I'm at the park alone with DD and I was feeding her laying down on a blanket, mostly covered and this disgusting guy rode by on a bike and said "What's up homegirl?" What the f is wrong with people?
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... I don't know if "what's up" counts as cat calling. If he'd have said "me next!" that would've been rage-worthy lol
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@Mae: Well whatever the definition of catcalling is I definitely felt violated and it was definitely creepy.
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Meh. Sorry you felt harassed, but I'm not sure his words were meant to come across that way - they seem pretty benign. Hopefully he just came off poorly and was just trying to be funny.
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@coopsmama: It certainly didn't seem like just a friendly greeting. If I did not have my boob out, sure, no big deal, but I feel uncomfortable as it is and that didn't make feel any better. Don't get me wrong, it's not the like worst thing that's ever happened to me, just gave me the creeps. And I don't get the joke if he was trying to be funny.
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@MrsHansen82: I consider that kinda stuff catcalling. It reminds me of this video; http://m.csmonitor.com/USA/USA-Update/2014/1030/Catcall-video-reaction-Is-hello-in-the-street-sexual-harassment-video
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@jedeve: Yes exactly, he would have never said anything if I was with DH or if I was a guy with a baby. It's the motive behind the words.
I didn't feel in danger, but I certainly didn't want to bothered like that while I was trying to enjoy a day at the park with my daughter.
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@MrsHansen82: Urgh sorry you had to deal with thst. I would of reacted the same way.
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I would have felt harassed too. That's awful. I'm sorry you had to deal with that.
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I would have been weirded out too!
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@Mae: agree! If I was offended by every "what's up girl?" type of interaction I had, my days would be very stressful
I've had guys say truly disgusting things to me, even when I'm with my child.And at least he just rode by and didn't stick around....I've been followed/cornered by creepy guys and THAT is totally horrible
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@MrsHansen82: that would have upset me as well. Something about being exposed makes me feel very vulnerable. Even with things I'd normally brush off.
I'm quite confident breastfeeding in public but honestly without my husband there I feel less so because idiots like that are more likely to comment.
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@Mae: LOL!!!
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@MrsHansen82: I'm sorry it bothered you
I just feel like there are so many assholes in the world I sort of choose to be amused by the poor manners of others unless it is really bad... otherwise I'd spend an awful lot of time being pissed off haha. Also is it at all possible he didn't even notice you were breastfeeding? If he was on a bike and you were laying down/mostly covered he could've just thought you were a hot girl sunbathing. People see/say weird things. When my LO was tiny I was wearing her at a ring sling at target and some lady chased me through the parking lot to get my attention and ask me why I was wearing a stuffed dog strapped to my chest....? I turned around and she was like "oh. It's a baby. I thought it was a stuffed dog." ....? people man lol
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@Mae: that's what I was thinking. That he didn't realize...
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I might not have felt harassed but I def would rather be left alone... I def see how you would've felt violated, whether he realized what you were doing or not! BF is such a vulnerable moment!
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On the topic of vulnerability, I do think that nursing while laying down is a particularly vulnerable position and not something I ever chose to do in public.
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@hotchildinthecity: @Mae: @travellingbee: Even though LO was mostly covered, it was quite obvious what we were doing. Not to mention there was a stroller there so he knew I was with my child for sure. I expect to be treated better as a woman. Again, not saying it was the most disgusting thing ever said to me, but it was incredibly disrespectful and clearly shows he was taking advantage of my vulnerability whether he realized my boob was out or not. Perhaps you had to be there to understand.
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@MrsHansen82: I didn't mean to argue with your feelings! I just wondered if he could tell you were nursing. Just clarification!
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Lol!!!!
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Yeah. I'd put this in the "Annoying but not worth getting worked up over" category. Especially since there's nothing you can do about it. Just roll your eyes and ignore him. But don't let it get to you or make you more self conscious about breastfeeding.
I've had guys say truly disgusting things to me, even when I'm with my child.
I just feel like there are so many assholes in the world I sort of choose to be amused by the poor manners of others unless it is really bad... otherwise I'd spend an awful lot of time being pissed off haha. Also is it at all possible he didn't even notice you were breastfeeding? If he was on a bike and you were laying down/mostly covered he could've just thought you were a hot girl sunbathing. People see/say weird things. When my LO was tiny I was wearing her at a ring sling at target and some lady chased me through the parking lot to get my attention and ask me why I was wearing a stuffed dog strapped to my chest....? I turned around and she was like "oh. It's a baby. I thought it was a stuffed dog." ....? people man lol
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