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@Foodnerd81: great suggestion. I agree individual texts is just as easy/personal as a group text. And I don’t love group texts.

Congratulations! I would just... not tell her, and not make an announcement. You can tell the positive people in your life individually, and she will either hear from one of them eventually, or figure it out when she sees you with a bump. I guess she could claim you're being a stranger, or inconsiderate, or something, but in your shoes I'd put my mental health before the feelings of someone who's likely to dump a ton of negativity all over me.

Agree with @ttcgirl: @Foodnerd81: separate text messages.

Since your LOs will be arriving around the same time you can keep it focused on #cousinlove.

@Pollywog: I like that suggestion.

Especially since this is her first pregnancy. And first time moms tend to be into the attention aspect of things.

I can speak from her perspective, actually. After years of infertility, I finally got pregnant (also with twins, in fact). Then, FOUR of my friends got pregnant and 6 babies were born within 6 weeks. It was great... eventually. I did have the, "Oh, c'mon!" feeling even though I knew it was selfish. Knowing that it is a selfish feeling does not make the feeling go away. Text her the news, and give her the dignity of being able to react as she feels fit privately.

@Stardust17: I'm not sure if this will help, but my story is similar to yours. My bill had his first child about 11 years after he first wanted one. It took a long journey for him to get a child, including miscarriages and relationship trouble. I know there were times he was jealous when a new niece or nephew was on the way.

We had a shorter journey, but there was definitely jealousy when we announced (and sympathy when we lost the baby). We knew they were trying and it would be rough for them. They were in the same boat telling us they were expecting 3 months later. Our sticky babies who were born two weeks apart. There was worry over it being a competition, but it was fine. We refused to compare pregnancies or kids.

Having kids close in age has been so wonderful. And when they announced their second was due 3 weeks after our second, all we could do is laugh. Any jealousy is long gone. My advice is to take the long view, it's awesome having another pregnant person to be sober with at family events and having built in playmates makes family get togethers much more fun for the kids.

And congratulations! It's been such a long road for you. I'm so excited you have a sticky baby and you have nieces/nephews on the way