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@grizz: My best friend did that with both of our Godson's. It was totally their decision and while I would have loved to have known, it wasn't my choice! She said by the end of her pregnancy it was actually kind of fun for her and her DH because they'd just say "Wouldn't you like to know?" and give a sly smile

Since we've been Team Green both times, I guess people are more accepting of the fact that not only do we not know the gender but we also don't want to discuss the names we have chosen for our children. They'll find out when we know what we're having. Although I had some insistent friends ask, saying 'We won't tell anyone!' Right. No, not happening, but I love you anyways!

We have been saying we don't know yet... It's easier that way! People haven't been bugging.

I don't feel guilty at all telling people it is a secret. It is driving my family (not my parents) crazy. It has been super entertaining listening to people guess and them trying to gauge my reaction.

I just tell people we have a few names and will decide when the baby is here, even thought I am pretty set on one of the names.

Ultimately we ended up telling people but not until very close to delivery. If people would ask I would originally say that we had c a couple options but weren't sharing.

We don't have a name yet, but when we do, we don't' intend to tell anyone. I will just keep saying we aren't sure yet. I don't feel guilt about that - it's no one's business but ours.

We didn't even share our short list (for either sex) until after DS was born. Whenever anyone asked what we were planning on naming LO we responded with that person's name: For instance, my stepmom is Connie and my dad is Jon. When Connie would ask, I would respond "We've decided on Connie if it's a girl and Jon if it's a boy" with a wink and a smile. We'd get some good-natured eye rolling, but most people usually dropped it (except for my stepmom, but I didn't expect any different from her).

I've been saying we don't know-- which is true-- we have a girl name picked out but are really up in the air on boys. I'll just say we've been talking about it but can't come up with anything, and no one has pressed it. But DH was at a work dinner the other night and people asked and he said we had some names picked out but weren't sharing-- oh wait, my wife told me not to say that, she told me I'm supposed to say we don't know! Luckily everyone got a good laugh and they weren't offended.

The first time someone told me they weren't sharing, I wasn't offended but a little surprised at first, but then it made sense to me. After that, I'll say something like, have you guys talked about names? Are you sharing them? I've had a few people say they had ideas but weren't sharing and I totally get it now.

We really didn't decide until LO was born, but we wouldn't even share our short list. I only told people names we vetoed. My dad was SO rude about one of the names I told him we had decided not to use, it really cemented my decision not to tell anyone even if we did decide.

Seems like it's really common not to tell people what the name is going to be, so I just accept it. I actually don't ask people anymore. I just let them say something if they want.

We had a name picked out for such a long time before our daughter was born and we kept it just between my husband and I. We just told people (and family) that we wanted SOMETHING to be a surprise when she was born! They eventually got over it, but certainly not without some nagging.

We had no problem. We just said there are so few surprises in this world that we wanted the name to be one of them... sometimes we also said that we were waiting to see our girls before we 100% confirmed their names. Everyone understood for the most part.