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We live in the same area as both sets of parents, but we decided to wait to tell them until after our 12 week appointment when we got to hear the heartbeat. And it worked out nicely because we also had an early ultrasound picture that we could give to each of them. Both put it up on their fridges right away!

My plan was to wait until after the official doctors apt.... but I didn't realize that the doctors make you wait so long! So I wanted about less than a week. We see both of our parents multiple times a week so there was no way we were waiting.

I did end up miscarrying during my first pregnancy, but there was no way I would have been able to go through it without both of our parents support. It was a really rough time for me, I ended up having to have two d&c's.. Only family knew and I was glad to have it that way.

The first time, I told them right away. When I m/c a few months later, I found out they had to call up a bunch of people and let them know-even though I told them to keep quiet. So they lost my trust in keeping secrets. And they weren't supportive when I m/c, so I was more angry at myself for even telling them, because they were so awful about it. I would've much, much preferred that only my husband and a close friend or two have known. My friends were amazing.

This time, I told them after my 11 week appointment/ultrasound. My mom was all hurt I kept it from her, but I know I made the right choice. It took them awhile to get over that.

I found out at 4 weeks but we told my parents and siblings at 6 weeks when we saw them. Told the inlaws at 9 weeks when we saw them. We had an ultrasound at 8 weeks.

I didnt tell my parents until I was 11 weeks. It was hard not telling but we really wanted to keep it to ourselves.

We told our parents and my sister after my dating ultrasound at about 6 weeks, when we saw a heartbeat. I would have waited a little longer - maybe 8 weeks, but SO really wanted to tell his parents so we compromised with waiting until after the ultrasound.

We were so excited, that we couldn't keep it quiet for even 30 minutes! I'm terrible with secrets and a horrible liar!

I'm not voting, because I'm not pregnant yet, but I have thought about this. I will tell my older sister/BFF right away, like, hours after I tell DH. But everyone else, I'd like to wait until after we hear the heartbeat, so whenever that is.
But, we don't see our families that often, my family like once a month or sometimes longer (we prob won't see them until Thanksgiving) and his family, only a couple of times a year (across the country, we'll see them at Christmas). So, telling them will also be partly affected by the timing. Like, I'd push it in either direction by a few weeks to be able to tell them in person, but at the same time, if I got a BFP while visiting them, I'd keep it to ourselves probably. It would be tough though, b/c both my mom and MIL are always offering me wine!

We found out on a Wednesday, told his parents on a Thursday, and told my parents on a Friday.

I don't plan on sharing the news that early again next time. No one was able to keep a secret LOL

We skyped with both of our families (they both live far away) within like 3 hrs of the BFP and told parents and siblings. We couldn't wait! They all knew we were TTC and we're older (34 and 38) so wanted to share. Plus we're close with them so it's not like we wouldn't have told them if something went wrong. My FIL ended up spilling the beans to a ton of people so that's a bummer, but my parents know better and haven't told a soul. We're waiting til either a heartbeat or 12 weeks to tell aunt and uncles, cousins, etc. Haven't decided which yet.

Everyone knew we were doing fertility treatments so it was kinda hard to not tell anyone. I was so excited when I got my BFP that I called my mom before I told DH! In my defense, he was camping and I wouldn't see him until the next day. I think we told his Dad and sister the following weekend when we saw them.

the day of! we can't keep things like this hidden... we get too giddy.

A couple of minutes after we found out!

I wanted to wait longer than we did but we had a big St. Patrick's Day party planned for when I was about 7 weeks along with all our local friends. It was going to be way, way too hard to keep it from people at the party but we knew we wanted our families to know before everyone else so we went ahead and told them in advance of the party. I had already had a dating ultrasound and was able to see a heartbeat even that early.
We did ask the family to keep it quiet for a while (which I am not sure if they did or not - and I guess it's better not to know if they did!). I didn't tell my work or make it public on Facebook/the internet until I was 14 weeks.

We told immediate family right away. I knew that IF I experienced a mc I would need & want their support. We told everyone else at 9 weeks bc I couldn't hide it any more (second pregnancy).

We told them the day we found out. Oops. It was my dads birthday so I couldn't hold it in since I knew how ready he was to be a grandpa.

We told my parents, siblings, grandparents, and aunts the day we found out. It was 3 days after Christmas and we were home visiting. We would have waited until after the first trimester but DH was deploying 2 weeks later and we wanted to tell them together. He also told his parents before he left and we swore everyone to secrecy.

About a week after..I was really nervous!

We waited till about 11 weeks. We knew our parents couldnt keep a secret so we decided to wait. We just waited until our first ultrasound was all good!

Found out on a fri, told mom on Sunday, had a major hemorrhage on Monday. Thought I was having a mc and so so
glad we waited to tell people. The baby ended up
Being ok, but glad not many people knew what was going on.