I read this article yesterday and thought it was lovely. Autumnlove's post on having PP help (or "help") reminded me of it as I think about the influx of visitors and how I want DH and I to handle it in about 3 months. Mostly, I just don't want a repeat of feeling like my needs and wants were steamrolled. I even had someone tell me, "it's not about you, it's about the baby" when I said I didn't want visitors right away.
So:
http://homecomingdoula.com/2015/02/how-to-love-mom-two-words/