs.Panda

    nectarine / 2358 posts

    I'll be 28 in a week and am currently cooking LO#1. We want to start trying for #2 next Fall so they will be just barely 2 under 2, where I will be 30. Same deal, so maybe done by 32 or 34 depending on how many we have. DH wants 4 though I think I'd be happy with 3. So, done by 35.

  33. Mrs.Panda

    nectarine / 2358 posts

    @Snowdrop: happy birthday!! Mine is the 8th and I'll be 28

  34. hellocupcake

    persimmon / 1171 posts

    We're most likely done after this one, but if DH wanted one more he has until I'm 30 to decide...3 more years.

  35. Greentea

    pomelo / 5678 posts

    I don't think I have a set age in mind. We had LO at 29 and she is a year.

  36. SleepyMonkey

    grapefruit / 4006 posts

    We are a two maybe three family too, but if we go for a third I don't want to do it until this one is older, like 4-5 years old. So whenever that happens!

  37. kjpugs

    grapefruit / 4862 posts

    ASAP. We waited longer to have kids than I would have liked. I waiver often between omg let's have more right nowwwww so I'm not "too old" (just my comfort level) and omg I could not handle another right now!

  38. DillonLion

    GOLD / eggplant / 11517 posts

    Most likely done at 25.

  39. Ra

    honeydew / 7586 posts

    One and done at 29.

  40. googly-eyes

    GOLD / pomelo / 5737 posts

    I originally planned to be done by 30(ish) but if #2 happens soon, it'll be 25 since I'm not really open to the idea of a 3rd anymore and I don't want to stretch my child raising years too long by having them really far apart.. We got married and started young so that's the reason why, not really an age thing.

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