We have been so incredibly fortunate with our childcare situation so far. We worked with an agency and LO is watched by a woman who lives about 5 minutes from our house and so far, he is the only child there.

She is extremely loving and is always telling me how "attached" she and her family are to him. I can tell how much they care for him and, for us, this is a better alternative right now to a daycare center.

My concern (not sure if it should be) is that her husband, who also seems to love our son and plays with him a lot, does this very strange thing , from my perspective, with LO. He often works from home and is usually there when I come to pick LO at the end of the day. In playing with our son, he tries to get a reaction by pushing his hand very close to LO's face quickly and then stopping short to try to "scare" the baby. He does it when I am there and it actually frightens me, so I can't imagine that it does not frighten LO. LO usually smiles and laughs, but when I saw the husband do this last night, it made me extremely angry and sad. I said "I think you're scaring him" and the husband said that he was "just playing."

I know I should have spoken up more but I did not, and now I am not sure how to handle my discomfort with this. I would like to bring it up to the caregiver, but I am nervous that I will offend her and that she will think I am doubting her care for LO. I know that my comfort and LO's safety and well-being are the only important things here, but I feel like I need to tread lightly. I tend not to confront people and just assume that things will get better, but with LO involved, I just can't do that.

What would you do?