What infertility topics would you like to see more posts about?
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I'd like to know more about how to help/talk to people with infertility. I have a good number of friends going through it and I'd like to know how to be there for them, if they want me to. I also have a friend going through secondary infertility. She had no problems getting pregnant the first time but now they've been struggling. That would be good to learn about.
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@artbee: thank you! I appreciate the feedback.
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How about infertility costs around the world? I know even state to state in the US it can vary so much, and to be honest, I have no idea what is covered and what isn't in other countries. Might be an interesting topic. (I know we at least have one IF girl in Switzerland
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@Mrs. Polish: I'm not sure how to address or even if you would want to but the impact that IF can have on your marriage, both positive and negative. The only other thing that is top of mind for me now is making the decision to take a break from treatment for a period of time... it usually means that the ultimate goal (a BFP) is farther away but can be good for your soul
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@shutterbug: Great idea. I know I talked to someone in Idaho and her costs were unbelievably lower than mine. I wonder what the determining factor is. I'll try to find out.
@Mrswin: Great ideas. Taking a break can be so hard, but necessary at the same time. Thank you!
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Something I'm dealing with big time is jealousy. It makes me feel like such a sh1t, but the first thing I feel when i see other ppls pregnancy announcements are jealousy. I feel hurt, like it's unfair, etc. Esp if they already have kids, got pregnant easily, or got married after DH and I.
Terrible right? I can't help it though. It makes me so sad
Hope I'm not offending anyone
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@TheSwissWifeStyle: I know how you feel. I struggle with jealousy ALL THE TIME. Friends of ours are pregnant with their first. My friend, the wife, also has PCOS (like me) and she's the only person I know IRL who has it. It took me four years to get pregnant, and we needed fertility treatments. They got pregnant on their first cycle off bcp.
Even my husband admitted he was jealous, and that's huge.
I got another BFN over the weekend and spent most of it sad and wondering why. It doesn't seem fair.
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@theswisswifestyle i hear you on struggling to deal with thoughts of jealousy for sure! it is so hard to try and put those thoughts out of your mind and just be happy for others who have what you are trying so hard for.
@mrs.polish i'd like to see more posts about just coping and being strong thru the process and just staying positive.
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I think a post that focuses on the difficulties that IF couples deal with - financial, emotional, physical, mental - from both points of view (women & men) would be good. And maybe a little suggestion, or advice from those who have found ways to cope with each of those aspects. I think it can be the hardest thing, that infertility tests you on so many levels, making it even more overwhelming, on top of just trying to live your life.
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You may have addresses it already, but I'm coming to realize that the moment where you know,outright, that something isn't right is super, super hard. My doctor used the word "infertility" for the first time, and it was really hard. I hope I'm not offending anyone. It's just, no one ever expects it to be them, you know?
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@sweetooth: yes on living your life! I feel like, am I even allowed to? What does it even look like, when all I want to do is focus on a baby? But of course, to not do so makes everyone NUTS, but still, it is hard!
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@Mrs. Jump Rope: @littleredhairedgrl: Good to know this is normal, and I'm not just an awful person!
It's so hard, I can't even put it into words!
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@TheSwissWifeStyle: @Mrs. Jump Rope: @littleredhairedgrl: Yup, the jealousy is horrible. I see it everywhere. I'm taking a break, too, so I'm not even TTC. Sometimes I'm at peace not having to deal with the stress of the TWW and POAS but sometimes I'm just so jealous. Jealous that I'm not pregnant yet. Jealous that I didnt get pregnant in the 15 months that we tried for. I've even taken it the next step... I'm a little bitter about it, too. I still feel like a wet blanket everytime I post about IF. I would love to be positive all the time but I just can't. I could put on a fake smile but I would just be hiding my emotions to please people.
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@bluestriped bee: I hear you on the "hiding emotions to please people"...I got to a point in my infertility journey where people would reach out when they hadn't heard from me in a while. I responded to a few people indicating that I was going through some tough stuff and I needed to reach out to them when I made it through. But for now, I was going through something privately. It felt cryptic, but it was also exhausting to let everyone in on the reality of my life. I needed to shield myself from anymore insensitive/awkward comments from friends/family. I know they mean well, but after a while - silence was better than hearing one more "just relax" or "you still have time".
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