my husband and I are still "newlyweds" we've been married for about a year and 1/2 and have lived together for over 3 years. We don't have kids yet but the plan is to start trying in october. We have a dog. Currently I work outside the home 40+ hours a week plus i have a part time job two nights a week and on saturdays (an additional 16 hours a week) Husband's company is in the process of moving offices and he's been working out of our house since december (fingers crossed he's back in the office in June)

The issue has been dividing up chores and household responsibilities. I feel that since I work outside of the house and more than him he should do more around the house during the day. Things like laundry, loading the dishwasher, picking up after himself, walking the dog. And while i understand that he still has to work 8 hours a day, he no longer has to commute. He's never aware of the things that need to be done, and if i ask him to do things I often get home and find them not done and his response is "i forgot" but he had plenty of time to watch the netflix movie that came in the mail. He does do things around the house but they are often not what I feel is a priority. (washing his car, filling the holes the dog dug, etc). I can't even trust him to lock up the house at night. Twice this week I went to bed early and came down in the morning to find doors left unlocked.

Then we fight about it. I voice my feelings that I'm hurt that he doesn't make our home, dog, my feelings a priority and instead of apologizing and amending his behavior he gets upset with me. Then I feel guilty and eventually let him off the hook. It doesn't fix the issue and a week or two goes by and we relive this cycle. I feel like I'm turning into his parent. I'm seriously reconsidering our decision to TTC because I look in my crystal ball and see my husband sitting on the couch while i take care of the house the dog and the kid all while working full time.

Does Petsmart offer a husband training class?
Sorry for the long rant... but I can't figure out how to make him want to help me and understand why keeping house is important. I feel like i have to do everything myself because I can't trust him to do things i ask him to do.

Any Advice?