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Have you asked your daughter where she learned to say things like that? I find my daughter is pretty reliable with the information she gives me so I like to ask her before I approach the teacher or director. If she confirms your suspicions I would definitely say something to the director. In our state, time outs are actually not even allowed legally. Though to be honest I find that frustrating because it leaves the teachers no way to discipline or give a negative consequence when there are kids hitting/biting or being really aggressive.

I would definitely ask your LO. E does bizarre things that I really don't think she gets from daycare-TV or another kid maybe! Or a book? Could be totally nothing

@blackbird: @sandy: that was my thought too. Sometimes my kid comes up with the most bizarre things. Like one time he said in a very monotone, low voice, "I'm going to hurt you now." And I am 100% he did not hear that anywhere. It was actually kind of creepy. But I don't think he even understood what he was really saying. But yeah he's come up with some weird stuff on his own.

I hope everything works out! I do tell our daycare provider stories of things he does sometimes (like the time I heard him singing the Nicki Minaj song, "oh my god, look at her butt", and found out he'd heard it from her son...) because if he did pick up things at her house- she is really great about nipping it in the bud and dealing with it.

If you usually chat with the director I would say something... Yes it's possible she's just making it up or something but if you've already seen interactions you aren't really comfortable with at daycare I would say something. You could just say what she was playing and say something like "I'm not sure if it came from here or not but I've seen a few teachers speak harshly to a few kids before and I felt like I needed to ask about it" If nothing else it keeps the director aware and maybe they need to review their policies with a teacher. I'm sorry you have to struggle with figuring out where it came from and I hope you can have a positive conversation with the director.

That would concern me too I have noticed LO saying things I believe she picked up at daycare like, "I sorry," and she says, "Don't touch" when she touches herself during a diaper change. Even though I am okay with both (I think the latter is not shaming but because they don't want her to get a poop covered hand) I still get that twinge-y feeling, like, "What are you saying to and teaching my baby?" So I can only imagine how you would feel.

Having said that, there's a lot of ways she could have learned this! What if one of the other kids has parents that use this kind of discipline, and she has seen it acted out during play? Or she could have even seen it on TV if she watches TV? We put in a Care Bears DVD on a recent road trip and I was really kind of alarmed by some of the negative messages in it!

Still, I would definitely talk to the daycare, but I would probably bring it up in more of a neutral, curious way than accusing, because you just don't know.