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My cat is a biter. It can be annoying but he only does it when he wants to get our attention to play (like in the middle of the night).

Please try to remember that he's probably really sad that he's been replaced. As you said, he was the center of attention before your baby came along and you treated him like your child. I imagine it's tough for the little guy to go from being loved in that capacity to being a burden and ignored.

It always makes me sad for pets when their owners have children and basically stop caring about them. I'm not saying that's the case here but it happens all the time.

i empathize. I have two cats and one of them in particular was my BABY before my baby came along. I used to even love her smell which people thought i was weird for. Now i find she just smells like... a cat.... I don't have the same issues as you since DH takes the time to still give the cats lots of attention. But i get how your feelings change when you have the baby.....another one of those things people warned me about when i was pregnant but refused to believe!

I feel the same way about our dog. She feels so neglected ! I keep telling myself it will get better, hopefully

This was tough for us. Our two dogs were basically our children until we had human babies (haha). Now they are just dogs. It has been a tough transition for all, but they do have each other and they haven't acted out too much. They have their own space in our house (a large gate-enclosed area in our kitchen where their dog bed and food/water are) and they are always in that space during the day while we are at work, ever since we got them. So if they're ever in the way or we can't pay attention to them, we put them in there and they have to stay there until we can pay attention to them. We call post-baby-bedtime "puppytime" in our house.

They used to sleep in our bed every now and then, but they are highly shedding and the dust upstairs got to be too much, so now they sleep downstairs every night.

I do feel bad like they are being neglected sometimes, but the lesson we've learned is that they're dogs, not humans, and human babies just need more attention. If my dogs were crying and screaming I'd obviously tend to them first. But they're content and happy to just lounge in their space or on the couch until after the kids go to bed. And now that our kids are a little older, it is awesome seeing the interaction and teaching our kids how to handle animals.

Our dogs are very well trained and disciplined... neither of them have bit me on purpose (sometimes I get a nip when they're taking a treat out of my hand or something) but if either of them did, I'd probably punt them across the room. That sounds harsh but that's just unacceptable!! Just as unacceptable as an older child biting!! Both of them nipped as puppies but have learned not to bite. So if they bit now, that's a definite no-no.

Ok, "punt them across the room" is a bit much. I'd probably push them away quickly, and since they're both small (5 lbs and 11 lbs) they go pretty far when you push them!

Before we had kids, our dogs were our babies. We spent so much time keeping them clean daily (ie. wiping them down after they pee'd or pooped) and they slept with us on the bed. While pregnant, I vowed never to be one of those who neglects their fur babies after human babies.

Well...we have since then given one dog away, and the other one is lucky if we remember to put the food down.

Time has changed.