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@bakingdoodle: She doesn't 'have' to take care of the other grandson, they all three go to an in-home daycare, but she tends to spend a lot more time with the other grandson and my DS definitely notices it.

Daycare is charged hourly, only if they're there, but it's not about the money, its about getting to spend time with grandma, because they all love her. I get that it's hard for her to take all 3 kids, I just wish she'd spend an equal amount of time with each one.. like if she takes DS Wednesday, then actually take DD for a full day sometime. It might be easier for me to explain to DD that DS gets to go to grandma's today, but you get to go on Friday.

I'm not sure what the solution is, b/c this is an ongoing issue, even with the 5 older grandkids... with my stepdaughter who is 16, MIL at one point decided she wasn't going to go to ANY concerts/sports b/c it was too hard to go to ONE of each kids events.

MIL lives with my FIL, but he's a total a$$, so I usually do feel bad for her. She has to deal with his crap constantly, and my DH can be pretty blunt about these things, I try to keep the peace. I do appreciate that she can help out sometimes, but times like this can be so frustrating! I wish my parents were closer...

@gotkimchi: Thanks, it is tough! Their daycare is in-home so the other kids will always notice if one gets picked up.

@MaryM: He is 4 1/2. That was what DH said as well... that if she wants to bail on him, she should tell him, not us.
@runnerd: I can get that she would only want one child at a time... which is why I suggested she take both for a shorter period and just pick them up early OR plan another day that will be DD's day. Very valid point though because she is very easily stressed out.
@Mrsbells: True, my 2 year old is definitely the harder one to deal with! But the last time DS went with grandma DD cried all the way from grandma's to daycare, which breaks MY heart. Gma doesn't get to see that.

Ugh. MIL is apparently having a breakdown and I get to bear the brunt of it right now. She's tired of her 'family' hurting her and so her answer is apparently to upset her grandchild instead of being angry at the adults in the family. And since I was the last one to see her, it's my fault I guess.

@Ajsmommy: It is, and often with her, but after a four hour message back and forth I think we got it cleared up, so at least WE are good.

@ElbieKay: She ended up taking DS today and promising to take DD next week; I'll have to hold her to it since she hasn't taken DD from the last time she said she would.