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@FarmWifeGina: haha don't apologize! I love what you wrote because sadly so many of the conservative families I knew growing up never broke that mold. They do believe women should be homemakers yet they aren't meeting men and they aren't learning to be independent and responsible in a healthy way. I think there is a healthy medium if you wish to shelter your children yet also encourage them to make a difference in their world. Idk of this was your experience but being a Christian homeschooler the point of being sheltered was to be more Godly- but in my opinion the call of a Christian is to be a light in the world and a positive influence on others and they can't do that by being home all the time. Don't even get me started on girls bing discouraged to be educated or independent. Haha I could go on for awhile. So I'm hijacking my own thread lol
@.twist.: for me too I definitely wanted to rebel. But unlike farmwife, I was pretty equally sheltered and "exposed to the world" as the majority of my friends were in public school. In many ways I did rebel but I did respect my parents too much to blatantly go against them. I knew that they were just trying to do what they believed was best and they loved me for sure. -
1. I have never seen the Godfather.
2. I have never been overseas.
3. I have never been around anyone who used drugs.
4. I have never learned to drive a stick. -
1. I've never been out of the country.
2. I've never broken a bone.
3. I've never lived alone.
4. I've never been with anyone besides DH (we'd both been on a couple of dates but we'd never been official or even kissed anyone before). -
I have never...
1. Lived alone
2. Broken a bone
3. Bought a car (DH gave me mine!)
4. eaten a Hostess product (twinkies, etc) -
@BelugaBean: awww!! cute
I've never slept with someone other than DH either... but I have kissed other boys..
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@FarmWifeGina: @Mrs. Pen: haha I'm also sorry for kinda hijacking!! Thanks ladies so much for expanding. I didn't realize any of that. I was sheltered but definitely not in the same way. Your stories are pretty eye opening.
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@.twist.: generally I try to stay quiet because when people realize that I was "sheltered" they view it as bad parenting... even on HB!! so thanks for understanding and not criticising
whether or not I agree with my childhood is irrelevant... I adore my parents and don't fault them for anything because I know in their heart of hearts they were doing what they believed to be best. And that is hardly ever wrong (oh and for the record I don't disagree with how I was raised or view my parents as wrong at all -
@Mrs. Pen: I find it hard to criticize with so many different parenting styles out there. Also, as you said, your parents did it in your best interest and out of love for you and that's what matters. I try hard not to judge even if it's not how I would necessarily do things. I just have a curiosity about other ways of life and I really enjoy hearing about them.
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These are so fun! Macarons arent really like whoopie pies, they are a bit crunchy as you first bite and get softer as you keep biting and then the filing is a little bit sticky. They are so so delicious!! Definitely order some as a treat for yourself
I have never...
1. Lived alone
2. Baked a cake
3. Seen the pacific ocean
4. Been to a tanning bed -
Broken a bone
Been to one of the Disney theme parks
Colored my hair -
@Dandelion: girl I think you deserve to go out for a nice Indian dinner and to buy some clothes!!
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I have never:
1. broken a bone
2. had surgery
3. taken a shot (that wasn't mostly juice)
4. slept with anyone other than hubby -
@Mrs. Pen: I totally meant I've never been anyone else's girlfriend/wife but that's true too. : )
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@Mrs. Pen: @.twist.: Yeeeeeeaaaah, I haven't been able to be that gracious towards my parents yet. Yeah, I know that in a however misguided way, they felt they were doing the right thing, there was a lot of fear in their decision-making. And there were abuse issues beyond the homeschooling thing, but that was definitely extension of those issues. And I know that this life is not all that matters, from a Christian perspective, but God did give us a life to enjoy, there's certain things, such as my teen years, that I'll never get back. And other things were their responsibility. I have a pretty dreadful education because they didn't care about your basic readin', writin', 'rithmetic. And when I left home at 17, almost 18, I literally had the social skills of a 13-year-old. I was always told that I had siblings, I didn't need other friends. I'm still catching up socially, I used to have horrible, horrible social anxiety, sometimes still do, although I know better how to cover it now. And one of these days I'll have to sit my mommy brain down and study for my GED, which I totally should have done before I had had kids, before I got married, but, yeah, I was pretty messed up back then. Anyways, yeah, I guess I'm still not over my rebellious teenage thoughts, lol. I wouldn't say I'm bitter, although I'm sure certain people would use that word, I'm just still learning to live in the real world, although the way I was raised doesn't define how I live now. And there's probably facets of my personality that I wouldn't have if I hadn't been homeschooled. It's probably why I walk to the beat of my own obnoxious drum, lol.
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@FarmWifeGina: oh my gosh I'm so sorry. That is such a difficult situation and I totally understand how it would be hard even seven years later to let go of all of that. I take it your parents still believe they were 100% right? It's really sad that there have to be stories like yours that taint the rest of those who homeschool; because it really can be such a beautiful and positive experience for the right family! I'd never say it's for everyone, but done correctly it can be so beneficial in all areas of life.
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@Mrs. Pen: Oh, yes, I COMPLETELY agree with you! I think if done well, it can be one of the best things you could ever do for your kids! The problem comes when you only do it for "character", aka, sheltering reasons, rather than because you know you can give your kids a better education.
It will depend on the kid as to how we school them. Probably kindy and the first few grades (until they know how to read with some comprehension) at the local public school (small, rural, conservative- pretty much as tame and unscary as you can get for a public school, lol) and then, depending on the kid and their style, maybe some homeschooling for the rest of elementary and middle school. I would reeeeeeeeally like them to attend public high school and get a real, official diploma. I've been to our local, small town high school commencement ceremonies and dammit, I want them to have that chance to walk and to have the whole town show up to recognize their achievement. But, we'll see...
ETA: I know that my experience isn't that of the majority of homeschoolers, but there is a percentage of us and the stereotypes don't exist for no reason.
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@FarmWifeGina: our little school district sounds positively charming!!! When my older siblings were little (I was a baby), we lived in northern rural Minnesota in a town of less than maybe 500 people! The school district was amazing and they encouraged parents to volunteer and be a part of he school day. My mom loved it. Then when my dad couldn't find work up there they moved down to where we all love now and the district is horrible. I mean not all bad but compared to what they had, she was so disappointed and that's why she took them out of school... So I never even had the opportunity to go to school. Anyway all that to say in a district like that- public school sounds like a really amazing set up!
I know that I personally don't have patience to teach which is why I hesitate on whether I'd be able to homeschool or not. But my husband does have the patience. He is a teacher actually! I do know that if we send J to public school, we're definitely moving somewhere else before he starts kindergarten. It's such a hard decision isn't it! I totally agree that it also really depends on the type of child. I liked homeschooling up until high school and then hated and really struggled with it. But my little brothers LOVE it and have no desire whatsoever to attend school.
I love that you're so open to whatever
it's a great attitude to have.PS I still do get sad too about missing all those fun high school memories of school dances, homecoming, graduation etc. it's definitely an element homeschooling can't give you.
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@Mrs. Pen: Yeah, it's a pretty small town of less than 1,200, I think. The whole school, all the grades, averages less than 130 kids. I think the graduating class is maybe 12 this year? So, yeah, pretty tiny. And everyone has to be involved in everything or you don't get to complain about how things are done, lol. But really, it's one of the foundations of the community. Everyone is involved, one way or another, and school fundraisers and concerts are pretty big social events in the calendar year. Of course, it's a small enough town where EVERYONE goes to the home football games, whether you have kids in school or not, because there's nothing else to do on a Friday night, lol- unless you're still harvesting, of course. But, if we do decide to do some homeschooling, our school district is also pretty good about working with homeschooling families who want their kids to be involved in certain classes or extracurriculars. We don't really have any private school options, but I feel pretty good about what we do have. I just have to get my GED to be able to legally homeschool here. I don't think I'm real great teacher material either, for multiple reasons, which is partly why they'll have to go to school until they can read because, OMG, I do not have the patience to teach something like that. They'll have to be able do some work on their own, read the instructions, etc. IF I'm going to do it. If it's just one or two kids and a good curriculum, I'm more confident if my abilities than if I had 5 in various grades and then another 5 kids under 5 years of age or something insane like that. Ufftah.
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I have never ~
1 - Bought a brand new car
2 - Been skiing or snowboarding or snowmobiling (and I live in Oregon and lived in Alaska, boo!)
3 - Learned to drive a stick shift car/truck
4 - Eaten sushi -
I have never
1- Fully learned to drive stick shift
2- Run more than 4 miles
3- Belonged to a gym
(wow, this sounds like I'm exercise-phobic, which is far from the truth!)
4- Been to Asia, Africa, or Australia
5- Watched the show "Here Comes Honey Boo Boo", even though sometimes people ask me if I named my daughter after that child. -- The answer is NO, of course not!! -
1. Held hands with, dated, kissed, or slept with any other guys than my husband.
2. Eaten a Twinkie (or any kind of pre-packaged processed treat)
3. Had Chickenpox
4. Drank alcohol of any type (although I do cook with it) or smoked. -
I've never...
1. drank alcohol or smoked
2. lived (or slept with) anyone other than DH
3. eaten orange cheese
4. had chicken pox
5. skied or snowboarded. I'd never even seen snow until Christmas 2010 -
I have never.
Spent the night at my in-laws
Gone to a regular elementary or middle school (another homeschooler here)
Flown first class
Been to Florida
Eaten lobster or mussels or clams (do u eat those?) or oysters
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I have never:
1. Broken a bone
2. Been stung by a bee
3. Watched or read Harry Potter
4. Watched or read Twilight
5. Read the Fifty Shades of Grey series
6. Learned to drive stick -
This is fun!
I've never:
- been to either of the Disney theme parks (and I grew up in California)
- seen any of The Godfather movies
- traveled to a tropical place
- planted anything other than the bean sprout in a Dixie cup in kindergarten -
This thread is making me realize what a world traveling, stick shift driving, dirty slut with a taste for macaroons I am!
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@Rainbow Sprinkles: Come to Florida and visit!
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I have never:
- Visited Alaska
- Done any drugs (weed, etc)
- Flown in a helicopter
- Scuba diving -
I have never:
-done a cartwheel (just can't get it)
-performed in a recital
-visited a psychic
-played craps (though it looks like fun) -
1) had the chickenpox
2) lived alone (I did have a single for a semester in college but that doesn't count)
3) forgotten tramstic events of my past...they often haunt me
4) had a job that I adore besides being a mommy -
@Mrs. Fox: HAHAHAHA! I agree, although I can't drive stick
-I have never skied
-I have never been stung by a bee
-I have never eaten octopus
-I have never been snorkelingETA: My husband thinks it's crazy that I've never had a nosebleed
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1. had chickenpox
2. seen Star Wars (I'm so glad I'm not alone in this!)
3. lived alone
4. had health insurance through my employer (random, but I'm so jealous of those that do!) -
@Mrs. Fox: Haha!
I have never:
- been skiing (in the snow or on the water)
- had surgery
- broken a bone
- been a bridesmaid -
I have never Watched Friends!
I can't think of anything else.
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I have never
1) Lived alone
2) Done drugs
3) Flown first class
4) Been pregnant! -
I have never:
- fed a baby until mine
- been to a pop/rock concert
- smoked and/or tried any recreational drugs
- been a flower girl -
I have never:
Done any drugs
Seen Gone With the Wind or Casablanca
Had a puppy
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@Mrs. Fox: there aren't enough of us out there! ;P
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haha this thread cracks me up! FYI, in case anyone is wondering, a macaron is kinda crispy on the outside, chewy and filling on the inside...pretty good! Not cakey like a whoopie pie per-say....definitely a one of a kind thing!
afm: I've never
-tried skiing (snowboarding yes, one time. I sucked.)
-had my belly button pierced.
-Owned a cat.
- Had a wart. -
@Mrs. Fox: here here! lol!!!!!
I have never:
1. Traveled anywhere solo
2. Seen any of The Hangover movies.... and now I've gone to far so I think they'll stink
3. Had a one night stand
4. Been to the West Coast
I've never slept with someone other than DH either... but I have kissed other boys..
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