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He’s still little. I’d just say nothing and quietly pat him on the back/ rub his back until he falls back asleep. Although, if he isn’t hungry or fussy then just leave him to fall asleep solo. My second went though a patch around 4.5 months where he would wake up and yell and make noises (not unhappily) beside our bed in his crib and I just did not engage. Sometimes it lasted an hour and then he would pass back out.

If he’s sleeping 3-4 then a 5 pm nap seems unnecessary and probably interferes with his fatigue level and ability to fall asleep for bedtime. Soon he’ll be in the recommended ideal sleep training age by a lot of sleep consultants, which is 16 weeks so just set up your good habits now, not feeding to sleep, not picking up unless it’s really necessary, not letting him sleep on you, keeping night wakings/ feedings boring and dark, etc.

How do you put him to sleep now? Does he go to sleep on his own? I am totally not in the camp that there’s a “right” approach just sharing an idea if you are rocking or feeding to sleep. Mine was a little older maybe 4m so take that into account but my approach to fixing night this time was to start with naps. Every nap I knew she was fed and changed, then she went in the crib and I sang her the same song. (She still is not on a hard schedule but I had a general idea and then I started naptime with any tiredness signal.) Then I left and set the timer for 5m. If she was fussing/crying, I went in at 5m and patted and sang the same song. When she was calm, I left and set the timer again. At first it might have taken 20-25m but soon there was no fussing that required help. I did the same at first bedtime. It didn’t fix night immediately but it seemed to make a difference in putting sleep together and gave me a huge break to not have to try to get her to sleep myself, to let her do it. Just seemed like practice when everyone was less tired. Anyway, the 5m timeframe was because I could handle that without feeling cruel and while it may take longer than serious CIO it worked for this baby. I do think every baby is different, so not saying you should do what I did but maybe it will spark an idea to try.

ETA I also had luck with a bedtime tank up pumped bottle helping us get through. Again, she was older but an idea.

@pachamama: to be honest, I did let my second sleep on his tummy because it worked so well and he rolled early (but I did it before then too) ... hopefully you will get rolling soon and he can do it himself! But if you’re going to back sleep at night maybe try it during the day in the method above and see if you can get it then? Mine were all 3 just really different sleepers and I did different things with each so definitely experiment.

There's a facebook group called respectful sleep training/learning that I found really helpful (and non-judgmental)